Ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo bubalulekileyo ekuhambisaneni kwintsapho kunye nokuchuma kwimiba yoshishini. Enyanisweni, ubomi bethu bonke bubandakanya ukusebenzisana nabantu abahlukeneyo. Kwiintsebenziswano zobuqu kunye nezoshishino, sibhekene nesidingo sokulungisa iingxabano, ukukhusela imbono yethu yokujonga, nokufezekisa into ethile. Yaye ziziphi iindlela ezisetyenziselwa ukusebenzisana nabanye, impumelelo ixhomekeke. Ukunikezelwa kwezinto ezili-10 eziphambili zobudlelwane obuphumeleleyo xa uthetha ngeentsapho, osebenza nabo okanye oqabane, unokuphepha ezininzi iingxabano, ufunde ukuqonda abanye kwaye uphumelele kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi.
1. Inhlonipho. Ukuhlonela abanye akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuzihlonela, kodwa ukuchasana kuyinyaniso - ngaphandle kokuhlonela abanye akunakwenzeka ukufunda indlela yokuzihlonela. Ukuhlonipha kukuqonda nokuqonda ukubaluleka kweemvakalelo, iiminqweno kunye neenjongo zabo kunye nabanye. Isidingo sokwamukelwa sisisusa esiyinqobo malunga nazo zonke izenzo. Nabani na ofunda ukuzithobela yena nabanye, baqaphele ukubaluleka kwabachasi, ngelixa beqonda ukubaluleka kwakhe, uya kuba nako ukubeka abantu kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ikhono lokuhlonela njengoko liya kukuvumela ukukhusela ingcamango yembono kunye nezigqibo ezingabangeli ukusabela okungalunganga kumaqabane.
2. Ukunyaniseka. Ulwalamano oluxabisekileyo nolomeleleyo alukwazi ukwakhelwa ngamanga - oku kwaziwa kuwo wonke umntu. Kodwa ukunyaniseka akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka ahlale exelela inyaniso. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba wonke umntu unenyaniso yakhe. Okwesibini, akusoloko kulungele ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho okanye iingcamango zakho. Ukunyaniseka kwabanye okanye kungekhona kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi, kodwa kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukuba uhlale unyanisekileyo kunye nawe. Musa ukuxoka, ungazami ukuba ngumnye umntu - oku kungenxa yesiseko kunye nawe nabanye.
3. Ukuqonda. Umzimba womntu ulungiswe ukuze sikwazi ukuva. Akudingeki ukuba sifunde oku, ukususela ebuntwaneni oku kuyingxenye ebalulekileyo yembono yethu. Kodwa bambalwa kuphela abanokuphulaphula. Kwaye, njengoko kuphawulwe ngabantu abaphumeleleyo, olu buchule luyingxenye yezinto eziphunyeziweyo. Ukuba awuyi kuzama ukuphulaphulela umnxibelelwano, awusoze wamqonda, kwaye ngoko, unxibelelwano aluyi kuzuza naliphi icala.
4. Ukulawula iimvakalelo. Ngaphandle kokuvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zichaphazele izigqibo nezenzo, iimpazamo ezininzi zinokuphetshwa. Ngamanye amaxesha iimpazamo ezinjalo zingadala i-career okanye ubudlelwane nabathandekayo. Ukulawula iimvakalelo kuyimfuneko kungekuphela nje ukwenzela ukuba ungalimazi abanye. Imvakalelo kaninzi ayivumeli ukuvavanya imeko ngokuchanekileyo, ukufumana indlela echanekileyo yokuphuma.
5. Ukungabikho kokugwetywa. Ukugxekwa kunye noloyiko lokugwetywa luphinde lube neengxabano. Kakade, asikwazi ukuvuma rhoqo izenzo okanye imicimbi, kuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokujonga kwakhe. Kodwa kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula ukuba yonke into inezizathu kunye neziphumo zayo. Cacisa imvume yakho okanye ukungavumi, ngokuqondisisa ezi zinto kunye nemiphumo, oku kuhluke ngokupheleleyo kunokuba ugxeke. Ukugxekwa kusoloko kukudala iimvakalelo ezimbi, ukuqonda izizathu kunye nemiphumo kwenza kube lula ukuphepha iimpazamo kwaye ubonise uluvo lwakho ngaphandle kokubangela ukungalunganga.
6. Ukuhlukana kwezenzo nobuntu. Lo mbandela udlala indima ebalulekileyo ekwakheni ubudlelwane. Ukungavumelekanga kwezenzo akufanele kube yeso sizathu sokuthuka komntu, nokuba ngumntwana wakho, othandekayo, usebenza naye okanye umdluli. Ikhono lokubonakalisa ukungathobeli, ngelixa lingahlaziyikanga kwaye lingasithuki, linye yezakhono ezibaluleke kakhulu zokwakha ubudlelwane obuphumeleleyo.
7. Ukufuna. Ukungabi nongqiqo kungabangela ukungqubuzana kunye nokwehluleka ebomini bakho. Kodwa ekusebenzisaneni okuvelisayo, kuyimfuneko ukuba babelane ngokukhawuleza kunye nabalingani, bagxininisekise ukuzaliseka kwezi mbopheleleko okanye iimeko. Imfuno kufuneka idibaniswe nobulumko - umntu akanako ukufuna ukuba akunakwenzeka, kodwa enye ayikwazi ukukhuthaza ukungasebenzi. Awukwazi ukuba umntu enze izinto ezingabathandi, kodwa kufuneka ufune ukuba uhlakulele. Ukunyanzelisa akuthethi ukuba ngumtyholi. Ukufuna ukuthetha kuthetha ukuhlakulela nokubanceda abanye.
8. Ikhono lokunciphisa. Ukungqinelana kuyisisombululo esifanelekileyo kumntu wonke. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo iqela elichaphazelekayo lizama ukugxininisa kwisigqibo, kungabonakali kwimfuno yomdlali. Oku kungakhokelela kwimpikiswano kunye nokuhlukana kobudlelwane. Kusoloko kuyimfuneko ukuvavanya imiphumo yokungabi nziswano kunye nemiphumo yesisombululo sokwehlisa.
9. Ikhono lokufumana ingcamango. Ukuze ufumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo kwimpikiswano okanye imeko engqubuzanayo, umntu kufuneka aqonde imbono yombhikishi. Kule meko kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko, eya kuyanelisa amanqabini omabini.
10. Ulungiso lwezombambano. Ukukwazi ukufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezichaseneyo kuye kuye kwacatshulwa njengenye yeempawu ezibalulekileyo kunoma yiphina indawo. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi le nto ayilona mgangatho ozalwe ngumntwana, kodwa ubuchule obuthola ngokusebenza ngokwakho. Zonke ezi zinto zikhankanywe apha ngasentla zikhoyo ziyisiseko sokusombulula iingxabano. Ukukwazi ukuxazulula iingxabano kuvulwa umnyango kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, ngokuthandana, kwimisebenzi, ekusebenzisaneni nabantwana, izalamane nabahlobo.