Kubantu, ukuvakalelwa kobunikazi ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa ngumona omkhulu . Njengomthetho, umntu ojongene nalo, ufumana ulwaphulo lomntu othandekayo kunye nabani na umntu wesini esahlukileyo, akayinyamezeli xa inqaku luthando lufika kumntu ngaphandle kwakhe.
Ikhwele kunye nomoya wobunini
Akukho mfihlelo yokuba ingqiqo yobunini ubudlelwane ayizange yenze umntu abe nolonwabo. Njengomthetho, ngenxa yakhe, yena unobukhwele, kunye nomkhwele wakhe. Inzondo ingaba ngamadoda nabasetyhini kwaye ibonakala ngokuqhelekileyo iyafana efanayo:
- Umlingani okhweleyo ufuna ukulawula ukunxibelelana komntu othandekayo phezu kwefowuni nakwizonxibelelwano zentlalo;
- enomona ngalo lonke ixesha ezama ukufumana i-akhawunti apho kwaye kunye nesiqingatha sakhe siphi na;
- umntu onomona unqabela ukuthetha nabani na abahlobo bobulili obuhlukile;
- umntu ogqithiseleyo umona, udla ngokukhawuleza okanye ahlele "ukuhlola".
Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukunyamezela ukuba nobukho bomntu onomona obusondeleyo, abanye ulawulo olunjalo luya kuba buhlungu kakhulu. Akuyena wonke umntu okwazi ukunyamezela isimo sengqondo ngaye.
Ungayikhupha njani ingqalelo yobunini?
Ikhwele kunye nombono wobunini bunakho ukulungiswa. Oku kudinga lonke uluhlu lwamanyathelo:
- ukubandakanya kwimidlalo, ukubukeka, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kuwe , ukwazi - abantu abanjengawe baya kukuxabisa nabani na;
- vumelana nomlingane ongeke ukhohlisane, kwaye xa umntu ethandana nomnye, ngoko ke ukuqonda kufuneka kulandele ngokukhawuleza;
- Cacisa umlingane wakho lo mbandela kwaye ucele ukuba uncede - cinga igama elifunekayo lokubiza ukuba "uyabhalwa".
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ngombuzo wokuwina umgangatho wobunini, uye kumqeqeshi omhle onokufumana indlela efanelwe kwiiseshoni eziliqela.