Nytik

I-Nytik - yiyo kanye indlela ukuxilongwa okungaqondakaliyo okuvezwa ngayo, abantu abazibekayo, abathambekele ekulileni kwisiqwenga kunye nokukhalaza ngobomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mgangatho unzima kakhulu kumntu, kuba ubona ubomi ebumnyameni obumnyama kwaye uqaphele into engalunganga nasiphi na isiganeko, ukuhlala kwaye inyaniso ayikho yonwabo. Ngethamsanqa, abantu bahlala beqaphela isono esinjalo baze bafune ukuyilahla.

Abantu-whiners: bangubani?

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungowunjani okanye ungabikho, zama ukuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo imibuzo elandelayo, enokukunceda ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unqume.

1. Ukuba unesimo esifanelekileyo, ngaba uhlala ulichitha kunye nabanye?
2. Ukuba awufumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo, ngaba uya kucasulwa kwaye uya kuwubonisa?
3. Awazi ukuba ungagxotha njani iimvakalelo zakho ezimbi?
4. Kuyo nayiphi na ibhondi yobusi, unokufumana lula i-fly in the ointment?
5. Uyabona ukuba uhlala ukhononda ngokuphila?
6. Ngaba abahlobo bakho bavame ukuphulaphula izikhalazo zakho?
7. Ngaba ulungile kwaye uhlala unesizathu sokucaphuka?

Ukuba ubuncinci imibuzo engama-2-3 uphendule ngemvume, mhlawumbi, ungoko-whiner. Ngokufanayo, ukuphendula imibuzo efanayo, ungavavanya abanye abantu.

Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana akhalaza ukuba isoka lakhe (umyeni) liwhiner. Nangona kunjalo, ungakulibali ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uthi "thiya i-whiners," kukufanele uziqaphele wena: ukuba le nto ikuchaphazela njalo, nokuba unayo, kwaye awuyikuyiqonda, okanye uyayicima. Iimpawu ezingathandekiyo ongazithandi kwabanye zihlala zihambelana nobuntu bakho.

Ungayiyeka njani ukuba yi-whiner?

Xa indoda i-whiner enelizwi elincinci, ligxeka ngokugqithiseleyo kuluntu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo isigxina esisinyanisekileyo sabantu sichitha inceba kuphela kwintsapho yakhe okanye intanda. Kodwa i-girl-whiner-into eqhelekileyo, abaninzi abazami ukulwa nalo, nangona kufanelekile. Cinga ngeendlela zokwenza oku:

1. Thatha umgaqo kuyo nayiphi na imeko ukuba ufumane ubuncinci be-pluses ezintathu.
2. Musa ukwabelana ngamava akho kunye nabani na owonakalisayo, unciphise isangqa sahlobo onokuthetha nabo malunga nabo.
3. Gcina idayari uze ubhale amava akho apho imihla ngemihla.
4. Yiya kwimidlalo - inceda ukukhupha i-negative.
5. Njalo xa ufuna ukukhononda ngobomi, jonga kwi-photo yakho engaphumelelanga, apho unqamle umlomo.

Ukuyeka ukuba yi-whiner ngosuku olunye akunakwenzeka. Uya kufuneka uchithe ubuncinane iiveki ezi-2 kule ndawo, apho kufuneka ubeke esweni ukuziphatha kwakho imihla ngemihla.