Xa siva ilizwi elithi "ukuthetha ngomlomo" kwiindawo eziphezulu zegama liqala ukuphinda, ukuchazwa kwento: "isenzi" - isenzi, isenzi, thetha. Ngenxa yoko, ngolwimi oluthethiweyo, ukuthetha ngomlomo kukudluliselwa kwanoma yiphi inkcazelo ngokuthetha.
Ngokubhekiselele kumnxibelelwano womlomo, iibhalwano ziyabonakala, ekubeni kubhaliweyo lawa magama afanayo, amabinzana, iibhalo.
Ingxoxo yomlomo kunye nenkulumo ebhaliweyo yintlobo yokuthetha ngomlomo. Ngaloo ndlela, intetho yomlomo ingamelwa ngumntu oyedwa-ibali lomntu oyedwa, kunye nencoko-yokutshintshiselana kwamanye amazwi phakathi kwabathengi. Yonke le ntetho ingaphandle.
Ingaphakathi liyilo elihle esilahlekileyo entloko, abanye banokuba neencokozo, okanye nendawo yokudlala. Ngokufanayo neentlobo zokunxibelelana ngomlomo, i-dactyl yinto ekhethekileyo yokunxibelelana kunye noncedo lwenkqubo ekhethekileyo yezenzo ezenziwe ngezandla.
Umxholo ophambili wokunxibelelana ngomlomo kunye nokuhluka kwawo ekungaboniswanga ngamazwi kubhalwe ngokuchanekileyo kunye nobubanzi beenkcukacha ezidluliselweyo ngoncedo lwamagama. Impawu kunye nesibonakaliso sobuso, ngokuqinisekileyo, zibonakaliso ezicacileyo kwaye ezinentsingiselo, kodwa zicaca ziphantsi kokwakha izandi. Kwaye kwimeko yokufumana abadibaniselwano bekude ukusuka komnye nomnye, ukuthetha ngomlomo kuphela kunokudala "ibhuloho" phakathi kwabo.
Iindlela zokunxibelelana ngezithethe
Kwaye kubhekiselwe ntoni kwiindlela zokuthetha zonxibelelwano? Enyanisweni, apho oku kuthetha khona. Zomibini iintetho zokubhaliweyo nezomlomo zithunyelwa njengeendlela zokuziphatha. Zizo ezi ndlela zisebenza njengeendlela zokunxibelelana ngomlomo.
Ngokomlomo sinokutshintshiselana ngolwazi nabantu bethu, abaqhelana nabo, abahlobo, abahlala ngqo kwindawo yethu kunye nexesha lethu. Kodwa ngoncedo lwentetho ebhaliweyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha kuphela kude, kodwa ukuba uqhelane nelifa elipheleleyo kwizizukulwana ezininzi ezininzi, iimbali ezipheleleyo, imbali, iingxelo zembali kulo lonke ubukho babantu: ukusuka kwimifanekiso yamatye kwimicimbi emitsha yamaphephandaba.
Imithetho yokuthetha ngomlomo
Umgaqo wukuthi kuyimfuneko ukuthobela ukufezekisa injongo ekujoliswe kuyo, ngaphandle koko, kuya kuphelelwa, ukudideka nokungahambi kwesiphumo esifanelekileyo.
Uqhagamshelwano lomlomo lufuna ukuthotyelwa kwemithetho ethile:
- Intetho yesithethi kumphulaphuli ibonisa ukuba khona kwentlonipho yokuqala kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo malunga nokugqibela.
- Ukuphepha ukufakwa kwesimo somntu, indawo yokujonga kwimiba nayiphi na into, ukuhlolwa komntu, imeko. Okanye ingxoxo enengqiqo "yeengcingo eziphambili."
- Ukugcina ukungahambisani kwintetho, ukujonga ingcamango kwindawo ebonakalayo.
- Ukukhethwa kwendlela yokuthetha ngokuhambelana nokubambisana kweqabane ekunxibelelaneni nohlanga oluthile, i-subculture, iklasi yentlalo.
- Ukuqwalaselwa komyalelo weengcamango zengcamango, ukuphazamiseka komnxibelelwano ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, kuya kubonisa isithethi njengomntu onenkcubeko ephantsi yentetho.
Indlela yokwenza uxhulumaniso lwentetho luphumelele?
Nabani na othanda naluphi na uhlobo unxibelelwano wabuza umbuzo ofanayo. Kwaye ukuba kunikwe mntu kwizinto ezigqibeleleyo, wenza iimpazamo kwenye yeendlela zokunxibelelana. Nqabile njengoko kubonakala ngathi, akunzima kakhulu ukuba ngumthandana othandekayo nofunayo.
Kwanele ukugcina kwingxoxo ngala manqaku alandelayo:
- Nangona ixesha libiza kakhulu, musa ukuyiqhawula ukuyisebenzisa xa uphulaphule umlingane wakho. Ukuba unako ukuphulaphula-umphumo uza kubuya kuwe ngekhulu.
- Sebenzisa ezamkelekileyo kwiinkcukacha zokuziphatha zentengiso, ngamanye amagama, ukuhlonipha, ukuphucula. Umzekelo: "Ukuba ndakuqonda ngokuchanekileyo, ucinga ukuba ..."
- Cinga ngesimo somlingane kwintetho ngexesha lokuthetha kwakhe kubo. Musa ukukhawuleza ukufikelela kwizigqibo, kuba uluvo olwenziwe nguwe luya kuba luphosakele kwaye luhlukanise umnxibelelwano wakho.
- Kwiinkqubo zonxibelelwano, qaphela isimo sengqondo somlingane, unokufuna inkxaso okanye ngokulinganayo.
- Sebenzisa isenzo kunye nesibonakaliso sobuso ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ngokumodareyitha, kuba umntu uya kuthusa ingcinezelo, kwaye omnye umntu uya kukujonga "engaphila", postnovaty. Jonga impendulo yomnxibelelwano.