Ngoku ibinzana elithandwayo eliqhelekileyo "inqaku elincinane elisekhohlo lomeleza umtshato." Nangona kunjalo, bekuya kunzima ukufumana ubuncinane intsapho enye, apho imeko ngokukhohlakeleyo yayiya kuvuya okanye ifuthe. Ngokuphambene noko, ihlala iphethe ubuninzi bokungabikho komsebenzi, ukungcola ngokwenyama, iingxaki kunye nomsebenzi wokuchitha iminyaka eyichithwe. Nangona kunjalo, ngaba kukho ubomi emva kokungcatsha?
Ubomi bentsapho emva kokungcatsha
Njengomthetho, ngokoqobo ukuthengiswa kolwalamano olunokuthi lungatshintshi, nangona ubudlelwane ngenxa yolu luba lubandayo kwaye lukhutshwe. Inkathazo ivela, njengomthetho, ngelixa isiqingatha sesibini sibona ngale siganeko.
Akubalulekanga ukuba ngubani oguqukile-indoda okanye umfazi. Kubalulekile ukuba kwakukho unxibelelwano-mhlawumbi idlulayo, mhlawumbi nothando olunzulu, olubeka ingozi ekuqhubekeni kobudlelwane.
Kukho nawuphi na, akuyi kubakho nto endala. Njengomthetho, kwicala ngalinye uhlangothi olukhutshwayo luvela njengoluphumelelayo: emva koko, lo mntu sele eneengxabano eziphambili. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyanzela "ububele" kunye nokuxolelwa yindlela yokumisa: ngoko imeko iya kubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kuya kubangela wonke umntu ubuhlungu.
Ubomi bentsapho emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe
Emva koko, ukuqonda kokuqala kweli meko kuya kuza, zama ukuzenzela kunye kunye nokulinganisela konke. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukukratshi akukhulunywanga kuwe, kufuneka uphulaphule intliziyo yakho: ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba lithandwa yintoni lo mntu, akukho nto yokuyiyeka ngamandla. Kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba unqunywe kakhulu, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho ziphelile, sisihlandlo sokungenani sithathe ixesha kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, nxalenye. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, zama ukuqhagamshelana nomncinci, ukuze iimvakalelo zakho zihlale.
Ubomi emva kokungcatshiswa komyeni wakhe kuya kuhamba ngokulandelelana ngenye yeemeko ezininzi: mhlawumbi uhamba, okanye uhlala, kwaye ulungisa, okanye uhlala, kwaye uqhubeka neeprojekthi zakhe ngakwesobunxele.
Ukuxolela ukulibala kwaye ungalokothi ukhumbule. I-Vorosh edlulileyo, awuyi kwenza ngcono kunoma ubani. Ubomi emva kokungcatshiswa kulungiswa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ukukhankanywa okungekho ngaphantsi kwesi siganeko, kulula.
Ukuba intsapho inabantwana, isisombululo esihle kakhulu kukukhusela kule nkcazelo. Ubudlelwane phakathi koomama nobaba akulona ulwalamano lomzali kunye nomntwana, kwaye akufuneki ukuba baxoxe nabancinane kumyeni. Oku kuya kubangela ubunzima beengxaki zengqondo kwikamva labo.