Inzondelelo kunye nothando zihlala zihamba ngesandla, kwaye kuthatha umzamo omkhulu kunye nomonde ukuphula isangqa esichukumisayo kwaye uzuze ukuvisisana kobudlelwane. Kodwa njani ukukrazula umona? Ngaba kulula kangaka, njengokuba ezinye iinkolo zengqondo zikholelwa? Okokuqala, kufuneka ufumane apho esi siva khona. Yintoni ngokwenene umona? Kwiengqondo zanamhlanje, imfundiso kunye nomsebenzi weshwele inika ingqalelo enkulu kwaye kukho izizathu zezi. Inyaniso kukuba ngenxa yeshwele, ininzi imitshato iyatshatyalaliswa, kwaye ezininzi izenzo zobugebengu zenziwa. Kule ndlela kulandela ukuba umona ungumonakalo owonakalisayo, unobungozi kumntu onomona kunye nento enomona.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukunyamekela ukubonakalisa umona kufakwe ebuntwaneni, kwaye ukuqhubela phambili kobudlelwane bomntwana kunye nehlabathi elijikelezayo ngokuxhomekeka kuxhomekeke kuhambo olufanelekileyo lwabazali.
Indlela yokujongana nomona womntwana?
Ngomona womntwana, abazali bahlala behlangana xa omnye umntwana ebonakala kwintsapho. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando lomzali, kungabalulekanga kwaye kushiywe - yeso sizathu sokubonakala komona wesintu. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana akahlali ephazamisekile, abazali kufuneka bahlakulele iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha. Umona wabantwana ungabonakaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ngenxa yokuba ngabazali abanako ukuhlala bechanele ngokufanelekileyo imbangela yezifo ezingalindelekanga zeengqondo. Umntwana unokuba mnandi kumntakwabo okanye udade, kodwa ngelo xesha ukhale ebusuku, ungabi nongqondo kwaye uzame ukubamba umdla wabantu abadala abanama-pranks kunye nabangalunganga. Iphutha elifanayo labazali kukubonisa ukunganeliseki ngokuziphatha komntwana. Into efanelekileyo kukunyamekela inkwenkwe, mnike ixesha elide, umbonise uthando kunye nokunyamekela. Kunconywa ukuba uvelise abantwana ababenamagama amaninzi ahlukeneyo, ukucela umntwana omdala ukuba ancede ekunyamekeleni umntwana kunye naso sonke ixesha ukuze adumise izenzo zakhe. Kwintsapho nganye, abazali bafumana isisombululo sendlela yokujamelana nomona womntwana, into ephambili ayiyikuphosa umzuzu kwaye uncede umntwana ofunekayo ngexesha.
Umona womfana nentombazana
Ikhwele liqheleke ngakumbi ebusheni. Oku kubangelwa iingxaki zeengqondo ezivela ngexesha lokutshintsha. Iinkomfa, amava olutsha, isimo sengqondo esibucayi, konke oku kubangela ukubonakalisa umona. Abantu abancinci badla ngokungaqiniseki ngabo ngokwabo, ngenxa yoko bazama ukuzibhokoxa ngokuxhasa abasebekhulile. Ulwalamano phakathi kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana kule minyaka luhlala luphawulwe ngokubonakalisa ubuhlungu obunomona. Ukuze unqobe oku, amaqabane kufuneka ancedane omnye nomnye ulungelelaniso lweengxabano zangaphakathi, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyayinyamekela. Ukuba umona awubangelwa yimvakalelo yangaphakathi kodwa ngeemvakalelo ezifanelekileyo, ngoko umbuzo wokuthembela kunye nokuhlonelana kuyavela. Ukuba elinye iqabane alinelisekanga ngokubonakalisa iimvakalelo eziphathekayo, kwaye omnye umlingane akafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na, ngoko ulwalamano olunjalo luya kulahlwa. Ukuhlonipha kunye nokuthembela kuphela kunokunceda ukunqoba umona nokugcina ubudlelwane.
Ungalususa njani umona wexesha elidlulileyo?
Ngalo mboniso wobukhwele, ezininzi izibini zijongene nazo. Akunakwenzeka ukulwa nexesha elidlulileyo, kodwa kungekhona wonke umntu okwazi ukushiya kuwo wonke umntu. Ukuxela ngamava akho adlulileyo kungenakucetyiswa, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kubangela ukungqubana. Kodwa ukuba yonke into eyadlulileyo iphakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kuya kufuneka kwakhona umsebenzi omningi ukubuyisela ukuqonda nokuthembela. Enye indlela yokusombulula ingxaki kukunika iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zakho kumlingane ngendlela enokuba unomnqweno wokukhusela nokunceda. Kule meko, elidluleyo, okwangoku kwadlula isiqhwithi sobukhwele kunye nentukuthelo, iya kuba yinkinga evamile ekufuneka ixazululwe.
Indlela yokujongana nomona womntu?
Indoda enomona ibangele iqhubise iingxabano ezinempembelelo embi kwezobudlelwane. Ukuba umona ungenasisiseko, ngoko kufanelekile ukucinga ukuba iqabane liyakwazi ukujamelana nokubonakalisa ukungathembeki. Kodwa ukuba uthembele kwiimvakalelo zakho ngeqabane lakho, umbuzo uvame ukucelwa ukuba: "Uyakususa njani umona womyeni?". Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba zininzi iintlobo zomona:
- Umona wesimo senzeka xa usongelo lokulahlekelwa imeko ethile kwintsapho okanye kwiqela.
- Ukhwele olwenziweyo luyenzeka xa umntu ngokwakhe eneemfihlelo, kunye neengxakini ukuba umfazi ungathembekanga naye.
- Ubukhwele boTyrantical buvela kwiimpawu zobugovu, abanqwenela kubo bonke abadibanayo ukuba babone isikhundla sepropati yabo. Abantu abanjalo abanomona nje kuphela ngamaqabane, kodwa kunye nezinye izihlobo, abahlobo, abantwana. Umyeni onomhawu obonakaliswa yixolongo akunakwenzeka ukuba atshintshe, kuba akanakuvuma ukuba uyaphosisa.
- Abantu abangathembeki baxhalabele . Bazibona bengenakufanelekela uthando, ngoko ke bacinge ukuba abahlobo babo bacinga ngendlela efanayo.
Abantu abanobukhwele bakha iinjongo ngokwabo, kodwa ngoku koko le ngxaki ichaphazela iimvakalelo zeqabane. Ukuseka ubudlelwane, kubalulekile ukugcina oko kubangela ukuba umona okanye umfazi abe nomona. Musa ukukhuthaza imizamo yokusetyenziswa. Ubudlelwane kufuneka bakhelwe ngokuhlonelana, okungenakwenzeka ngaphandle kokwethemba.
Njani ukunqoba umona wesikhwele?
Okokuqala, ukuphumelela ukuthembela. Okwesibini, khangela ukuba i-satellite yakho ilungele ukuphulaphula kwaye uzama ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo. Kukho amaxesha apho umona uzuza uphawu lomntu, kwaye ke kunzima ukugcina ubudlelwane ngaphandle kooncedo lweengcali.
Abanobubele amadoda nabafazi abangaphezu kweyodwa baba ngamaqhawe emisebenzi yokukhathazeka kunye neengxaki, kunye neengcaphuno kunye neefririsms of jealousy, ezithethwa ngabantu abaninzi, zihlala zifanelekileyo kwiintsuku zethu. Inzondelelo iyavela kuwo wonke umntu, kwaye wonke umntu unquma ukuba le ntliziyo iya kuphulisa ubomi bakhe okanye iyisindise ekukhohliseni.