Iimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kulo mbuzo zifumaneka kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, kutheni ungatsho ukuba amadoda afuni ukutshata, kuba ayesaba ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yabo eqhelekileyo? Okanye ungathethi ukuba amadoda akafuni ukutshata, kuba abafuni ukuboshwa kuphela ngumlingani wesini? Ekugqibeleni, kutheni ungavumi ukuba abantu abafuni ukutshata kuba sele benomtshato ongaphumeleli?
Nangona kunjalo, ngokwalo ndididekile ngolu hlobo. Kwakuhlala kusekho imitshato engaphumeleli, rhoqo loo ndoda ibhekwa njengetyumba, kwaye yayihlala ifuna ukugcina inkululeko. Nangona kunjalo, watshata, wayenabantwana, waza wathwala uxanduva lwakhe kwintsapho yakhe. Izifundo zithi amadoda aphephe ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane beentsapho kuphela kwiminyaka engama-40 edluleyo-abakhetha ukuba kube lula ukukhetha ukuhlalisana.
Ukungayithobeli iimpendulo ezingentla apha kumbuzo wokuba kutheni amadoda engathandi ukutshata, ndiza kunika mna, uqale kwigama elithi "cohabitation". Okanye, njengokuba ifufusa ngoku ukulivakala, - "umtshato womtshato". Ngandlela-thile ndingaqonda ukuba ngexesha le-NEP, kubasebenzi bemanyano yamanyano kwiindawo zokubambisa ezibomvu eziboshwe ngasemva, umtshato wasemzimbeni wawunokuphazamiseka okuphefumlelweyo kweziseko zesigqeba. Elinye ilizwe, elinye ixesha. Kodwa ndixelele ukuba kutheni le nxaxheba ifunekayo ngamantombazana anamhlanje.
Ndiyayiqonda xa umyeni osemthethweni ekhanyisa iwashi. Kodwa ukuxhatshazwa iiyure ezingama-24 ngemini ukugqabhuka komntu ongagunyazisiyo ukuba nawuphi na umzuzu unokuphela, kwaye ngubani omele uhlambe kwaye uyitye i-panties-shirts ngexesha elinye?
Ay! Amantombazana abathandekayo, bafazi abathandekayo, bafazi bamaqabane! Musa ukufikelela kufumaneka - ukuze ungagcini ubuchopho bakho ebusuku ngoba kutheni akafuni ukutshata naye. Indoda ayizange iqonde oko kwakulula ukuba akwenze.
Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba bangaphi amadoda ahlukeneyo kwiminyaka eyavuma kum ukuba bakhetha abafazi babo kuba abazange bahlale nabo ngobusuku bokuqala baqhelana nabo. Ingaba ucinga ukuba oku kumangalisa? Kwaye kutheni? Namhlanje, amadoda awafuni ukutshata nabafazi abakhanyayo njengokuba bengenakukwenza oko amabini amabini adlulileyo, ngenxa yokuba ubuntu buntu buguqulwa!
Khawucinge nje ukuba umntu uthanda ntoni kum kwaye unesiqingatha-uphonsa umngane: "Yaye yintoni na into eyenziwa yi-pronephthalene moth?" Kulungile, akukho nto iya kuwela kwamaphiko, ngoko ke ndiya kuqhubeka.
Ukuba umntu akafuni ukutshata
Ngaba lo mbuzo? Ngomxholo wento enokuyenza xa umntu engafuni ukutshata naye, nangona uhlala kunye iminyaka emininzi? Ukuqokelela iingalo zakhe kwaye umthumelele kwindlela ekuvela kuyo. (Musa ukulibala ukumnika i-teeth and shaving blades ukuze asinaso isizathu sokukukhathaza kwakhona). Ukupakisha izinto zakho kwi-suitcase yakho oyintandokazi, phosa isibini sakho sitshixo esivela kwindlu yakhe kwi-balcony, phuma uze uthi: "Ndingumfazi okhululekileyo!"
Ukuba ukrokre ukuba le ndoda ayifuni kwaye ayiyi kutshata, kutheni uchithe ubomi bakho kuye? Indoda ingaba nabantwana kuma-60 nakwa-80. Iminyaka yobudala yowesifazane ibangelincinci. Kodwa nangona ungafuni ukuba nabantwana (enoba ndingathandabuzeki), kutheni nawaphosa loo mathuba enyulu, abo baqhelanisayo, ezo ntlanganiso ezintsha kunye namathuba okutshata, ukuba unokufumana ukuba ukhululekile? Ufuna ukuba nomyeni kunye nawe, kungekhona ohlala naye okanye othanda, mhlawumbi ungafuni ukubuza ukuba kutheni angakukutshata. Akunjalo?
Kodwa nceda ungaxeleli ukuba uyamthanda. Uthando luthatha ukulingana komoya kunye neemvakalelo, kungenjalo ukuxhomekeka okungekho nto.
Kutheni afuna ukutshata?
Kutheni? Ukuba uhlala kunye naye, akafuni ukutshata naye ngesizathu esilula ukuba akayi kubona loo nto. Yintoni eya kutshintsha - ngaphandle kokuba esinye isitampu siya kufakwa kwipasipoti? Amadoda ayedla ngokutshata nabasetyhini abahlala nabo njengamaqabane amaninzi iminyaka. Ngaloo ndlela, ukuphazamiseka malunga nokuba kutheni, yena, umqabane, akayi kutshata naluphi na uhlobo, akufuneki ukuba.
Ndiyazi umzekelo ongaphezu komnye, xa intombazana encinci iqhutyelwa ngumgibe wokuhlala kunye nentanga yakhe, iphinda ibuza ukuba kungani umfana engafuni ukutshata naye. Kwiminyaka eyi-10-15, lo mfana oselula wajika waba yindoda eyayazi kwaye yaqalisa intsapho kunye nomnye okhethiweyo. Yaye intombi yakhe yangaphambili-ixesha elide alikho intombazana encinci - ngokukhawuleza yaqonda ukuba ibhinqa elineminyaka engama-35 ubudala liza kutshata kakhulu kunowama-25 ubudala.
Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, kodwa udibanise iminyaka emininzi-ke ndivumele ndikubuze umbuzo olandelayo. Ngaba kwenzeka ukuba kuwe ukuba indoda ayifuni ukutshata nawuphi na umfazi, ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba akayiyo yonke loo ntokazi?
... andiyiqondi ukuba ngubani na kwaye kutheni ukuba amadoda ayengafuni ukutshata. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bayathandana, ngokuqinisekileyo, batshata, baneneni, banabantwana. Kwaye phakathi kwam bahlobo banamabini abasha abashadile, apho amadoda adonsa abafazi bawo. Yintoni eyimfihlo? Amadoda athanda abo bafazi abazithandayo. Yaye ngubani, ngokuphendula kwisiphakamiso esithi: "Masihlale kunye!" Gxuma amahlombe abo uphendule: "Kutheni? Ukuba sitshatile, siya kuhlala kunye kunye. "