Abantu abaninzi bayazi ukuba ngaphambi kokuba i-phobia bonke abantu balingane, kwaye ubudala abukhathazeki. Kodwa kukholelwa ukuba ii-phobias zivame ukuvela kubantwana. Ngokukodwa bayothuswa ngoloyiko lobumnyama, kwaye igama lelobibi ayikho-phobia. Akunakwenzeka ukungavumelani nento yokuba phantse wonke umntwana wayejongene nesimo esinjalo sokwesaba ubumnyama, ngakumbi xa abazali bengekho ekhaya. Okufanayo kunokuba nakho ngexesha lomdlalo, xa abanye abantwana bevalela umhlobo wabo egumbini elimnyama. Kodwa kwakusengumntwana osekude, xa ukucinga kweemeko ezinjalo kungabonakali kakhulu. Iimeko zihluke kakhulu nelokuba ukwesaba ubumnyama akuzange kuphele kunye nobudala, kodwa kwanda kuphela. Ngaba zikhona iindlela zokunceda ukulahla ubumnyama obumnyama?
Izizathu ze-no-phobia
Izizathu eziphambili zokubonakala kwe-phobia, njengokwesaba ubumnyama, zi:
- ukoyika ukufa;
- uxinzelelo lweentlungu;
- imfuza:
- ukwesaba ulolo ;
- ukungazi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwesaba ukulondeka kunye nesimo sokungakhuseki kuvela kwabo bangakhange banakekelwe ngokwaneleyo ebuntwaneni, abaye baphoswa bodwa ekamelweni elimnyama okanye bathetha amabali ambi ukuba umntwana aye kulala. I-psyche yengane iyamkeleka ngakumbi kunabantu abadala, ngoko ke abantwana bayithatha ngokungathandekiyo iingongoma ze-monster ezihlala phantsi kombhede. Umntu omdala onobunzima be-phobia akayikwazi ukuba uloyiko lwakhe luvela phi, ucinga ukwesaba kwakhe ukuba ngumntwana kwaye uyisidenge. Ingqiqo engaziwayo kufuneka ibe namava phantse wonke umntu, ngokukhawuleza xa efumana kwindawo engaziwayo, ekubeni umntu akanalo mbono ebusuku. Ukuba ukuvakalelwa ngaloo nto kubangelwa ukuba imeko enobungozi yenzeke ebumnyameni, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba akukho nengozi kwaye akukho nto iya kwenza ingozi.