Kwiyeza, ezininzi iingxaki zengqondo zichongwa, ezibizwa ngokuba yi-phobias. Icandelo ngalinye lifuna indlela ethile kunye neyonyango olufanelekileyo phantsi kolawulo lweengcali. Ukwesaba isizungu kubizwa ngokuba yi-autophobia.
Ziziphi izinto zokuzimela?
I-Autophobia yintlupheko yengqondo e sekelwe ukwesaba ukuba yodwa. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthiwa yi-monophobia okanye i-isolophobia. Ukuzimela, njengezinye izifo zengqondo, kubalulekile ngokukhawuleza ukuba zichonge kwaye ziqale unyango. Ezi zigulane azigcini nje ukuba zodwa, kodwa zidla ngokuzibulala. Ngako oko, amanyathelo afike ngexesha angakwazi ukuphelisa ukwesaba, kodwa angasindisa ubomi bomntu. Ngokwezibalo, phakathi kwezigulana ezizenzekelayo, zifunyanwa zibulala abantu abaninzi.
Ukuzimela - iimpawu
Izimpawu zokuqala zingabonakalisa ebusaneni. Ingane, ukuba yedwa kunye naye, ivakalelwa yintswelo yokwesaba nokukhuseleka, kwaye ibonakalisa ngezinyembezi kunye nexhala. Ukubonakaliswa kwe-somatic ye-pathology kuboniswa yi-neurodermatitis kunye nezinye izifo zesikhumba. Xa ukwamkelwa esikolweni, ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwanda, i-phobia iyaqina. Abantwana besikolo banesaba ukuba bodwa kunye neengxaki kunye nobunzima babo, kwaye baninzi bawela "kwiinkampani ezimbi".
Njengoko abantu abadala bekhula, baqala ukwesaba ukuhlala bebodwa xa bekhulile, bengayifumani iqabane. Ukuba yonke into yavela kakuhle, umgudu wokutshata wafumana utshatile, isifo sakhe sibonakalisa ukukhweleka kwengqondo kumlingane wakhe. Ukongezelela kubomi bomntu, izigulane zifumana ubunzima ekusebenzeni ubomi. Ukukhanya kunye neqondo eliphakathi lokukhubazeka akubonakali kakhulu kwabanye.
Izinto eziphambili ziquka:
- uxhapha lwangaphakathi lwangaphakathi kunye nemihlali;
- ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kunye nokuxhalaba;
- Ukulangazelela ukuzaliseka kwezenzo ezithile (kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu, isigulane asikwazi ukuhlala kwindawo yokuhlamba yedwa, idinga inkxaso kuyo yonke indawo);
- xa yedwa, isigulane sinoyika ukwesaba kobuhlwempu, ingqiqo enkulu yokuzonwabisa kunye nokuxhalaba;
- ukungabikho kwamathuba okubandakanya imisebenzi efuna ukuzimela;
- Kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu, isigulane esivame ukuba nesimo esixinezelekileyo esicacileyo sokuzibulala.
Kutheni abantu besoyika isohlwayo?
Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kubakho ukususela ngenxa yobuthathaka bokubazali, ukungabikho kokuthintana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Inkqubela iyaqwalaselwa ukuba umntwana wayekuloo meko ade aneminyaka emithathu. Ukuba eso sifo sibonakaliswa ngumntu omdala, oku kungenziwa lula:
- uhambo olukhawulezayo lobomi;
- yengqesho esigxina;
- ukungabi nako kwexesha;
- ukuhlukana nomlingane;
- ukufa komntu othandekayo.
Uloyiko lonwabo - ingqondo
Iingcali ziqinisekile ukuba ubuncinane kanye ngexesha lobomi bomntu ngamnye uvakalelwa ukwesaba ukuxhwa. Uninzi lwabantu, ekuqapheliseni ukuba oku akusiyo isigwebo, ukujamelana ngempumelelo kunye nabahlobo bokwenene, bakha iintsapho kwaye bahlala bevuya ngonaphakade. Abo "banqotshwa" yi-phobia of loneliness, baba ngabathinjwa kwimeko. Le ntsholongwane iyona nto inzima kwaye iqhelekileyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, emva kwayo kukho iingxaki ezininzi, umzekelo:
- kuxhomekeka kwengqondo;
- ku hlaselwa;
- izifo zengqondo.
Uloyiko lobuthathaka kwabasetyhini
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuba kutheni abantu besifazane banesiseko sokuzodwa, bazincoma kakhulu, bakha ebuntwaneni nasebuntwaneni. Njengomthetho, lo mbono uqobo lwabangelwa ukuhlekwa ngabanye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kubandakanywa nesini esahlukileyo, malunga nokubonakala, isigaba somzimba, ukusebenza kwesikolo esikolweni. Ukukhula, akusiyo yonke intokazi engakwazi ukuyihlola ngokwenene imeko, ngoko uhlala emphefumlweni womntwana osemva engaziqinisekanga. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akukho mntu uya kuthatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo, akavumeli umntu ukuba asondele kuye.
Uloyiko lonwabo kubantu
Njengabesifazana, amadoda ayesaba ukungabi nedwa, nangona anezinye izizathu ezininzi. Baqaphele ngakumbi kwisiqhotyoshelweyo kwintombazana kwaye abafuni ukuguqula umkhwa. Ukuba ibhinqa ngokwemvelo lifuna ukunyamekela izihlobo, ukwesaba umntu ukodwa kukuba ukwesaba ukuba akukho mntu uya kumnakekela. Ezinye iintsholongwane zinamandla kangangokuthi zikulungele ukumema intombi ukuba ihambe kuye emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa emva kwentlanganiso yokuqala.
Unokuyeka njani ukwesaba u lonwabo?
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuqonda ukugula, kwanobugqirha abanolwazi. Ukumisela isigulo, iingcali ziye zaphuhlisa imibuzo emininzi, imibuzo kunye nezikhokelo. Ukongezelela, udliwano-ndlebe kunye nesigulane sinceda ukufumanisa i-pathology kwii-psychotherapists ezifanelekileyo. Umntu oyika isohlwayo kufuneka aqhube izifundo ze-psychotherapy. Iiseshoni zenziwa kwiqela kunye ngasese. Isigulane sifanele siqonde ukuba unyango lwe-phobia lude, ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha iminyaka engama-3 yeseshoni rhoqo. Kwiimeko ezinzima, isigulane sichazwe ngamachiza.
Ungayinqoba njani uloyiko lobuncwane? Ngokweengcali, ukuqaphela ingxaki kwixesha elide sele sele liphumelele. Bacebisa ukuba bangazivali, kodwa babelane ngesaba kwabo ngabantu abasondeleyo. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukutyelela amacandelo ezemidlalo, hamba nabahlobo ngohambo. Imvakalelo emihle kunye nokubonakala okucacileyo kuya kunceda ukuba ubuyele kwimpilo evamile kwaye ulahleke i-phobia.