Xa udibana nomntu owenza uzive ukhethekileyo, kwaye uthemba ukuba umanyano wakho uya kuba ngonaphakade, ubomi buhlala bujikeleze loo mvakalelo. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyamangalisa kwaye iya kuba njalo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuziphatha komlingane wakho okanye umhlobo wakho utshintshile; Okokuqala uyayihoywa "iibhendi eziphazamisayo" okanye ngokwenene akaziboni. Emva kwexesha elithile, inyaniso iyaziwa: umntu wakho othandekayo uye wenza uxolo.
Ubomi bakho buya ku-tailpin, mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba umntu onobuhlungu abone intlungu efanayo kunye nohlazo oluvakalelwa ngalo. Intlungu ingaba namandla kangangokuthi ulahlekelwa ngumntu wakho ngexesha elithile, yeka ukuba nguwe. Kukho imibuzo eninzi, uzama ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo. Njengomthetho, wonke umntu unombono wakhe malunga nezizathu zenzeke.
Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko zokudideka kunye nokuxinezeleka, wonke umntu uyakhumbula ukuba kwiimeko ezizimeleyo okanye ezingaziwayo zeqabane lawo zadlala indima ebalulekileyo. Kwaye ukuba ukhumbule ngale nto, kuya kufika isigaba apho isibini sinokuvavanya ukufaneleka kobudlelwane babo, amandla okutshintsha kunye nomnqweno wabo wokutshintsha. Kancinci kukho imikhosi kunye nethuba lokuxolelwa. Akunandaba nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba uhlale okanye uhambe-nangayiphi na imeko, kufuneka ulungelelanise ukuhlukana ngokomzwelo kumadoda ngokubanzi kwaye iqabane lakho ngokukodwa. Ukuxolela kubaluleke kakhulu.
Indlela yokusindiswa kokungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo?
- Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho . Kwixesha elivakalayo elivakalayo apho ubandakanyeka khona, ngexesha elifanayo kukho umsindo, ukwesaba kunye nengqondo yokulahleka. Okwenene "i-coaster coaster". Thatha ikhefu, zinike ikhefu kwaye uqaphele ukuba awuyi kuhlenga. Abanye babeziva intlungu efanayo kunye nokudideka xa befunda ngokungcatsha abo babathandayo, kodwa basinda. Oko ujongene nakho kukuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo kwimeko ephazamisayo. Uvakalelwa kakubi nje kuphela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luye lwalahleka ingqibelelo. Kuyinto intlungu ekulahlekelweni ukukholelwa ukuba uyimfuneko. Kungabonakala ngathi yi-paradoxical, kodwa nje ngomzuzwana xa siqaphela intlungu yethu, iya kuba nzima kakhulu.
- Ungavumeli umzwelo ungaphezu kwakho . Jonga indlela zakho iingcamango neemvakalelo eziphuma ngayo. Ngoku kuya kuba neesilingo ukupheqa amawaka amawaka entloko yakho, njengokuba umntu wakho othandekayo uthe waxoxela kuwe, iinkcukacha zokungcatsha kunye neziganeko zangaphambili.
- Mhlawumbi uthatha isigqibo sokuya emsebenzini okanye kwi-hobby . Oku kuya kunceda ukujamelana nokuxhalaba kunye nokungabi nalutho, kodwa ekubeni ufuna ngokwenene ukulibala ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo, kuya kufuneka uhlawule, uxhathise intlungu kwaye unqume oko uza kukwenza ngokulandelayo.
- Zibuze: "Ngaba ndiza kushiya okanye ndihlale?" . Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo, isigqibo kufuneka silinganiswe. Akunandaba nokuba unamandla kangakanani iimvakalelo zakho. Emva koko, ungazizisola ngokuzenza ngokukhawuleza.
- Khipha isifundo kweli bali . Uninzi lwabasetyhini (kunye namadoda) athambekele ekumangaleleni iqabane lawo kuzo zonke iinkathazo zomanyano. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuqonda isahlulo sakhe, ngokukodwa, ukwenza ngokunyanisekileyo. Akukho mntu ucinga ngezona zinto ezibangela ukuba kwenzeke ntoni, kulula kakhulu
kunika inguqulelo kwaye lula ukuphelelwa yithemba okanye ukomazelela ukuziphindisela.
Awukwazi ukutshintsha okwenzekile kuwe, kodwa kufuneka uthathe uxanduva malunga nendlela ojongene ngayo nale nto ngoku.
Kukho izicwangciso ezimbini ezingalunganga. Eyokuqala ukuhlala kunye kwaye ungalokothi ukhumbule kwaye ungacingi ukuba kutheni ukungcatsha kwenzeka. Okwesibini kukuzama ngakumbi kunokuba kungenzeki kwakhona. Ndiyicinga, akuyimfuneko ukuthetha ukuba le yinto engeyingozi engqinelanayo nokungabikho kwothando kunye nentlonipho.
Kukho nezinye iindlela ezinokusetyenziswa. Yamkela into eyenzekayo, kwaye sebenze kunye ukuphucula ubuhlobo bakho. Inketho yesibini kukuthi uhlehlise kwaye uqalise ubomi bomntu ngamnye.
Kule nqanaba kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuxolela ngokwenene ukutshutshiswa komntu othandekayo.
Kodwa yinto ebangeleyo yokungcatsha eya kunceda bobabini nenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo: hlalani kunye okanye niyeke. Kwaye ukuxolelwa nokwamkelwa komnye nomnye onokuvula amehlo kunye neqabane lakho.
Xa ucinga ngendlela yokusindiswa kokungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo, unokulibala into enye. Ukuvalwa ngomsindo wehlabathi kunye namadoda (okanye amabhinqa) - asithethi "sindisa." Yamkele into eyenzekayo, jongana nayo kwaye uvule kwiziganeko ezintsha ezimnandi - oko kukuxolela ngokwenene kunye nobomi obuzalisekileyo obulindele ngaphambili.