Esi sigama sethu, igama elithi "umtshato" linyaniswe ngokuqinile, njengoko iinombolo zixelela ukuba phantse yonke imitshato yesithathu iphelela ngale ndlela. Ukuqhawula iintsuku ezindala, kwakukho izizathu ezinzulu, umzekelo, ukutshatyalaliswa komlingane, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuqinisekiswa ngamaqiniso okanye umnqweno womfazi okanye umyeni ukuya kwindlu yeendwendwe.
Ngexesha elifanayo, ukulungisa umba - indlela yokuqhawula umtshato kumyeni okanye umfazi, ngokwaneleyo, ngamanye amaxesha, kuphela iimfuno zomnye wabatshatileyo. Ngeli thuba lexesha, isimo sengqondo sokuqhawula umtshato sasiba lula, kodwa ngelo xesha, akubona zonke izibini ezizahlukana ngokuchanekileyo, oko kukuthi, musa ukuzilimaza abantwana babo kunye nobomi babo bonke abahlali bezitha.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abaqalisi bokuqhawula umtshato bafazi, kodwa kukho amadoda ambalwa afuna ukuqhawula umtshato. Uninzi lwabantu lithatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato, xa befika ekuqondeni ukuba umtshato wabo uya kutshabalaliswa, kwaye isibini esingahlali siphinde siphelelane. Akulungele ukuqhawula umtshato xa kukho umntwana odibeneyo, kuba kunzima abantwana ukuba bamkele ukuhlukana kwabazali babo. Kule meko, inkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato iyinkathazo kwaye idelele, kwaye ukusuka kwingcamango yengqondo, umtshato uqonde kakhulu. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukunyamekela umntwana wakho kwaye ungamthathi kwinkqubo yomtshato, njengoko oku kungakhokelela kwingxaki engqondweni yengqondo yakho kumntwana wakho. Kwaye akukho mfuneko ukuba umntwana abonakale kunye nonina okanye uyise emva kokuqhawula umtshato.
Indlela yokuqhawula ngokufanelekileyo umyeni wakhe?
Kwaye ukuze uphendule umbuzo - indlela yokuqhawula ngokuchanekileyo evela kumyeni wakhe, kufuneka uphulaphule ezinye iingcebiso ezisuka kumsebenzi wabantu abasinda kumtshato:
- Ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umyeni wakho, kufuneka uhlalutye imeko kwigazi elibandayo. Uze wenze isigqibo ngokuqhawula umtshato xa kuphela ungaboni enye indlela yokuphuma kule ngxaki. Ukuba usenokwenza isigqibo "Ndiqhawula umyeni wam!", Kusukela ekuqaleni qalisa ukuguqulela umtshato kwisiqhelo somthetho kunye nezoshishino. Akukho mfuneko yokuhla ukuya ekuhlaziseni kunye kunye nokumangalisa.
- Nangona bonke abahlobo bakho, izalamane kunye nabalingane bakho bakholisa ukuba yinto ephosakeleyo yomyeni wakho, akufanele uhambe malunga nawo, kwaye ungazami ukuphindisela kwiqabane lakho. Xa uphaphaza kwaye unokuzithemba xa usondela kwinkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato, amathuba amaninzi uya kufuneka ugcine ubudlelwane obuhle emva komtshato.
- Ukuba umfazi akazi ukuba uya kutshatyalaliswa kumyeni wakhe, okanye kunokuba kuphi isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato, musa ukucaphuka, kufuneka nje ufumane i-ofisi yokubhalisa kwendawo kunye nengxenye yengxaki inokuthi isisombululo.
- Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuphelisa umtshato kwiofisi yokubhalisa kwendawo kuphela xa umtshato uqhawula ngesigqibo sabantu abatshatileyo abangenabantwana abangaphantsi. Kwimeko enjalo, isisombululo kwingxaki yokukhawuleza ukutshatyalaliswa kwindoda yakhe yinye - ifake isicelo kwiofisi yokubhalisa kunye nokufaka isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato. Ininzi, isibini sokuxolelana sinikwe inyanga, kwaye ukuba ngeli xesha abafazi abatshintshi isigqibo sabo-umtshato uthathwa njengesiqhelo semthethweni kwaye baya kukhutshwa isatifiketi somtshato esivunyelweyo.
- Kwiofisi zobhaliso, unokuqhawula umtshato ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wakhe, kodwa kuphela xa iqabane lichazwe lilahlekile okanye lingenakukhubazeka, okanye ixesha lokukhonza kwiindawo zokulahla inkululeko, ubuncinane iminyaka emithathu.
- Ukuba indoda okanye umfazi akavumelani nokuqhawula umtshato, okanye ukuba banabantwana abaqhelekileyo abangazange bafikelele kumntu omdala phambi komtshato, umtshato uya kupheliswa enkundleni.
Ukungeniswa kwamagunya amagosa kunyanzelekile nangona kukho impikiswano yomhlaba phakathi kwabatshatileyo, kuba loo mibuzo malunga nokuhlulwa kwepropati inqunywe kuphela kwiinkundla. Ngexesha leenkqubo zokuqhawula umtshato, inkundla kufuneka ithathele ingqalelo iimfuno zabantwana abancinci kunye nabatshatileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umyeni wakho utywala, iza kuxhamla kwiindawo zomfazi kunye nabantwana bakhe. - Khumbula, ukuze uqhawule umtshato umyeni wakhe, kufuneka ujike ixesha lokunceda ummeli oqeqeshiwe. Kungoku kukungaqondani kunye neengxaki ezinokuphetshwa.