Ngethuba lethu, ubukho bobudlelwane bemimandla kunye neentsapho ziyinyani apho abantu abaninzi bahlala khona. Kwade kwanele. Ngaba oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kude?
Inkqubela phambili yezesayensi kunye nezobuchwepheshe isinike uncedo olunamandla kakhulu ukuze sikwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obude ngempumelelo. Le ndlela yokuthutha ngokukhawuleza, kunye nokuthetha ngokukhawuleza kuthetha ukuba, ngokubhekiselele kuyo ukuba unxibelelane ngokusondeleyo - kude kube yilapho usondelene kunye nosapho.
Ukude kangakanani ubuhlobo obuthile buzalisekile, kuxhomekeke kuphela kubantu, zabo iimfuno kwezobuhlobo kunye nemigudu abazimisele ukuyenza.
Kwaye akusiyo nje intsapho kunye nokuba sele sele ikhona, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Intombazana ekhululekile efunayo isicatshulwa sayo, nayo, ayiyi kumaza ukwazi indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane ekude. Emva koko, le ngxaki iya kuba yinto echaphazelekayo yonke iminyaka, nangenxa yokuba ubudlelwane abukwazi ukuqhubeka kuphela kumgama ngenxa yemisebenzi ethile okanye isifundo, umzekelo, kodwa nokubandakanyeka ngale ndlela.
Umvelaphi wobudlelwane bobuqu ekude
Kuphela phakathi kwam bahlobo baninzi isibini esineziqabane ezidibeneyo kwiintanethi zentlalo, iiforam okanye izingosi zokuthandana kwi-intanethi. Mhlawumbi, ukufumana umphefumlo wakho kwi-intanethi yehlabathi ngoku kulula kunokuba ku-nightclub. Kwaye nangona kwenzeka ukuba uqhelane nendawo ekudlulayo, ukwazi i-akhawunti yakho yenkcazelo yakho kwinto ethi "Odnoklassniki" okanye "Udibaniselwano" inokuba yindlela ekhangayo ngakumbi kunomnxeba omdala. Emva koko, akukho mfihlo yokuba kunzima kwabanye abantu ukuba benze okokuqala ngcamango, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukumelana nomkhonto wabo ekunxibelelaneni!
Ngaloo nto inokuba ngumncinci wokunxibelelana kude. Ngokuqhelekileyo umfanekiso womntu kwinethwekhi ukhanyise ngakumbi kwaye unomtsalane kunokuba unene. Ukongezelela, xa sisebenzelana nomntu engekho, nathi siqala ukubonisa ezinye iimpawu, ukuzicingela, kunye nokunyaniseka kungadideka ngokungahambisani nokulindela kwethu.
Ewe, kuthetha ukuba ekugqibeleni sifike umntu ongenaye ongenakucingayo. Ngoku ngoku kusasa kwethu kuqala nge-sonorous signal ye-ICQ, kwaye ngokuhlwa kusiya emva kwe-Skype.
Indlela yokugcina ubudlelwane ekude kwaye uwasindise?
Ingaba kukho ithemba lolwalamano lwakho kumgama, kuphela ixesha eliza kubonisa. Emva koko, inkxaso yanobuphi ubudlelwane nomzamo, kunye kunye, nokuba kude-nangaphezulu. Amathuba aya kunyuka xa ukuhlukaniswa okwethutyana okanye kwikamva elibonakalayo uceba ukuhlangana kwakhona.
Ngokomgaqo, i-psychology yobudlelwane ekude kuyisikolo esihle sokumamela, ukuthembela kunye nokuhlonelana komnye nomnye.
Umgaqo oyintloko - ungasebenzisi i-ICQ okanye i-Skype ukuze ufumane ubuhlobo. Ngokuba wena yindlela yokuthetha ngokude, ukwabelana ngolwazi malunga nento ohlala kuyo, kunokuphefumula. Yakha izicwangciso ezidibeneyo, utshintshe konke okwenzekileyo ngosuku, olufanelekile ukunakwa okanye ukuhlekisa. Mamela oko kuthethwa kuwe, kwaye uqaphelisise impendulo kumagama akho - xa usebenza kude, kulula kakhulu ukukhumbula umzuzu xa umntu efuna ukuxhaswa kunye novelwano okanye ufumene into engalunganga. Into ephambili kukuba unxibelelwano lwemihla ngemihla alube luhlelekile kwaye aluyi kuba lubophelelo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina kunye nomdla wesondo omnye komnye, ngokokuba umda wothando awutshintshi ubuhlobo obulula. Mhlawumbi, bekungenxa yale njongo ukuba beza ngeekhamera zewebhu!
Uhambo oluqhelekileyo komnye nomnye, ngokuqinisekileyo, aluhlambulukanga, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane obude. Othandekayo, obuncinane ngokukhawuleza ehamba nawe ukutyelela, uya kubakhokelela kubantu, kwaye ufune ukufudumala umbhede wakho-ubuncinane ubuncinane kwiintombazana nganye. Iintlanganiso kuphela akufanele zenzeke. Ewe, inkumbulo yenza ubomi bethu bubonakale, kodwa umsebenzi ongabalulekanga kwimihla "efanayo" ingacasula bobabini ixesha elide!
Futhi musa ukuhlala kwiintlanganiso ukuya kwiintlanganiso! Ubomi obonwabisayo obukhokelayo, ngakumbi uya kuba nomdla kumthandi wakho. Ukongezelela, kuya kuba nexesha elingaphantsi leengcamango ezibuhlungu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akuyiyo yonke intlanano iya kudlula uvavanyo olunjalo. Kodwa ngubani na onitshele ukuba into eqinisekisa? Akunabo bonke abatshatileyo abanethuba lokubona imihla ngemihla baze bahlale phantsi kophahla olulodwa, bajika kwiintsapho ezintle ezinamava amaninzi. Okanye ngaba uyazikhusela ngandlela-thile ekukhohliseni? Ngaphandle.
Nithemba omnye nomnye, kholelwa ukuba uya kuphumelela, kwaye unakekele uthando lwakho!