Umntwana wakho ukhula, kwaye waqala ukucinga ngokukhulelwa kwesibili. Ngoko ke ndifuna ukukhupha le ntsoko yomntwana kwakhona, ukuphazamisa isikhumba sakhe esiqhenqileyo kwaye sibone oku kukhangeleka, ukuba ngubani umama yonke into. Kodwa xa ufunda malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho okwesibini, uzama ukulindela iziganeko uze uqhathanise ikhosi yayo yangaphambili. Kuyafana nokubeletha. Kodwa, ngokutsho koogqirha, ukuzalwa kokuqala neyesibini akusoloko kuhamba ngendlela efanayo. Ngokuphambene noko.
Ukuhlalutya ukukhulelwa kwakho kwangaphambili kunye nekhosi yabasebenzi, kufuneka ugxininise kwizinto ezintle, kwaye kukuphi okukuthintele kwaye kwakha ixesha elibi. Ukukhuphela ukuphindaphinda kwezi zihlandlo ekukhulelwe kwangoku kunye nokubeletha, xubusha nodokotela wakho, mhlawumbi uya kukwazi ukuwaphepha ngeli xesha.
Ziziphi iintlukwano ezingabakho ekuzalweni kwesibili?
- Intloko yomntwana ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwesibini ingawela kwi-pelvis emva kokukhulelwa kokuqala. Oku kuya kwenzeka ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Ukuqhubela phambili kwi-pelvis, intloko iya kuqhutyelwa kwiimfazwe eziqalile.
- Xa kuthelekiswa nokuzalwa kokuqala, ngokuzalwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, umlomo wesibeleko unokuvula ngokuphindwe kathathu ngokukhawuleza. Le meko icaciswa ngento yokuba izicubu zedalesi yokuzalwa zaqina ngakumbi, kwaye into yokuba izihlunu ezithambileyo zomgangatho we-pelvic sele zoluliwe kwaye zanda ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, ukuzalwa okwesibini kuvelisa ubunzima obunzima. Ngenxa yokuvula ngokukhawuleza kwesibeleko, ixesha lokuphulaphula lifutshane. Kulula ukululaza iisiphako zesisu xa intloko yomntwana idlula.
- Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba ngokuhlukana kwesithathu kunye nesine kwinqanaba lokubambana ekuzalweni kokuqala, amathuba okuphinda aphindaphindiweyo aphezulu. Kodwa oku akuyona imfundiso kwaye oku akusoloko kunjalo.
- Kulula ukubeleka okwesibini, kuba le nto ibhinqa sele ikwazi ukuphefumula ngokuchanekileyo ngexesha lokubambisa, njani kwaye nini ukuchukumisa. Uyazi ukuba akudingeki ukuba uchithe amandla kumabhobho, kodwa kufuneka utyande ngakumbi kwaye usebenze ngamalinge . Oku kuza kusindisa amandla ekunyamekelweni kwintsana kwaye kufutshane ixesha lokubuyisela lomzimba emva kokusebenza.
- Umzimba ulungisa amava okuqala kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixesha lithuba, intuitively lilungiselela ukuphindaphinda. Ixesha elifanelekileyo phakathi kokukhulelwa livela kwiminyaka emithathu ukuya kwiminyaka emihlanu. Ngeli thuba, unina unokubuyisela amandla kunye neendawo zokugcina izondlo eziyimfuneko ekuqeshweni okuqhelekileyo kunye nokubeletha.
Iingxaki ezinokubakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo
Ukuzalwa kwesibini akuxhomekeke kwindlela ozalwa ngayo kuqala. Kwaye akukho namnye ongayiphendula umbuzo wokuba ukuzalwa kwesibili kuya kuba lula. Konke kuxhomekeke emzimbeni wakho kunye nokuba ulungele kangakanani kubo. Inkqubo yabasebenzi iyathinteka lixesha lomama, isithuba phakathi kokugqibela nokukhulelwa kwangoku. Ukungabikho kwemali kunye nokukhupha isisu ngexesha lokukhulelwa kukuchaphazela kakubi ikhondo lezemisebenzi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho wokuqala wazalelwa ngobukhulu obukhulu kunye nezisindo ezinkulu,
Ukuhanjiswa okuphindaphindiweyo kwabasetyhini abangaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amane kunokuba nzima, kodwa ngoncedo lwabagqirha, iingxaki ezininzi zingagwenywa kwaye ukuzalwa kuza kukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Abaninzi abasetyhini abangaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amane ngaphandle kweengxaki zizalela kwaye zizalela abantwana. Ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kokuqala ekukhutsheni ukukhulelwa kokuqala ukuphindaphinda kweso sesibini.
Ukwazi ngokucacileyo indlela ukuzalwa oku-2 kunokudlulela ngayo, kwaye sele sele wazi amavavanya amaninzi, ukuba iindinyana zezihlandlo zithatha njani abanye abesetyhini, kufuneka ulungelele wena kunye nomzimba wakho ukuba ube neengcinga ezilungileyo. Kubalulekile ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi emoyeni omtsha, kulula ukuhamba kwaye ufumane ukuzonwabisa okukhulu kwimeko yabo.