Imithombo ye-Intanethi igcwele izihloko ezinjengokuthi: "Umama-mkhwenkwe uyinkosi," kwaye kwiifom ehlukahlukeneyo, amantombazana akayeki "ukuhlamba amathambo abo" "noomama". Ngaba ngokwenene umyeni kaMama unobungozi obukhulu, okanye sithinjwa nje ukuba sithintele ukukhohlisa kwethu ngomamazala? Makhe sibone izizathu zeengxaki ezivela kubudlelwane phakathi komkhwekazi nomalokazana kunye nokuba kutheni umkhwekazi akahlali ethanda umkhwekazi. Qonda ngokufanelekileyo.
Elinye icala lendondo
Ngoko kwakukho intlanganiso ekulindelwe ixesha elide kunye nendoda oye ulindele kuyo yonke impilo yakho. Apha bahlambalaza, bebangela ukuthuthumela kwisifuba, ukubanga, ukugubungela, ukuvuma ... kwaye ungalibali imini xa wakwenza isicelo sokusemthethweni sokuba ngumfazi wakhe. Ngoku lixesha lokuvakalisa ezi ndaba ezivuyisa kubazali, kodwa abaninzi, okokuqala, kufuneka bazi kuqala. Siya kutyelela abazali bomyeni wam ...
Inomdla kunye nomnqweno njengabazali bomyeni bazalwa kuwo wonke umtshakazi. Eyona nto ifuna ukukholisa unina, ungamdumisi, waze wancoma unyana wakhe ngenxa yokukhetha kwakhe. Kodwa kutheni senza oku? Kuwe, akunjalo? Okanye nje, uluntu lubeke lo mzekelo wokuziphatha kuthi, lusongela iziganeko ezinokuthi umama wekamva elizayo unjengomhloli okhuni, akalala, akayidli, kodwa ucinga nje ukuba "ukugqithisa" kulo mvavanyo. Ngenxa yengqondo enjalo, intombazana eyayiwela umda womzali womyeni wayo iya kulahla "ukuhluleka", kuba ukuziphatha kwayo kuya kuhluke kakhulu kwinto enjalo. Ukuxhalaba ngokweqile, ukuthozama nokungahambi kakuhle, ngegama, i-finesse iya kubonakala kwiibalo ezimbini kwaye oku kuya kubangela ukuba kungabikho ukuzithemba kubazali bomthandi.
Akukho mfuneko yokuba "uxinzelele", ngenxa yokuba sele ukhe ukhethwe, le ndoda ithembele kuwe, yingakho wakumema endlwini kayihlo ukuba akuvume, ngoko ke, ukuba inxaxheba enkulu kwinkosikazi yakho. Akaceli imvume kubazali bakhe, sele sele egqibelele yonke into. Ngoko ke ufanele enye into ukubonisa umntu okanye unokuhlala uhlala kwaye uphatha ngokuphathelele abantu abanikela ubomi kumntu omthandayo.
Ngalinye icala kwicala
Uthando lomama kumntwana wakhe lunamandla kakhulu kwaye alupheli. Yintoni evezwa ngumfazi, onyana wakhe awusayi kufuna uncedo lwakhe kunye nokunakekelwa? Ngoku ebomini bakhe kwakukho enye kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu kuye umfazi-umfazi. Ngandlela-thile, nawuphi na umama unokufumana ukulahleka, umona kumkhwenyana kunye nentonwabo. Uvuyo olwenzela ulonwabo nenhlalakahle yonyana wakhe. Akunomsindo okanye ubugwenxa, kodwa inkxalabo yokuqala yonyana wakhe, ngulohluko. Ngokuqhelekileyo uninazala ulandela injongo yokukhubekisa umalokazana wakhe, ufuna kuphela ukuqinisekisa ukuba unyana wakhe unokwethenjelwa kwaye unokhathalela izandla. Kwaye kule meko, eyenziwa kwintsapho yonyana, ukuziphatha komama-mkhwe kuxhomekeke kubuhlobo kunye nomalokazana.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda enza iphutha elikhulu xa bexelela unina malunga nokuphazamiseka kwabo kwiimvakalelo. Ukuba ebomini bakho kukho iimeko ezifanayo, kulungile ukuthetha nomyeni wakhe, ukuze ahlangule unina kwiinkcukacha ezingadingekile zeengxaki zakho zeentsapho. Watsho waza wamlibala, kuba wayekho kwinqanaba, kwiimvakalelo, kodwa unina - hayi. Akayi kukulibala oko akutshoyo, kuba unyana wakhe "ukhubekile", ngoko simele simkhusele. Ngenxa yoko, umalokazana uya kuhlwaywa ngendlela yeengcebiso kunye nokuziphatha kakuhle, kwaye izizathu zokuba umkhwe wakhe athande umalokazana wakhe uya kuncitshiswa. Musa ukukrazula kwaye uhlaselwe ngumamazala, ofuna kuphela ukuba unyana wakhe ajabule.
Ulwahlulo lweentsapho aluphepheki, ngoko kubalulekile ukuphuma kwimpikiswano ngokuchanekileyo. Sombulula yonke into phakathi kwakho, kuba unentsapho. Umsindo kwaye uya kuthi, kunye nabazali bangasindisa - kutheni bafuna uxinzelelo olungakumbi, kwaye ubuthongo buya kuqina ngakumbi ...
Uninazala uhlukile ...
Makhe senze utshintsho - kungekhona oomama abahlukileyo, kwaye abafazi ngokusemthethweni bahluke ngokupheleleyo. Abantu banemfundo eyahlukeneyo nendima yentlalo ayinakuyenza. Ubume bomama-mkhwenkwe osanda kutshatyalaliswa akenzi enye ibhinqa yowesifazane, nguye yena. Yile ndlela abaye bayinyusa ngayo, kwaye uya kufumana. Ukuba umntu akanalo ingcamango yokuziphatha kakuhle kwaye uhlala ekhupha impumlo kwimicimbi yabanye, ngoko ke ukuba wayenguye intombi yakho, unina, umalume okanye ummelwane akukho nto yayingatshintsha. Ngoko ke, musa ukuthatha yonke into ngeendleko zakho kwaye uzigxeka ukuba unesizathu sokuziphatha okungafanelekanga kamama wakho. Yiyo nto kwaye awukwazi ukuyitshintsha. Ingcono utshintshe isimo sakho sengqondo malunga naye kunye nemeko.
Ngaphantsi kophahla olulodwa ...
Ngoku unokuba novelwano nalabo abanolwazi olunzima lokuhlala nabazali bomlingane, kwaye bavakalisa abo baxhasayo umtshato wabo. Kodwa abo, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo, baphoqelelwe ukuba baphile nabazali bomyeni wabo, kwaye "imiyalelo yokusetyenziswa" elandelayo iya kunikwa:
- ukuxabana phakathi komamazala nomalokazana, ngenxa yokuchasana kwemfuno, iindlela ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Simele sifune ukulungelelanisa kwaye sivume omnye nomnye;
- Abafazi ababini ekhitshini - le yintlekele, umntu kufuneka athathe utyando. Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe uthatha inyathelo kulo mbandela, phumula kwaye mvumele akwenze. Ukuba unexesha, zilungiselele;
- Kwiimeko apho umama-mame uzama ukumisa unyana wakhe kumalokazana, oko kukuthi, wena, zama ukuqonda isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe. Mhlawumbi wenze into yokuba umcaphukise? Emva kwakho konke, vuma, akufani nathi sonke simhlophe kwaye sihlambulukile;
- kwimfundo yabantwana kufuneka babe nesimo esiqinileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana imiyalelo engqubuzanayo kuwe nomamazala, kufuneka uxoxe nomamazala
kwaye uphawule zonke "kunye". Emva kwakho konke, ngabazali bakho nguwe kunye neqabane lakho, kunye neengcebiso kamama wakho, ngoko kunjalo, kuya kuthathwa ingqalelo; - fumana kunye nomama-mkhwenkwe oqhelekileyo, imisebenzi. Mhlawumbi uya kuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo okanye, ngaphezu koko, uya kuba njengentombi kuye. Yazi kakuhle kwaye ungagqibi kwizigqibo;
- Funa nomyeni ithuba lokufumana indawo yokuhlala kwaye usebenzise kuyo yonke imizamo. Emva koko, ubudlelwane noninazala bumnandi kakhulu ... ekude, kunye neveki neeeholide.
Zihloniphe kunye kunye nokunyamekela abathandekayo bakho.