Ebomini bethu, kukho inkathazo eninzi, encinci kwaye ayikho kakhulu, iqokelela, ilahlekelwe ngumsindo wayo, ibangele ukuba bahlukane nabayeni babo baze bamemezele kwikati ephendukile phantsi kweenyawo zabo. Emva koko kufika ixesha leempawu, esizigwinyayo, siqalekisa amagama okugqibela okuxinezelekileyo. Kwaye ngeli thuba asiyikucingisisa konke ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka ngumntu ongeke akwazi ukuphila. Makhe sibone oko kukugxininisa simele siyike, kwaye ngubani na onokubulela ithuba lokuphuhlisa.
Ingcamango yokuxinzezeleka kunye nokukhathazeka kwengqondo
Yintoni ixinzelelo ? Ukususela kumbono womntu ongenalo, ezi zinto zixhalabisayo ezisikhuphayo, kwaye ngoko kufuneka ziphephe. Kodwa inzondelelo iphinde ixinzeleleke, ngoko kuthiwani ngokuyeka uthando, ukuhamba kunye nomculo omhle ukuze ungaphinde ulahlekelwe uxolo lwakho oluxabisekileyo lwengqondo? Kubonakala ukuba le ngcamango yayiye yavakashela iingqondo zezinzulu, kwaye ngenxa yocwaningo bafikelele kwisigqibo sokuba zonke iingcinezelo zingozi. Ngesihlandlo sokuqala le ngcamango yaqaliswa kwenzululwazi kaHans Selye ngowe-1936, kwaye wayichaza njengengxabano ephendulwayo nayiphi na imfuneko. Oko kukuthi, uxinzelelo luyindlela yokuphendula ngokwemvelo, evumela umntu ukuba alungiselele imeko yokuphila. Kubonakala ukuba akuyimfuneko ukulwa neengxaki ezinjalo, ngaphandle koko - ukufa ukusuka kutshintsho oluncinci kummandla ojikelezayo. Kodwa ke kunokwenzeka njani ukuba kukho ukutshutshiswa kweentloni ezibangele kwimiphumo eyahlukileyo? U-Selye wakwazi ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo, echaza ezimbini iintlobo zokuxinezeleka: i-eustress kunye noxinzelelo. Kwimeko yokuqala, sithetha malunga nokusebenza komzimba okwenzeka kuthi ngokwemvelo yokusinda. Kodwa ingxakeko yinto efana neyona nto eyenzeka phantsi kwefuthe lemithwalo engathandekiyo.
Iengqondo zanamhlanje ziye zandisa ukwanda kwengcinezelo kunye noxinzelelo, ukuze kuqinisekiswe umzuzu xa ukuphendula okuncedo kuguqula imeko. Iingcali zeengqondo zaseMerika zenze iimeko ezininzi ezixinzelelekileyo, apho isiganeko ngasinye esibalulekileyo sithathwa kwiindawo. Ukuba ngomnyaka inani lamaphuzu lifikelela kuma-300, ngoko siyakwazi ukuthetha ngokuvela kwesoyiko kwimpilo yethu. Kuyinto enomdla ukuba kule ngqungquthela, iziganeko ezivuyisayo zikhulu kakhulu, umzekelo, umtshato kunye nokuzalwa komntwana kuqikelelwa kuma-50 no-39 amanqaku ngokulandelanayo. Ngoko ke, nangona ukuba unyaka uphelelekile ngeemeko ezivuyisayo, inqanaba leengxabano zexhala liza kuqala ukuhamba. Oko kukuthi, uzama ukunqabisa emva kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuphuhlisa okulungileyo.