Oku kunomdla, ukucwasa malunga nesimo esingaphantsi komfazi sele siphelile, kodwa kude kube ngoku amantombazana angafikeleli ixesha elide lokutshata (ongenalo ubuhlobo obusondeleyo okanye obude kunye nendoda) abonwa njengamantombazana amdala. Kwaye le nickname ayikho into ehloniphekileyo, abantu abakuboni oku kungengqibelelo kunye nokunyaniseka, kodwa njengentombazana engaphiliyo kunye nokungafanelanga impilo yakhe. Ngaba kunene kakhulu ukuba ngumfana osemdala?
Ngubani oomantombazana endala?
Ngaphambili, intombazana engatshatanga (kwaye ngoko yayilondoloza ubuntombi bendalo) kwaze kwaba neminyaka eyi-25 ithathwa njengendoda endala. Wayebuhlungu ngabo bonke abafazi abatshatileyo, kuba ukuthatha umfazi onjalo kwakunokuba ngumhlolokazi kuphela, kwaye ngoko intombazana yayidlulile iminyaka yakhe indima ye-prizhivalka. Namhlanje, iintombi ezindala zibizwa ngokuba bangenalo ixesha lokutshata kwaye banabantwana abaneminyaka engama-30-35. Kuyinto enomdla ukuba ngoku loo nto inokuthiwa ngumntu oneminyaka engamaqabane amaninzi ezesondo, okokuthi, icala lezinto eziphathekayo kulo mbandela alinandaba kakhulu noluntu. Kodwa abasetyhini abangatshatanga basoloko begwetywe kwaye batyhonywe ngeyitizo. Ngenxa yokuba amantombazana bacinga, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bahlala njani umkhonzazana omdala, kwaye bazame ukudonsa abafana babo kwiofisi yokubhalisa. Kukho abantu abanjalo abaya kuba nayiphi na intengo ukuya kwi-30 iminyaka etshatileyo. Vumela ubudlelwane bungahambi kakuhle, kwaye kuya kufuneka siphumelele ukuqhawula umtshato kwiminyaka embalwa (okanye iinyanga), kodwa indandatho eminwe yaqinisekiswa. Kulungile ukuba kukho ambalwa amaxhoba ombono woluntu, ngenxa yokuba intombi endala ingaba kunye nokuphila ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, kwaye sele isatshatile, kwaye yazala abantwana abambalwa. Yonke into malunga neengqondo zentombazana endala, luhlobo lokuxilonga, isifo omele ulwa nayo ukuba umnqweno wokwakha uluntu olonwabileyo aluzange luphele.
Iingqondo zeentombi ezindala
Ubudala, apho intombazana engatshati ibonwa njengendoda endalazana, kunzima ukuyibiza igama, kuba ayikho into ecacileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo nabani na oya kuphendulela ulwimi ukuba abize ibhinqa elizilungele kakuhle, elinesicatshulwa se-40-45. Kwaye akukho kwimizimba ye-physiology - amantombazana amaninzi, ngokukhawuleza ukuhlukana ngokungabamsulwa, akuyi kubangela ukuba unxulumane nomfanekiso wendoda endala. Konke malunga nomlingiswa, indlela yobomi bomfazi onjalo, kukho enye into ebizwa ngokuba yi-syndrome yesigqilakazi esidala. Kubonakaliswa kwisimo sengqondo esikhethekileyo kwabanye, ngendlela yokunxibelelana. Abafazi abanjalo basoloko beqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqha, bahlekisa bonke abakwaziyo, ngakumbi amadoda. Bathandazela ukuqikelela ukuphela kovuyo kubahlobo babo kunye nabaqhelana kunye nokugcoba xa iziprofeto zabo zizaliseka. Amantombazana amdala anomdla kakhulu kwizinto zesini zobomi. Kukho iindlela ezimbini ezinokwenzeka: nokuba ngaba umfazi uhlala ekhuluma malunga nokuhlaselwa kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha, uthetha ngezikrini, i-intanethi kunye neemagazini zoononopopasho, okanye uziphatha njengomntu wesini, uzama ukumnika iingcebiso malunga naye kule nxalenye, ukubonisa ulwazi kwiimpapasho zentombi.
Akunakuhlala njani umkhonzazana omdala?
Ukuba ubonakaliswe ngokugqithiseleyo kwimbono yoluntu kunye ngokunyanisekileyo
Ukuba awukuziboneli ngephene ngenxa yokungahambi kwesigxina esisigxina, ngoko awuyidingi. Enyanisweni, zihlolisise ngokukhawuleza iimpawu zentombazana endala, ukwenzela ukuba usitshise ngesinyithi eshushu. Awufuni ukuphendukela kwiqela lokugcoba? Ngoko ungakulibala ukulandela ukubonakala kwakho, indlela yokunxibelelana nabanye. Futhi ungesabi ukuzithoba ngesini esahlukileyo - lo mdlalo awuyi kukulimaza, nokuba awuyi kukhula ibe yincwadi.