Ngaba uye wakha waziva ukuba uyamazi umntu iminyaka eyiwaka, nangona ngokwenene uyayibona okokuqala ebomini bakho? Le meko iqhelekile namhlanje. Uvakalelo apho luba luhle kwaye luzolile ngomntu, njengokungathi nguwe, kuphela komnye umntu, kuthetha ukuba imiphefumlo emibili yemveli idibene. Nangona kunjalo, abakhohlisi abakholelwa ekubeni khona. Ukubonakalisa okuchasene nomsebenzi wethu oyintloko.
Iingcamango Zomphefumlo Womculo
Kuthetha ntoni "umtshato womtshato"? Kukho ukucinga ukuba kulo mnye ngamnye umntu ukhangele abo baye babona kwelinye ihlabathi. Iziganeko zethu zangaphambili zifumanisa, kuba zinokuthi zinebhanki elithile elingagqibekanga okanye linye intsapho. Nangona kunjalo, akuzona zonke izazinzulu kunye neengcali eziqaphela ukuba imimoya yasekuhlaleni ikhona. Ukuqinisekiswa okuqhelekileyo kukuba ukukhanga, ukuqhuma ngokukhawuleza kwintswelo yothando kunye nentuthuzelo ngaphandle komntu akukho nje into efana nomfanekiso wabantu abaye badibana nabo ebomini. Kwingqondo, umsebenzi wememori kunye nemifanekiso, xa sele ihlanganiswe ngaphambili, sebenze. Yingakho umntu ongeyena mntu ubalaseleyo ubonakala engumhlobo omdala, kwaye siyaqonda ukuba umphefumlo wethu uphambi kwethu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akukho mntu unokuchazela indlela intlanganiso yabantu ababini abasondele ngayo emoyeni kwenzeka. Abanye abantu badibana nabo ngethuba, njengokungathi i-fate ngokwayo idibana nabo, kwaye abanye abazange baphumelele ukudibana nabathandekayo babo de kube sekupheleni kobomi babo. Kwenzeka ntoni, emva koko, ukudibana nomlingane womphefumlo? Ingaba oku kunokwenzeka ngokwenene?
Iingcali zenzululwazi zithi ukuzama ukufumana umntu osondelene nomoya kudla ukuhluleka. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo idibaniswe nezinye iingcamango eziphosakeleyo:
- Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba umoya wohlobo uya kufumaneka ngokwawo. Ngelo xesha, abantu bafuna abantu abasondeleyo emoyeni phakathi kwabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo, bengabhengezi ukuba ukukhangela kufuneka kuqale ngokwabo. Imiphefumlo evaliweyo isetyenziselwa ukutshintshana olunye lokuqonda kunye nomnqweno wokuqonda abanye. Oko kukuthi, ukuba umntu akahambelani nehlabathi lakhe langaphakathi, kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuba afumane into efanayo naye.
- Impazamo yesibini abantu abaninzi abayenzayo yinto enokuqiniseka ukuba umphefumlo okanye isiqingatha sesibini asiyi ndawo na ukuba badibana, baya kuhlala behlangene. Kodwa naluphi na ulwalamano, kwanona luhlobo oluhle kakhulu ekuqaleni, ngexesha, luya kutshintsha. Akukho nto imi. Kwaye abantu abasondeleyo emoyeni bathambekele ekutshintsheni baze babe neenjongo zabo. Ngako oko, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba kunokwenzeka ukugcina ubudlelwane kuphela ngokuhlakulela rhoqo ngokomoya, nokuphindaphinda ubuchule bomntu. Kwaye ngokuhlonela umbono kunye nomoya wobomi wesiqingatha sakho.
- Abantu abaninzi bayaqikelela ukuba banciphise isangqa sabo sentlalo, beqiniseka ukuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nolusondeleyo abukwazi ukugcinwa kunye nenani labantu ababaziyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenza oko kuvela ukuba ukuvuleka kunye nokulangazelela ukunxibelelana nabantu abaninzi banokwazi ukutyhila iingcamango zabo neemfuno zabo ezifihliweyo. Kancinci, unokufumana umlingane womphefumlo kulabo esasingalindelekanga kuwo.
Masibhale indlela yokufumana umlingane womphefumlo phakathi kwesihlwele samandulo kunye nabahlobo abatsha. Kufuneka sikhunjulwe ukuba sonke sizalwana kunye noodade ukususela ekuqaleni. Ngaphambi koThixo, sonke sinye. Masibe sisoloko sikwazi ukuvula, kwaye abaninzi abantu banokubangela ukulimala kabuhlungu. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukuvumela ukuba ufunde malunga nabo bajikeleze ngakumbi kunokuba kubonakala ngaphandle. Musa ukuvala kubantu, qiniseka kunye nabo bajikelezile, kwaye uya kufumana ukuba imimoya yohlobo ijikeleze yonke indawo.