Inani elininzi labasetyhini lixhalabisayo ngokunyaniseka kweqabane labo. Kwiengqondo, kukho iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu uyatshintsha, kwaye iingcali zithi akudingeki uqaphele iqabane lakho, kuba lanele ngokwaneleyo ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo kumntu othandekayo kwaye umfanekiso uya kucaca.
Ungaziqonda njani ukuba indoda iyatshintsha?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ukuba kuyimfuneko ukubeka eceleni zonke iimvakalelo , ngenxa yokuba imfesane idla ngokukhawuleza kwiimifanekiso zentloko ezingekho. Okokuqala kufuneka uqikelele imeko, yenza isiphetho uze uqhubekele kwisenzo. Kukho imiqondiso ecacileyo yokuqhagamshelana nomnye umfazi: iphunga leqhumiso, izicatshulwa zomlomo, iinwele zeentombi okanye imiqatha emzimbeni.
Imiqondiso, indlela yokuqonda ukuba umyeni wakhe utshintshile:
- Kukho uluvo lokuba xa umntu enomnye umfazi, uqala ukujonga iliso, ukutshintsha iinwele zakhe, ikhabethe, njl njl. Kusebenza kuphela ukuba utshintsho lwenzeke ngokuphawulekayo kwaye kungekho sizathu esicacileyo.
- Ukufumanisa indlela yokuqonda ukuba umyeni utshintshile, kubalulekile ukukhankanya enye into eqhelekileyo - iifowuni ezingaqhelekanga kunye nemiyalezo. Ukuba umntu uyanqikaza ukuthetha nomfazi wakhe okanye uzama ukuyeka ingxoxo ngokukhawuleza, kunokwenzeka ukuba omnye umfazi umbiza.
- Utshintsho kwishedyuli yobomi bakhe, oko kukuthi, ukuba umyeni waqala ukuhlala emsebenzini, uhamba ngokuloba kwaye udibana nabahlobo, ngoko kufuneka uqikelele into yokuba loo mntu ufihla into ethile. Kwimeko yokuzola, cela umlingane wakho umbuzo othi kutheni ezo zinguqu zenzeka kwaye kwindlela yokusabela kunye nokuphendula kuthatha izigqibo.
- Ukuqiqa malunga nendlela yokuqonda ukuba uyatshintshwa, awukwazi ukuphosakela umlinganiselo obaluleke kakhulu - uhlalutyo lwentsebenziswano kunye neqabane. Okokuqala, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buyatshintshile, kwaye oku kukuxhalabisayo kokubaluleka kunye nobungakanani. Ukongezelela, cingisisa ixesha elide umyeni achitha ngayo, indlela ekuthetha ngayo kwaye abonise ingqalelo. Naluphi na utshintsho olungazelelwe lufanele luphakamise ukusola. Ngexesha elifanayo, kufuneka kuthiwe ukuba utshintsho olubi nolungileyo kufuneka luvalo, njengamaxesha amaninzi abaphangi, bezama ukulungiswa, zama "ukuthanda" umfazi wabo.
- Isibonakaliso esibonisa ubukho benkosikazi sinokuba yinkcitho engalindelekanga. Ukuba umntu uqala ukuletha imali encinci okanye imali yakhe ilahleka ekhadini lakhe, mhlawumbi uyayichitha kwabanye abafazi, kodwa ungabandakanyi into yokuba iqabane lilungiselela iliso kuwe.