Xa usuku lokuzalwa lomntu othandekayo lusondela, siqala ukucinga kwangaphambili indlela yokumhalalisa. Ndifuna ukulungiselela ukumangaliswa kum indoda yam ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ukuze akhumbule kwaye ayayixabise. Ngomngcipheko omkhulu weengcamango kunzima ukuyiqonda loo nto ifanelekile ukuyisebenzisa. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba akukho nto ayikho into enokumangalisa ngayo ngosuku lokuzalwa. Naliphi na, kukho ithuba lokubonisa nokucwangcisa okukhethwa kukho ukunyanzela umthandayo.
Imiba enomdla yokuzalwa
Into yokuqala esiyenzayo iqalisa uphando lwabo bonke abahlobo bethu abathandana nabasetyhini. Phantse nganye yesibini icebise ukuba ilungiselele ukuthanda okanye ukuhlwaya kwentsapho kunye nokukholisa umyeni wakhe ngesipho esibalulekileyo. Kodwa abahlobo bakhe banokuncoma into emnandi, kuba ubomi bentsapho buyashiya uphawu lwayo.
Ukwenza isimangalo ngomhla wokuzalwa unokuba ngeendlela ezininzi, ngezinye iindleko kwaye ngaphandle kwazo. Ngoko, makhe siqwalasele iindlela ezininzi zokuvuyisana nomntu oyintanda:
- Ku luncedo kakhulu ukuvuselela ngexesha lobomi bentsapho, kwaye loo mini ekhethekileyo ingaba sisizathu esihle salo. Khumbula indlela ebusheni bakho, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho, uhlolisise iiyure eziphantsi kweengubo zangaphantsi ukuze ummangalise. Indlela yokubhala i-SMS ngeentsingiselo ezingenanto. Thumela umntwana ku-ugogo kwaye ulungiselele yonke into ngobusuku obusondelene. Lungiselela isidlo esilula, uthenge ibhotile yewayini, qiniseka ukuba uhlambulule. Inkumbulo elungileyo nelingalindelekanga kumyeni wakhe ngosuku lokuzalwa kwakhe yinto yokuqhafaza, ekusebenzeni kwakho, kunjalo!
- Mhlawumbi maxa wambi uqaphela ukuba intanda yakho ithanda ukudlala njani nonyana wakhe okanye intombi kwaye igubha iiholide zezingane. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho wayengumntwana oqaqambileyo novuyo njengoko ezama ukumenza umntwana. Mhlawumbi le ngumbono weholidi? Xa umyeni elele elele, umlungiselele ngokwenene! Vula iibhola ezininzi kwaye uyihlobise indlu. I-vase enkulu kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zezinto ezihamba kuyo kwindawo evelelekayo nefikelelekayo, imibala eminingi emhlophe kunye nomculo. Iibhaluni zingapheliswa nge-helium, ngoko ziya kuphuma phantsi kwelayili, kwaye ngaphakathi ungakubeka amakhadi amancinci ngeemfuno okanye iiswidi ezincinane.
- Kungenzeka ukuba into emangaliswe yindoda kumhla wakhe wokuzalwa ngumcimbi omkhulu. Ngaphambi kwexesha, jonga ikamelo lobusuku uze uxwayise bonke abahlobo. Qinisekisa ukuthatha yonke into yokuba yonke into iya kuhlala iyimfihlo. Ukuba uyayazi izinto ezithandwa ngumntu othandekayo, lungiselela iqela. Uya kuyayixabisa!
- Umangaliso kumyeni wakhe ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa unokulungiswa! Umzekelo, ikhekhe elikhulu lobume obungavamile. Ingaba yikhekhe ngendlela yesifuba. Ngamanye amazwi, iinyo elimnandi isipho esilona siphambili.
- Yintoni onokuyinika indoda yakho? Ininzi yesigxina sesigxina sabemi siyabonga. Kodwa oku akusihlazo kulawulo lwaso, kodwa umlinganisi. Isikhumbuzo esihle siyakuvuyisa iliso ngaphezu kosuku olunye, kodwa into efunekayo neyimfuneko iya kuthokoza ngakumbi.
Unokwenza isilungiselelo umntu wakho ngokwakhe angayithengi. Ukuba unomdla wokuzonwabisa, kodwa uchithe imali eninzi kuye, inceba, nceda ujabule umyeni wakho ngokuthenga ixesha elide. Unako ukuthenga umshini wokucheba, kodwa ukukhangela kweJamani kuya kukukholisa intandokazi yakho eyithandayo. - Ngubani owathi into encinci yindoda kunye neengcinga ezixhamlayo zivakashela abantu kuphela? Bhala kwi-asphalt, isimemezelo sothando sinokwenzeka kumntu! Ukuxhotywe ngopende okanye ngesikhala kwaye kusasa ekuseni bhalalani ngomthandayo. Ukulula okunjalo, kodwa ukumangaliswa kwimihla yokuzalwa kunokuvelisa ubuncinane bentsapho yakho.