Nangona ulwalamano lwalube lubi kakhulu ukususela ekuqaleni kwaye kwakungenalo uthando olukhethekileyo phakathi kwamaqabane, ukuhlukana kwinqanaba lomnye wabo lihlala libuhlungu omnye. Ukuzithemba kwakhe kunye ne-ego yakhe ibuhlungu, kwaye umkhwa wakhe awuhambi. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukunqanda umnqweno wokuphosa umfana kwi-Intanethi okanye kwifowuni kwaye unqume ukudibana ubuso nobuso. Yaye ukuba ungabelana njani nomntu ngaphandle kokumcaphukisa, uya kuxelwa apha ngezantsi.
Uninzi ulutsha luvakalelwa kukuba lulwalamano nomntu othandekayo - oku kanye kunye nobomi. Nangona kunjalo, phambi kokubonakala kwesigxina sesibini ebomini babo, kusekho ixesha elininzi, kodwa ngaba zifundo ezininzi kunye nezixhobo ezikwazi ukuzenza! Abaninzi abazicingi malunga nokuba bahlupha abanye njani baze bahlukane, bahlazise umlingane kwaye bamangalele ngazo zonke izono zokufa. Nangona kunjalo, zonke izenzo zibuye zibuyiselwe ngokubuyisela, kwaye yimi kutheni kubalulekile ukubonakalisa ukungcola kumntu oyintandane kunye nokuzikhusela iimvakalelo zakhe.
Indlela yokuphosa umntu ngaphandle kokumcaphukisa?
- Okokuqala, akufanele "udonsa amathaya" uze ulungise incoko "kwibhokisi elide". Ngokweendlela yokuziphatha kwentombazana loo mntu usenokuqala ukuqagela ngesimo sengqondo sawo kwaye ahlupheke kwizinto ezingaziwa. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye uvumelane kwintlanganiso, esilumkise ukuba ingxoxo enzulu iya kubanjwa. Ukuba kukho ukukrokra ukuba iqabane lizakwenza ngokungafaneleki: ukukhala, ukuwa emadolweni, ukucela ukuba utshintshe ingqondo yakhe, okanye uqale ukusongela, intlanganiso inokumiselwa kwindawo enabantu abaninzi kwaye ize ifike kunye nentombazana engakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle xa amaqabane athetha.
- Ukuze ususe umfana ngaphandle kokumcaphukisa, unokuthi nje intliziyo ithi. Musa ukuphakamisa izwi lakho, umemeza uze usolumke into yangaphambili kuyo nayiphi na into. Njengomthetho, abo basenethemba lokuba batshintshe into baze bagcine ubudlelwane babo buziphatha njengale, kwaye akunakuncedo kwabo bathatha isigqibo esiqinileyo. Ngenkcazo, isizathu sokuhlukana asikwafanelekanga, kwanele ukuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane sele buphelile kwaye umnqweno wokuwubona nje
Othandekayo akasekho. Unako ukunambitha ipilisi, uthi ungumhlobo omhle ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye kuhle ukuba wayehlala njalo. - Ukuthetha ngendlela yokwenza inxaxheba nomntu ngaphandle kokumcaphukisa, unokunika ingcebiso ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba umbulele ngazo zonke ezo zihlandlo ezimnandi ebomini kunye kunye nomnqweno wokonwaba .
Ngomntu onentshisekelo yokwenza inxaxheba ngaphandle kokuphula umthetho, sinokuthi akulula, kodwa yonke into iyinyani, xa kukho umnqweno kwaye ufuna ukushiya enye indlela emnandi emphefumlweni wakho.