Kuhlala kubuhlungu ukuba uphile ngokutshintsha komntu othandekayo kunye nomthandayo. Ngokwenene, inyaniso yokukhohlakeleyo ifunyenwe ngengozi kwaye ayikho nhlobo ngexesha. Eli nqaku liza kunceda umfazi ophangiweyo ukuba aphendule umbuzo owenza umkhathaze - yintoni enokuyenza ukuba umyeni ushintshile ukuze angalahlekelwa sisithunzi sakhe kwaye ulondoloze intsapho.
Izolo kwakukho ubusuku obuhle, ngexesha lokucwangciswa kwamalungiselelo, indlela yokuchitha iveki, yonke into yayiqhelekileyo, kwaye namhlanje umlambo wezinyembezi ugeleza, imeko yokutshatyalaliswa ekhutshwe ngokukhawuleza yindlela yokuhlaziywa nokunyanzelisa. Kwintloko yam kukho imibuzo engapheliyo: "Kwenzeka njani?", "Kutheni umyeni washintsha?". Emva kokufunda malunga nokungcatsha komyeni wakhe, nawuphi na umfazi olahlekelwa ngokukhawuleza ithuba lokuhlola ngokwaneleyo imeko.
Ngenxa yokuphelelwa lithemba, intlungu, intukuthelo, usaya ekuqondeni ukuba uyamthanda umyeni wakho kwaye akafuni ukulahlekelwa nguye, nangona kuthethwa ngokupheleleyo? Kule meko, unokwenza, njengoko kunconywa kuwo onke amaphephancwadi amabhinqa: zenzele, uthenge iingubo zangaphantsi zentlanzi, uphinde ube yinto enhle kakhulu, ukuze aqonde ukuba uluphi uhlobo lwedayim ehlala naye.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini, emva kokufunda malunga nokungcatsha wabo othandekayo, musa ukuqonda into enokuyenza xa umyeni utshintsha kwaye ekugqibeleni ukhetha amaqhinga anjalo: bahlala bemphonsa kwiingxabano, bafuna ukupheliswa kobudlelwane, hlola i-imeyile yakhe, ifowuni, iimpahla, zilungiselele ngokuhlwa uphando kunye njalo. Akunjalo ngenxa yokuba zenzelwe amanyathelo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba akakwazi. Konke oku akunakunceda ukuphendula umbuzo - kutheni umyeni utshintsha, kwaye ekugqibeleni abuye okanye awugcine, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kubangela ukuba abuyele, uya kuziva kuwe kuphela kuphela. Kwaye, nawe, uya kuvela kumfazi owaneleyo ube ngumfazi onamahloni onomlomo othuthumelayo kunye namehlo abomvu.
Unzima kunzima ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo emva kokufumana ukunyaniseka. Ngokukodwa akulula, ukuba ngokukhawuleza indoda yatshintsha ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho. Nangona kunjalo, ekuqhutyweni kwezi mvavanyo, uya kuba nethuba lokubuyisela umhlobo wakho. Ngoko, imithetho eyintloko.
Musa ukuzenza uxhoba
Sivame ukuzama ukudlala indima yexhoba xa umyeni eshintsha, kodwa akahambi. Ukongezelela, kwakukho isizathu esikhulu sokuzisola ngokwakho-ukunyeliswa komyeni wakhe! Khumbula, eli qhinga alisebenzisekanga, ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela umyeni wakho, ngenxa yokuba usoloko ebeka umthetho ngenxa yezinto azenzileyo, akayi kuzinyamezela ixesha elide, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuhamba engathandabuziyo.
Musa ukukhangela ubungqina obutsha bokungcatsha komyeni wakhe
Ukuba unomnqweno wokufunda i-imeyile yakhe, okanye ukunyuka kwifowuni yakhe, kufuneka uchithe ngokukhawuleza oko, kuba kuyingozi kwaye kuya kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uya kuqonda xa ixesha elilandelayo umyeni wakho ufuna ukutshintsha, kwaye uya kukwazi ukuba wenzeni. Ungazikhohlisi. Xa umyeni ufumana umoya wezenzo zakho, ngoko umva wecala lakhe liya kuba yintlanzi.
Musa ukuthatha inxaxheba ebuhlotsheni bakho bendoda nenkosikazi yakho
Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ungakhangeli iintlanganiso kunye nenkosikazi yomyeni wakhe, njengoko oku kungayi kubangela umphumo omuhle. Ukongezelela, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthetha konke ngomyeni wakho, oza kumxhasa kamva. Kukulungele ukuqokelela yonke inkcazelo malunga nenkosikazi yakho kwaye uqaphele iziganeko.
Akukho mfuneko yokumphindezela ngokubuyisela okufanayo
Abaninzi abafazi ekufuneni impendulo yombuzo - yintoni enokuyenza xa umyeni utshintsha, uthathe isigqibo sokuba ukuba bamenza umona, baya kubuyisela. Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba oku akunjalo. Emva kokuba wenze eso sigqibo, uzinika umyeni wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba awukhathaleli kakhulu ngokungcatsha kwakhe, kwaye awunakucamisi ukuzithokozisa kwicala. Musa ukucebisa ingozi ngenxa yoko.
Hlaziya ubomi bakho
Mhlawumbi uye wakuva malunga nale ngqungquthela kaninzi, ekubeni umyeni wakho ukukopela kuwe, kukho into engalunganga kuwe. Cinga ngenyameko, bekuphi ixesha lokugqibela owawunandipha ngayo indoda yakho ngendlela yesondo, ulungiselele ukuhlwada okanye ukudansa umdaniso okhulayo? Ixesha lokufumana loo maxesha apho kukho iimpazamo, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuyilungisa. Emva koko umbuzo wenzeni ukuba umyeni uyatshintsha, uya kuphefumula ngokwayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubuhlungu kangakanani ukungcatsha othandekayo, kufuneka uhlale usisilumko nesinamandla, ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukugcina intsapho.