Kubalulekile ukuba onke amabhinqa azi indlela yokuzithandayo, ngenxa yokuba intombazana engayikuzixabisa kwaye ayikwazi ukuziqhayisa ngokwabo akunakwenzeka ukufumana iqabane elimhlonelayo, ukwakha umsebenzi kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obuqilileyo kunye nabantwana bayo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzithanda wena umfazi?
Iingcali zengqondo zihlala zisitshela ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuphila ngokuvisisana nawe, ngaphandle koko, umntu uya kukhokelwa ngumbono womntu, ukwakha ubomi bakhe, kwaye akanakuvuyisa ngokwenene. I-Psychology inikeza impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokuwa nothando nomfazi, iingcali zithi kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Yenza uluhlu lweempawu zakho kwaye uhlale ulibona. Ngoko intombazana iya kukwazi ukugxininisa kwimilinganiselo yayo, kunokuba iphosakele, ingcinga okanye ingokoqobo.
- Ukuhlala uzenza izipho ezincinci, kungekhona ezibiza kakhulu, isenzo saso sihlala sikhumbula ukuba ufanelwe umvuzo kuphela oko ukhona, kungekhona ukufezekiswa okuthile.
- Zama ukucinga kwakhona ngeziphi iimeko ezenzeka ebomini bakho ukuze uqale uzive unamahloni. Le nto kunzima ukwenza ngokwakho, ngoko ke ukuba kunokwenzeka, qhagamshelana neengcali. Ewe, kwimeko apho awukwazi ukufumana isingcali sengqondo okanye ukuya kwiseseshoni yoqeqesho, unokuxoxa ngale ndlela nomthandayo, umzekelo, umhlobo. Kakade ke, oku akufani nokufumana ukubonisana ngongcali, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuphumeza umphumo.
- Qiniseka ukuba ufunda iincwadi kubasetyhini malunga nendlela yokuzithandayo, ukuhlaziywa okulungileyo kuhanjiswe kule mi sebenzi elandelayo - E. Mikhailov "Ndingowedwa", M. Litvak "Ukuba ufuna ukuvuyiswa," u-S. Mamontov
"Ubugcisa bokuzingca," uG. Moore "Zithande ngokwakho."
Omnye umbuzo obakhathazayo amadoda amaninzi indlela yokwenza umfazi azithande. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ngxaki i-psychologists iphendukela kubafana abangafuni ukunyamezela ukuhlaselwa ngumkhwenkwe wabo, ohlala engathembeli kuye ngenxa yokungaqiniseki. Ukuba le ntombazana ayifuni ukutshintsha imeko, kukho enye into, ihlala ixelela ukuncoma kwayo, izama ukwenza izinto ezimangalisayo kwaye ziyanqabisa imihla ngemihla ukuba zihle ngendlela efanelekileyo ngayo. Ngaphezulu, ngelanga, indoda engenakuncediswa yintombazana ayinakuyenza, kodwa ezi zinto zilula ziya kunceda ekuphuculeni imeko ukuba ibe ngcono.