Abaninzi bawela emthandweni, badibana, bahlala kunye kwaye baqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba, kubonakala ngathi, uthando lwabo olungapheliyo kwaye alupheli, bonke abathandekayo mabafanane nabo. Kodwa kuza ixesha lokuba elinye iqabane liqaphela ukuba emva kwekhefu luthando lukho uthando oluqhelekileyo, ukuxhomekeka kweemvakalelo , okubangele isizathu sokubanjelwa kumlingani wayo. Kwaye ke umbuzo uvela, indlela yokubulala lo mboniso ongathandabuyo kuwe? Emva kwakho konke, akukho nto ihamba ngayo ekubandezelaneni ngamaphupha aphuzi kunye nethemba elingazaliseki.
Yintoni ebulala uthando?
Ngaphambi kokuba aqalise ukutshabalalisa ngokubanzi ebomini bakhe kuyo yonke into ebangela ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kunye nokunye kuxhomekeka kumlingane, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba lo mtsalane. Ngoko, isizathu si nokuba sisweleko kwinto yakho. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukunyamekelwa okanye ukhathalele oku kubuntwaneni kwaye ngelixa ungazihlawulisi. Akunakunyulwa kwaye ukwaneliseka kuphela kwezidingo zabo zesini kwezobudlelwane.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubulala uthando? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Kufuneka ufunde indlela yokulawula iingcamango zakho, akwazi ukuqonda imihla ngemihla ukuba uzondle ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzenzekelayo okungekho "uthando" lomntu onjalo ongeke ujabule. Funda ukuba ngumntu onamandla . Unokuba ngumntu onoyolo kuphela ngenxa yakho.
Uthando alukwazi ukubulawa?
- Inqaku lokuqala eliza kukunceda ukuba ufikelele ekujoliswe kuyo - ukuphelisa iimvakalelo, kuya kuba oku kulandelayo: zama ukuvavanya isimo sengqondo sakho kumlingane. Unokufumanisa ukuba akukho nto ingakumbi, ngaphandle kovelwano, ukukhanukela okanye izinto zokuzilibazisa ongazifumana. Kwaye mhlawumbi nguwe othe wafumana ixesha elide. Qinisekisa imbangela ebalulekileyo yenkanuko yakho yokugulisa umlingane.
- Ukuzidla kuyabulala uthando, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uzihloniphe, uxabise ubomi bakho. Akunakulungi ukubulawa ngenxa yokuba lo mntu akayi kuba ngaphezulu ebomini bakho. Inokwenzeka ukuba, unamathele kumntu ongakuvumeli ukuba uphinde ujabule kwaye ubujonge ubomi bakho ngendlela ecacileyo nenjongo.
- Ukuthula kuyabulala uthando-nokuba ngaba iqabane lakho liya kuzama ukukubuyisela nganoma iyiphi indlela. Khumbula ukuba yonke into oyithethayo ingakujika, kwaye ngoko ke landela iingcinga zakho kunye nento othethayo. Kungcono ukumisa nayiphi na inxibelelwano kuye uze uzive uziva. Ngokomzekelo, faka ibali lakho lothando kumaphepha. Zama ukuchaza zonke iintlungu, iingxaki oye wazifumana ngexesha lobudlelwane. Gcwalisa ibali ngeli binzana elithi "Kwakuye kwaye lidlule." Ukutshabalalisa iphepha.
- Ubomi bubulala uthando-hamba ukuya kwinqanaba lakho. Ungadangali ngento oziva ngayo ngomntu, kodwa yintoni elitsha namhlanje ukuzipheka ukuze udle. Ekugqibeleni, hlambulula indlu yakho yezikhumbuzo ezidlulileyo, uhlambulule ikhonkco ngalinye.
- Qalisa usuku ngalunye ngomomotheka. Ukulahlekisa iingcinga ezimbi. Ungazivumeli zigwinye. Lalala ngelo xesha. Ekuqaleni kokuqhekeka kobudlelwane, uphuze ngaphambi kokulala ngexesha lokulala kwi-motherwort ne-valerian ingcambu. Oku kuya kunceda ukhululeke ngokuziphatha.
- Ixesha libulala uthando-ukubandezeleka akuyi kuhlala ngonaphakade. Ngokuqhelekileyo uzikhumbuze ngalo. Ngokukhawuleza uza kushiya ngentloko
ekuziphuculeni ngokwabo , ngakumbi ukuba iimvakalelo ezindala ziya kupholisa. Uninzi lwexesha, kunika ekufundeni. Gwema imisebenzi kumxholo wothando. Amanxeba engqondo aphulukisa iincwadi-iincwadi zezobugcisa zabanye abantu. Isicwangciso sabo kufuneka sichaze malunga nezicwangciso zokuphumelela, amandla omoya. - Nsuku zonke ufumana nesona sihlandlo esincinane sokuvuya. Zizenzele ngokuhlaziywa kwi-wardrobe okanye kwi-dessert enomnandi. Sebenzisa ii-oyile ezinamakha esikhundleni seqhumiso. Baya kuba nako ukunqabisa.
Khumbula ukuba yonke into idlulayo kunye nothando olungathandabuzekiyo kungekudala okanye emva koko luhambe ebomini bakho, lunike indlela yokuziva ngayo.