Umntu uhlukile kumntu. Akunabantu abafanayo, akukho "okuhle" okanye "abantu ababi". Nangona kunjalo, kuluntu ungasoloko uva into ethi "Into ephambili kukuba ngumntu olungileyo", okanye "Hayi, ube yindoda!". Yaye nokuba njani umntu olungileyo kunye nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu - xa abantu bephendula imibuzo enjalo abantu balahlekile. Awazi. Okanye bayazi, kodwa baqhubeka bekhohlisa ...
Kuba mna, ndiyena mhle
Indoda yintlobo yezinto eziphilayo, ezabiwe ziziganeko ezithile (izandla, iinyawo, intloko) kunye nentlalo-yengqondo (ubunjani, inkcubeko yoqhagamshelwano, ukuxhomekeka kwexabiso). Ngokusekelwe kule nkcazo, unako ukuvuyisana nathi - sonke "ngabantu". Yaye yintoni eyenza umntu "olungileyo"? Impendulo ilula - isimo sethu sengqondo. Isimo sethu kwisimo sethu, kunye nesimo sengqondo sabanye, ukuhlola okuzimeleyo.
Ukuba ngumntu olungileyo ngokwakho kukuthatha ngokuhambelana nesimo sengqondo sethu senhlalo nesengqondo. Ngamnye wethu unombono wakhe wokwenene, imithetho yakhe, imigaqo kunye nemigangatho yokuziphatha. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukucacisa okukhokelwa ngabo - siba thabatha ngomgangatho othile. Iingcamango zethu, imbono, izenzo, ziyimilinganiselo, kulungile kuthi thina ngabanye, ngelixa omnye umntu angenakuvunywa, engalunganga, njl. Sinika iziganeko ezithile ezihambelana nombono wehlabathi (umgangatho). Okuphakamileyo kwinqanaba lokuthobela, isizathu esiningi sokuzijonga "kakuhle."
Ukwenza izithembiso nokuzigcina oko kuthetha ukuthatha umntu onoxanduva. U xanduva lwakhe. Ukuba nombono wendlela yokuziphatha kuluntu kwaye wenze ngokuhambelana nale ngcamango kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu okhuliswe. Yenzelwe ukuqonda kwethu kwimiba. Ukukwazi ukwenza "," nokwenza "kungekhona" nokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo - oko kuthetha ukuthatha umntu ohloniphekileyo. Yiba nesidima ngokusesikweni kwamasiko ethu.
Umntu ngamnye uzijonga kakuhle, enoxanduva, ehloniphekileyo ngesiseko seengcamango zakhe malunga nalezi ziganeko. Umahluko kukuba banemibono yabo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kukho ukungqubuzana kwezimvo - wena ngokwakho, njengaye, njengowona uphezulu, kunye nomntu onomanzi, uxolo, udaka. Yaye ngubani na ongakholelwa?
Umbono wabanye
Oko kuthetha ukuthatha umntu olungileyo kwabanye umbuzo onomdla kakhulu, kuba awunanto nto! Ukuqala, nokuba ingaba yinto enhle kwabanye, kuba umxholo othi "ujikeleze" uthetha abantu abaninzi. Kwaye bangaphi abantu - ezininzi iingcamango, sele sifumene. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uhambelane nombono wonk 'ubani, ngoko ke, kuzo zonke ongeke uzilungele. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuqhubeka? Yaye qhubeka uhlala, kuphela isihlwele esisijikelezile, ndincoma ukuba ushiye kwimvelaphi. Makhe sithethe ngabantu bethu abathandekayo ...
Intsapho yethu kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo ngabantu esikufuze sifune ukuba ngabantu abalungileyo. Injongo ephambili ayikukhubekisa, kungekhona ukulimaza. Simele sizame ukuziphatha ngesithunzi kunye nabo banomdla kuthi. Oku kubonakaliswa kwenkxalabo yethu. Oku akulula, kuba ngamnye ufuna iimfuno zakhe kwaye ubuncinane ezinye iincwadi kunye nemibono yakhe, kodwa oku kusenza sibe ngamehlo kwabanye, kubalulekile kuthi. Kwaye uluvo lwabanye, uluvo lwe "isihlwele" akufanele lusithande.
Akukho ndawo ekucingeni malunga nomntu ofanelekileyo. Akunabantu abafanelekileyo, kuyinyaniso. Unokuzama nje ukulungela ngokwakho, ngokusekelwe kumalindelo akho.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kunzima ukuba ngumntu ongekho ngokwenene. Ukuzama ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomntu, ukuhlaselwa rhoqo emqaleni wakhe, ukuxoka, yena kunye nabanye - ezi zihlandlo ezibangela ukuba ubomi bethu bunzima. Ufuna ukudlala indima engavamile kuwe-nceda, isangqa sobume sisevisi yakho. Kodwa ungadlala nobomi, bufutshane kakhulu. Ukuba ngokwakho, ukwaneliswa ngobomi bakho - oko kuthetha ukuba ngumntu wangempela.