Kunzima kakhulu ukuthanda umntu ongenakufumana ukulungelelana. Kule meko, abaninzi abafazi banqwenela ukwazi ukuziphoqa ukuba bawulibale umntu ukuba aphile ngokuzonwabisa. Le mfuneko ivela xa ubuhlobo buphela, kwaye iimvakalelo zihlala. Ngelishwa, kodwa akukho nqakraza emzimbeni womntu onokuvumela ukulibala uthando . Isisombululo esifanelekileyo kukuthatha isiluleko kwi-psychologist.
Ungakulibala njani indoda?
Ukuba akukho ukulungelelana, ngoko ke akunakuncedo ukulwa nolwalamano, kuba baya kuzisa iintlungu. Kungcono ukunyaniseka kunye nawe kwaye uqaphele ukuba kufuneka uqhube phambili, kwaye iimvakalelo ezingezizo zonke izibambo ozifunayo ukuba uzilahle.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo zendlela yokulibala indoda:
- Gxininisa kuphela kwiimpawu ezintle zobonakala kunye nomlinganisi. Wonke umntu unesiphene kunye nezinto ezingamkelekanga kwaye zidibanise nabanye. Yiloo nto bafuna ukuphawulwa kuyo into yokudumisa kwaye bacinge ngayo kuphela kwisitya esinjalo.
- Ukuthetha ngendlela yokumkhohlwa umntu ngonaphakade, kukufanelekile ukunika iingcebiso ngokuphumelelayo-ngokuqhelekileyo ukushiya indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nokuhlangana nabantu abatsha. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuva ukuncoma kwaye ubone ingqalelo yindoda.
- Lahla zonke izinto ezikukhumbuza ngomntu owayesithandayo. Kubalulekile ukulahla izinto nje kuphela, kodwa nokukhupha iincwadi apho abantu abaninzi bathanda ukuphinda bafunde kwakhona, baxineke ngeemvakalelo eziphazamisekile. Lahla ixesha elidlulileyo ukuze wenze amava amatsha.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo izazi zengqondo, ukuthetha ngendlela yokulibala umntu oyithandayo, uyacetyiswa ukuba ufumane ishishini ngokwakho eliza kuthatha ixesha lakho lokuzikhethela kunye neengcamango. Ukuba yedwa, abafazi baxutywa kwiimvakalelo baze bahlupheke. Ndiyabulela uThixo, kukho uqeqesho oluninzi, ukuya
Ngokomzekelo, kunokuba nayiphi na into yokuzonwabisa, ukubukela iifilimu, ukuhamba, ukufunda iilwimi, njl. - Ukufumanisa indlela yokulibala umntu oye wakugxotha, kubalulekile ukukhankanya enye icebiso leengqondo ze-psychologists - ukuphosa iimvakalelo eziqokelelweyo. Kubalulekile ukuthetha kunye nokukhala, kwaye wenze kanye kanye. Ngokukhawuleza emva koko, unokuziva uncedo olukhulu. Ukongezelela, umntu osondeleyo oza kudlala indima "yexcoat" uya kuba nako ukuxhasa nokunika iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo.
Khumbula ukuba kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba namava amaninzi amava, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, kunye nexesha elidlulileyo kufuneka lishiye emva.