Kungenzeka ukuba awukhethanga loo mntu. Ekuqaleni wayeyisela. Kwaye, ngokusemthethweni, unokukuthanda: onokuvuya, onobuqili, uyazi indlela yokuziphatha ezandleni. Ucinga ukuba uza kumbona ngale ndlela ngeeholide: umphefumlo wenkampani, nangona ungenanga. Nangona kunjalo, emva komtshato, akazange ayeke ukuzithiya utywala. Yaye wayenomdla kakhulu, de wayengaqondi - awuyithandi kakhulu loo nto. Kwaye ngakumbi - uvakalelwa kukuba ulungele ukumkhetha: nokuba mna, okanye utywala ...
Le meko ikhula njani?
Ukuba uyamthanda umyeni wakho, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uzama ukumnceda. Unamathela amaphephancwadi malunga neengozi zotywala kunye namakhadi oshishino oogqirha abathembisa ukujamelana nale ngxaki. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala kuwe ukuba umyeni uyayinaki iimbono, kwaye unqwenela ukuvuma ingxaki. Uyacaphuka, kwaye uzama ukusela ngasese kuwe. Unokuqala ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuqhawula umyeni onxilisayo, kuba ukuhlala naye kungenakubekezeleka. Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho abe nomona, kwaye unokukuthuka. Ukuba uyasinda kweli nqanaba, ngoko, mhlawumbi, kuya kulandelayo: uya kukucela ukuba uthethelele kusasa kwaye uthembisa ukuba ungaphuzi. Mhlawumbi umfanekiso ubonakala unzima. Kwaye unomdla.
Ewe, indlela elula yokuphuma kumyeni onxilisayo, kodwa makhe sicinge ngendlela yokuyilahleka ngenye indlela. Sombulula ingxaki yendlela yokunceda umyeni onxilisayo - umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje.
Ukwazisa uxanduva
Makhe sicinge ngesizathu sokuba umyeni wakho asela. Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukuba izakhi zengqondo zisebenza, okanye ngabahlobo ... Sisoloko sifuna izizathu kwihlabathi langaphandle, kodwa kweli nqaku sikhetha ukuba ukhethe indlela eyahlukileyo. Khangela isizathu ... kuwe. Kakade, awufuni ukuba umyeni wakho aphuze. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, wazama ukuba ngumfazi ongcono kwihlabathi. Kwaye ke, akusoloko ubeka ityala. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukutsala utywala.
Ukuba umntu wenqaba ukufumana ingxaki ngokwakhe kwaye wamkele uxanduva, ungacingi malunga noko ukwenzayo nendlela yokujongana nomyeni onxilisayo. Umzabalazo uyanceda ulahlekelwe amandla kwaye uzikhohlwe kwisiqephu esitsha senkozo. Thatha uxanduva lwakho: kungekhona umlutha wodakwa, kodwa ngenxa yobukho bakhe (ebomyeni) ebomini bakho.
Uxanduva alulingani netyala
Ukuqaphela uxanduva akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uzigwebe ngokwenzekayo. Umyeni onxilisayo ngokuqhelekileyo - lo bubungqina bokuba loo ntokazi ayithandi. Andiyithandi kwiqondo lomhlaba welizwi, ayamkeli. Ubangelwa ubundlobongela.
Khangela umyeni onamehlo ahlukeneyo
Ukuba uzimisele ukugcina intsapho, kodwa ungayazi ukuba ungaphila nomyeni onxilisayo, zama ukucinga ukugula kwakhe ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Umphefumlo wakhe ugula, kwaye utywala uyamnceda. Ayikho yonke ikhambi elungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, faka phambi kwakho elinye igama: uyiphatha umphefumlo ogulayo, kungekhona utywala. Utywala ngumphumo kuphela. Cinga ngaluphi isimo sengqondo umyeni wakho ofuna ukufumana xa esela?
Mhlawumbi kulo mzekelo uba ngumphefumlo wenkampani? Ngaba akanakunakekelwa okwaneleyo? I sibindi? Xa wayelisiwe, ngaba uyabathanda? Cinga malunga nokuba unako ukumnika isimo sengqondo afunayo, ngaphandle kotywala. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ndakanya isazi sengqondo senzululwazi esicacile kwiimeko ezinjalo.
Indlela yokuphilisa indoda enxilisayo? Ukunika uthando. Awuxoleli kunye nonke ukwamkela, kodwa uthando lokuzimela. Ukuba uthanda ngokwaneleyo kwaye uzamkele ngokwakho, ke lo mntu akayena ebomini bakho. Ngaloo ndlela, mhlawumbi isiqalo esithi "utywala" okanye "umyeni onxilisayo" kufuneka aphele.
Indlela yokulahla umyeni wakhe onxilisayo?
Usizi lenye yezona zizathu eziqhelekileyo ukuba kutheni umfazi enyamezela indoda ede ishiywe ngaphandle kwothando lwakhe. Kungenzeka ukuba le ndoda iya kucinezela kule ngongoma, iqinisekise ukuba le nto ayiyi kwenzeka kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iingxoxo ezidlulileyo (kunye nomzamo wokufumanisa imbangela engundoqo) zikhokelela ekubeni akukho nto, kwaye wena ngokwakho ulungele ukuhlukana nobudlelwane, kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe isigqibo esinamandla. Shiya ngokuchanekileyo:
- Enye ingxoxo inokwenza intliziyo yakho ivuke, ngoko kungcono ukuqokelela izinto zakho uze ushiye indlu. Musa ukuzibetha ngeengcamango ezinjengekho, ngaphandle kwakho. Wonke umntu unembopheleleko yobomi bakhe;
- uzame ukulumkisa abahlobo bakho ngaphambili ukuze bangakuxeleli malunga nokuhluleka kunye nokuncenga ukubuyela. Shiya iingcinga ezimbi nomyeni wakho;
- unike umtshato umtshato. Zama ukunciphisa uxhulumaniso nomyeni wakho ubuncinci;
- ukukhathazeka ngokukhuseleko lwakho: hambisa kubangani, musa ukuhlala wodwa. Ngokukodwa - ukuba kwindawo yokuxhatshazwa indoda yayithambekele ekuhlaseleni;
- uthathe intloko yakho kwezinye iingcamango. Faka isicelo kwiziko langaphandle, ukudansa okanye i-yoga. Olu hlobo luza kukuvumela ukuba uphumule kwaye uvumeleke ukuhamba kwimeko;
- banakekele abantwana. Abantwana banzima kwintsapho yabatywala, kwaye mhlawumbi, uchithe amandla amaninzi emzabalazweni, kungekhona ekukhuliseni inzala. Musa ukuyihoxisa le ngxaki, thetha nabantwana, kodwa ugweme ukutyhola. Kukulungele ukufuna uncedo lweengcali.