Ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele ukuba umyeni uyatshintsha, cinga ngezinto oza kwenza ngayo inyaniso. Akunjalo ukuba kuya kuthuthuzela. Ukuba kukho nawuphi na umcimbi awuyi kuphula ulwalamano, kungcono ukuhlala ungonwabanga. Kwaye kuphela ukuba kuxhomekeke kule nkcazelo, kuya kuba neqhawulo okanye kungenjalo, kubalulekile ukumba.
Indlela yokubamba umyeni ekuhlaseleni?
Ukutshintsha umntu uhlala ehlasele. Ngokwezibalo, kwi-90% yamatyala, indoda "yokuhamba ngekhohlo" iyavela, ukuba ayikwazi ukubonelela zonke iinkcukacha. Ngoko, ukuguqula umyeni:
- "Udidekile kubungqina", uthi ngenye imeko iimeko ezahlukeneyo;
- Ayikwazi ukubeka igama kunye nokuba ngubani na;
- uthetha iintlanganiso kunye nomhlobo - "usengamazi";
- uthatha umhlalaphantsi, akafuni ukuxoxa ngemicimbi yakhe;
- engaphenduliyo ukuphendula kwimibandela enjengale "kutheni ufikelelwe kakhulu?";
- Uzama ukufihla ifowuni, utshintshile amaphasiwedi kwiintanethi zentlalo;
- waba yimfihlo, i-taciturn okanye i-vice versa, ithenda kakhulu;
- ngamanye amaxesha uyaphazamisa intetho ngokukhawuleza, ukwesaba ukuphazamiseka;
- ziphatha ngokwahlukileyo kunaphambili.
Ukwazi ukujonga ukuba umyeni ushintshile, kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela iinkcukacha ezithile: kulula ukubala inkosikazi enye,
Indlela yokugweba umyeni wakhe wokugwenxa?
Akukho mntu uthembekileyo "ukuyeka" emva kokuhlambalaza umfazi wakhe. Kwimeko ezininzi, uya kukhanyela yonke into okanye athukuthele ("unokucinga njani okunjalo?"), Okanye ukuhlaselwa ekuphenduleni ("mhlawumbi, inkohlakalo kwisibhamu?"). Yingakho, ngaphambi kokumangalela umyeni wakho wokugwenxa , kubalulekile ukuqokelela nayiphi na "ubungqina", okanye ukulungiselela nokwenza ukuba uvele wazi yonke into, kwaye uzinikele ukuzivuma.
Ngaphambi koku, cinga: kuqhubeka kubalulekile ukunquma ukuqhutyelwa phambili kwimeko. Ukuba awulungele ukulahlekelwa ngumyeni wakho kunoma yintoni na, ngaba uyayifuna le ngxoxo?