Ngamanye amaxesha abafazi bajamelana neengxaki ezinzulu kwaye "ezigulayo" ngokungcatsha, ukunyeliswa komyeni wakhe. Kule meko, akukho nto kwaye ayikwazi ukuba yisisombululo sonyani kuphela, kwaye le meko imele ibhekelwe kuwo onke amanqanaba afanelekileyo, kwaye kuphela emva kokucwangcisa amanyathelo angaphezulu. Siza kuqwalasela indlela enokuziphatha ngayo ukuba indoda iyatshintsha.
Iingcali zengqondo malunga nokungcatsha komyeni wakhe
Okokuqala, xa ufunde ngokunyaniseka , kuyafaneleka ukucinga ngomthombo wolwazi olunjalo. Ukuba ngaba awuzange umfumane embhedeni nomnye, awukwazi ukukhanyela into yokuba umntu wakho wayetshayelwa, okanye wenza izigqibo ezingalunganga ngokwakho.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uqale, qiniseka ukuba umthombo wolwazi unokwethenjelwa ukuze ungabangeli i-scandals ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kwaye kuphela kwimeko apho uyaqiniseka ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo, ungasondela kumyeni wakho ngencoko enomnqophiso.
Nangona kunjalo, phambi kokuba unqume ukufumana into yonke, cinga, ufuna ukufezekisa ntoni? Kufuneka umbeke icala, akucele uxolo, ukuba uyeke, kwaye intsapho yakho iphile? Okanye ufuna ukumtyhila kwaye uyinike, kuba awuyi kukunyamezela oku? Imfihlo evezwe yeso si cwangciso yimeko engathandeki kubo bobabini, kwaye kufuneka wazi kakuhle ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa ngezenzo zakho. Oku kuxhomekeke kwindlela yokuziphatha xa kuthengiswa komyeni wakhe.
Abanye abafazi bathanda ukuthula. Ewe, ndayifaka, kodwa xa uqala ukudibanisa, kunokukho iingxaki. Ngoko ke zonke izinto ziya kulubala ngokukhuselekileyo. Ukuba ufuna nje ukulungelelanisa ubudlelwane kwintsapho, cinga malunga nokuba ufuna le ngxoxo nonke.
Ndixolele umyeni wam?
Kule meko, kungekhona wonke umntu oza kunika iingcebiso. Kweminye imibutho, ukunyaniseka kubonakala kukunyaniseka, kanti kwabanye, abaxhomekeke kuxolelo. Ukuba uthetha nomyeni wakho, unokumisela ubunzima be "ulwaphulo-mthetho." Ukuba le nto yinto emfutshane kwimeko yokuxiliswa - yinto enye, kwaye ukuba nangapha
Ziphulaphule, ucinge, unokukuxolela? Intsapho yakho ayikwazi ukuba khona ukuba kukho nayiphi na imeko yongquzulwano uya kukhumbula elidlulileyo. Ngoko ke hamba oko kuphela xa uxabisa intsapho yakho kwaye ulungele inkatho. Ukuba unquma ukuba awukwazi ukuxolela, qiniseka ukuba ucinga ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva kokuba uyashumayeza. Kufuneka uxazulule iingxaki ngezindlu, uvuselele ngokutsha ubomi bakho, uphinde ukhumbule kubantu. Ngaba ufuna ngokwenene? Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo esinjalo, zama ukuzinika ubuncinane iintsuku ezimbalwa ukupholisa phantsi kwaye wenze isigqibo ngentloko ebanda.