Fumana isihloko esahlukileyo, ukuvelisa izimvo ezahlukeneyo njengokuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi obunzima. Ukuthabatha ubuncinci ubudlelwane kumgama , umbuzo wokuba uyakhe kwaye uphile njani unomdla kuninzi. Kwaye nangaphezulu, le nkalo iyinkambinkimbi. Omnye uthi ubudlelwane bomgama buhlolwe kuphela, kwaye omnye umntu uyaqiniseka ukuba umgama ubulala naliphi na, nobudlelwane obuphathekayo kunye nentembelo. Masizame ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani ofanelekileyo kule meko.
Umbono onobuchule
- Ngomntu obathandayo uhlala ufuna ukusondelana, ngoko kuyahlukana kuya kuba buhlungu. Uqhagamshelwano oluqhelekileyo alusekho, kuba ithuba lokubona alisekho, kwaye iingxoxo zefoni (nakwiimfowuni zevidiyo) aziyi kubonelela ngokufanelekileyo. Isibini esingabikho nxibelelwano, siya kulahlwa.
- Kungekudala okanye kamva, phakathi kwembini kude, ukungathembeki kuqala, abantu bahlukunyezwa ngomona, kunye nabo ngokungathandabuzeki ngokunyaniseka komlingane. Ngenxa yoko, izimo zengqondo ziletha ukudideka kuphela, kwaye ukusebenzisana okunjalo akunakuqonda.
- Xa usekude, akucaci oko kuya kwenzeka emva koko. Ubonakala ubumbene, kodwa awukwazi ukucwangcisa ikamva lakho. Okwangoku, ixesha lidlulayo, ulutsha, ubuhle kunye nempilo ziyachithwa. Kwakhona, ubuhlobo obunjalo bulindele ukuphuka.
- Omnye umgca wobudlelwane obude kumanqanaba okunyuka, kuya kufuneka uchithe imali endleleni, izipho ezifunekayo ukuba zithunyelwe kwesinye isixeko, njl. Ukongezelela, ngaphandle kwakho, unokufumana ixesha elide lokudibana nabahlobo bakho, oku kuthetha ukuba imali iyanda.
Zonke ezi zinto zingentla kunye nezinye ezininzi zivumela ukuba siqiniseke ukuba ubudlelwane ekude alukwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide. Kungekudala okanye elinye iqabane liza kudinwa nokungaqiniseki okanye ukungaqiniseki kwixesha elizayo, kwaye iyanquma ukuchitha ixesha kwiinkalo ezithembekileyo ngakumbi okanye iya kuqala ukuzonwabisa ubomi ngokugcwele, kodwa yedwa.
Kwabo bakholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo
Ukuhlukana kumntu omthandayo kuhlala kunzima, kodwa baninzi banokuqiniseka ukuba oku akuyi kubuhlungu ukuhlala ekuthinteni. Kwaye abo bathetha ngokungaphumeleli kweengcamango, ithemba liphendula ukuba ukuba ubuhlobo obude buqiniswe ngamandla, ngoko awuyi kuluhlukana.
- Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngokungakwazi ukujonga nganye imini? Umntu kufuneka abe neyakhe indawo kunye nokuhlala ngokwahlukileyo - indlela engcono yokumgcina ehambelana. Ngenxa yoko, ezininzi izizathu zansuku zonke zokuxabana zilahlekile, uthetha kuphela xa ufuna.
- Ewe, iintlanganiso aziqabile, kodwa ngelo xesha akukho mntu uya kubhekisela kwintloko yesifo okanye ukukhathala emva komsebenzi. Ngobudlelwane obude ngexesha leentlanganiso ezinqabileyo, unomdla ogqithiseleyo kunye neemvakalelo eziphosakeleyo.
- Iingcali zengqondo zithi ekubudlelwaneni ekude kukho ukungabi nokholo kwiqabane. Ewe, ke umntu onokungaqiniseki kunye noxinzelelekileyo akayi kubuhlungu ukuba abe neshwele nokuba ahlale esondele kwisiqingatha sakhe! Ngoko umcimbi apha awukho nakwiikhilomitha phakathi kwabantu, kodwa kwinqanaba lenkululeko yabo yangaphakathi.
- Ingaba ubomi obude bangela ikusasa elizayo? Ngoko ngubani okhusela ukuxoxa ngokukhawuleza ukuba yeyiphi na into ekulindelwe kulobu dlelwane kwaye kufuneka bahlakulele kuphi? Ukuba ukwenza ngexesha, kuninzi ukungaqondani kunokuphetshwa.
Njengoko uyakubona, zikho izizathu ezininzi zolu hlobo lweengxabano, kwaye zivakala zikholisa. Kuphela nje kukho enye into ebonakalayo - yonke into inokuxubusha ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye yonke into iyavumelana, kwaye ukuhlukana akuyi kuba ngumqobo, kodwa kuphela xa uhlala ndawonye ndawonye. Kwimeko efanayo, ukuba ungenayo iiplani ezinjalo, kungekudala okanye ifowuni iya kuzwakalisa "Ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane kumgama" okanye "Andifuni ukwenza okunye."