Wonke umfazi unengcamango yakhe malunga nolwalamano olusinileyo. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, kunzima ukuyitshintsha. Emva kokuhlukana nomntu, isondo esilungileyo singakwazi ukuziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngamanye amaxesha. Abanye abafazi bayakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane phakathi kobudlelwane phakathi kwabathandekayo, abanye - bahlale bengathandeki kwaye bathukuthele iminyaka emininzi. Ngako oko, kunzima kakhulu ukufumana iimpendulo zemibuzo malunga nendlela ekufanele uyenze ngayo kunye nomthandi wakho kunye nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo nomntu owayengumthandi. Siza kuzama ukuqonda lo mbuzo onzima ngemimiselo yeemeko eziqhelekileyo.
Ukuba umntu owayengumthandi nomyeni omnye ngumntu oyedwa
Ukugcina ulwalamano oluhle kunye nomntu owayengumlingane onzima kunzima kwabesetyhini abaninzi. Kule meko, abathandi bexesha elide babemanyene kuphela ngokulala, kodwa nakweminye imiba yobomi. Akukho mntu ubiza ukuba abe ngumhlobo nomyeni wangaphambili, kodwa ukuba inxaxheba kwiintshaba, nokuba kunjalo, akufanele.
Ukuze ikhefu lingabi buhlungu, kubalulekile ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isicwangciso esiluhlukileyo, ukwahlukana akufanele kuqondwe kungekhona njengesiphelo esibuhlungu, kodwa njengesiqalo sesigaba esitsha ebomini. Ubomi kaninzi bubambisana nabesilisa ababesakuba ngumtshato emva kweminyaka embalwa, emva koko kubalulekile ukulondoloza isithunzi kwaye akakwazi ukucaphukisa indoda ngexesha lokuhlukana. Emva koko intlanganiso engalindelekanga iya kushiya izinto ezintle, kunokuba sisihlandlo sosizi.
Imigaqo ebalulekileyo yokuhlukana nomthandi wakhe
Kwimeko apho umthandi ephosa khona, umgaqo obalulekileyo kuwo onke amabhinqa ukuzenza ngathi akazange athukuthele nonke. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba umthandi wangaphambili wayeluphi ubomi bakho-iiveki, inyanga okanye iminyaka. Ngeli nqanaba, ibhinqa lifanele likhumbule zonke iintlanganiso kwaye lichonge indlela enhle ngayo lo mntu. Ukuba impembelo ingenakwaneleyo, yikhuphe. Ukuba akunjalo, kubalulekile ukugcina imithetho emininzi xa usabelana:
- Ungazifumani isizathu esibalulekileyo sendawo. Akufuneki ukuba ufumane ubuhlobo kwaye uzama ukufumana igama lomqhubi. Amadoda ayithandi ukuxhatshazwa okunjalo, ngoko ukufumanisa ubuhlobo buya kumqinisekisa ngokuchanekileyo kwesigqibo sabo. Kwaye umfazi emva kokushiya umthandi wakhe emphefumlweni uya kuba lusizi kunye nosizi.
- Cetyisa ukuhamba. Ukuba umthandi wangaphambili uyavuma oku, mhlawumbi isigqibo sakhe sasingenakulinganiswa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye unethuba lokulibuyisela.
- Cinga ukuchitha ubusuku bokugqibela kunye. Yenza lo busuku ungayibaleki umntu wakho. Yichitha iintsuku ezimbalwa ekulala naye kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kuba nokungathandabuzeki ngokuchanekileyo kwesigqibo sakhe.
Kukho indoda kunye nomthandi
Le meko iyaqhelekileyo kubasetyhini banamhlanje. Ukuba umfazi uyavuma oku ebomini bakhe, ngoko umntu akafanele ahlupheke ngenxa yokuzisola, ngaphandle koko umdlalo wakhe uza kuboniswa kungekudala. Ingcamango: "Ndiyintanda" akufanele ibangele imvakalelo, ikakhulukazi phambi kwendoda yakhe.
Ukuba kubalulekile ukuba umfazi ahlale enobudlelwane obuhle kunye nomthandi wakhe nomyeni wakhe, ngoko kufuneka ahlale engaphazamiseki nakweyiphi na imeko. Umfazi kufuneka ahlale elalana nomyeni wakhe nangemva kokudibana nomthandi wakhe. Ngaphandle koko, umyeni uza kukhawuleza. Kwakhona, akufanele afune ukunqanda umyeni wakhe, nangona emva kokuba intlanganiso kunye nomthandi wakhe umyeni akayiyo yonwabileyo. Amathuba aphakamileyo ukuba indoda iya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza xa umfazi ediniwe emva kokudibana nomthandi wakhe, kwaye emva kokusebenza.
Umgaqo obalulekileyo - kungekhona ngomnye wabathandana bexesha elidlulileyo umfazi akumele axelelwe kumyeni wakhe, kodwa kukho okungakumbi, ukuwazisa. Nangona ulwalamano kunye nomntu owayengumthandi ngaphambili lume kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ukudibanisana nomthandi wangaphambili
Ukuba lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili wayengumhlobo, kungekhona intshaba, ngoko ke kwabaninzi abasetyhini umhlangano ongalindelekanga uphela ngesondo. Kodwa emva kobusuku obushushu, ngokuqhelekileyo ummeli wesini esilungileyo uqala ukunqoba imiba eyahlukeneyo. Kule meko, ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane nomntu owayesithandayo, kubalulekile ukuba ungangeni kwisilingo sokufumana ubuhlobo, okanye ukubuza malunga nexesha elidlulileyo. Ezi zicaciso zingenza ukuba intlanganiso iphele.