Ubomi bemihla ngemihla, sihlala sikhohliswa. Sizama ukufezekisa ubulungisa, ukucaphukisa, ukuphelelwa lithemba, amava ... Kodwa uninzi lwazo zonke iintlanzi zokungcatsha kwabantu abasondeleyo, abahlobo, abathandekayo - abo sithembayo, esingazilindelanga "ummese kumqolo." Ukungcatsha okukrakra kukuba ucinga umntu ukuba ngumhlobo olungileyo, kwaye ujika uYudas oyinyaniso. Sithetha ngokugqibeleleyo.
Intsingiselo yokukhohliswa ngokwezwi nezwi ithi "ukulwa nokholo." Imilinganiselo yokuziphatha engalunganga, ebonakaliswa ngamanyathelo okungahambi ngokuzikhethela, ukuphulwa kweembopheleleko ezicatshulwayo kunye nokukhohlisa ngamabomu ngethemba lomnye umntu. Umzekelo ngu:
- ukudukiswa komntu ukuwusebenzisa emva koko (ukukhohlisa ngothando, umzekelo);
- Kwakhona ukuphulwa ngamabomu isithembiso okanye ukuthula, ukunyaniseka okubangelwa ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu;
- ukunyeliswa, ukunyelisa okubhekiswe ngumona okanye inzondo;
- Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabasetyhini, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ubuqilima, umzekelo, zonke iintlobo zeentlanzi, ukuhleba, njl.
Igama elithi "umthengisi" lithatha intsingiselo enzulu, kunye namava amaninzi. Kodwa ngubani esibizwa ngokuba ngumrhwebi? Yaye njani ukuxhamla nomntu owayesithengile? Ngaba kunokwenzeka, ukuqonda nokuxolela?
Ubungqina bemifanekiso
Ngokuthethelekileyo, wabelana ngehlabathi lakho nalo mntu, wakha amathemba kunye nezicwangciso ezifanayo. Kodwa wabhubhisa konke oko ngokusebenza kwakhe. Ewe, le nto ayiyiyo mpazamo, inokuthi ixolelwe njalo kwaye "ingakhohliswa into enhle" ... Lo mntu wawasebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo isimo sakhe sengqondo esilungileyo kuye, ngokungahlaziyikiyo.
I-Perfidy isoloko ixhaphaza ngamandla onke umntu, ibangela imvakalelo eninzi, kuba, kwimeko apho, abantu abasondeleyo banikezela. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi iphosakele ukuba ukuba umrhwebi ufumane ubunzima obufanayo, kuya kuba lula kuwe. Ngenxa yoko, iingcamango ezahlukeneyo zokuziphindiselela (ezivela kwimpahla ukuya kwenyama) azinqabile. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokunyusa nje imeko. Umntu kule nkcazo naye uyongezela ukuba unetyala lokunyathela. Yingakho, zama ukuxolela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kuya kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomoya onzima. Akunakwenzeka ukuxolela ngokukhawuleza njengoko akunakwenzeka ukuphilisa isilonda esitsha ngokukhawuleza. Kuphela kwinqanaba lexesha, liqala ukukhupha ngaphandle, njengokuba intliziyo ingayi kuba yintlungu kuphela. Emva koko zama ukuxolela.
Kwaye kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba awukwazi ukubeka abantu abasondeleyo kwiimeko ezinjalo, xa kufuneka bakhethe phakathi kokunyaniseka kuwe kunye nokungcatsha. Sicinga kakubi xa sicinga ukuba abo basondele kuthi banyanzelekile kwaye bahlale bebophelelwe ukuba banikele into ethile kuthi ... Kubalulekile ukuqonda umgaqo owodwa olula ukukwazi ukubeka umntu kwisakhelo esinzima kwaye imithetho yokukhetha inquma ukukwazi ukwenza abahlobo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukugqiba kwangaphambili ukuba umntu othile uyakwazi ukuzithengisa? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuphawula ukutyekela kumntu osondeleyo? Akukho mpawu ekhethekileyo, ngelanga, umrhwebi akanalo. Eyona nto ibonakalayo, ukukwazi ukuva nokubona into ephambili, intuition ingakunceda. Umzekelo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umhlobo wakho ukhohlisile omnye umntu, akusiyo yonke into yokuba awuyi kulandela. Ukuba umthandi wakho "ubeka indondo" kumfazi wakhe, ukudibana nawe, akusiyo yonke into yokuba akayi kukukhohlisa kwikamva. Kubalulekile ukuziphulaphula, kuphela ngale ndlela unokumisela izinga lokuthembela kubantu abakujikelezile. Mamela ilizwi lakho langaphakathi kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uxolele abantu abasondeleyo ukungapheleli kwabo.