Ebomini ngamnye wethu, kukho amaxesha apho kunzima kunzima kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ukuphika umnxibelelwano isicelo. Ngaphezu koko, kubantu abathile, into yokuba ukuthetha igama elithi "hayi" liloyikeka. Emva koko, oku kukwenqabeka, unokukhubekisa umnxibelelwano, kunene? Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ukuba olu luncedo alisoloko luba nefuthe elihle kithi. Indlela yokufunda ukuthi hayi? - yiloo nto ufanele ukucinga ngayo.
Ngoko kutheni kungalunganga ukuba ungakwazi ukulahla?
- Okokuqala, ngenxa yokungabi nalesi sakhono unesiqhelo. Ugxininisa kuyo yonke into, nokuba oko kukubangela ukunyaniseka, kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuyeka ukwahlula iminqweno yakho kwiminqweno yabanye abantu.
- "Ndifuna ukufunda ukuthi" hayi ", kodwa ndoyika" - ukuba uyayazi le mnqweno, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe kuya kubangela abantu ukuba baqhelisele ingxaki-inkululeko. Ungabi naso ixesha lokujonga emva, kwaye sele usufunde ukusetyenziswa, ukwazi ukuba uhlala ulungele ukulibala izinto ozifunayo ngenxa yabanye. Uqhelisela oku ngokukhawuleza.
- Ewe, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukucinga ngexesha elidlulileyo "iintsuku ezingenasifo", ngaba uyazikhumbula ngokumomotheka kunye nesibonelelo esinokuncedisa? Ininzi, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi kathathu, uqhube uqhube umqhubi "ukuba kuthe ..." kusuka entlokweni yakho, uzele ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ukuba wenza oko ufuna ngokukodwa.
Indlela yokufunda ukulahla, ngaphandle kokucasula?
Izizathu eziphambili zokungenakwenzeka kokwenqatshwa - ukwesaba ukucaphukisa, ukwesaba amehlo abuhlungu kunye nokwesaba ukuba abantu bajike kwaye bangalokothi bacele uncedo, ukuba ukhumbula kancinci malunga nawe.
Into yokuqala yokuyenza kukushiya ezo zigwebo. Cinga nje: ngaba uya kunqaba ukuthetha nomntu olungileyo, kuphela ngenxa yokuba akanakukunceda? Emva kwakho konke, uqonda kakuhle ukuba imeko ihlukile. Ngoko kutheni unxibelelwano awanako ukuqonda oku?
Indlela yokufunda ukuphika abantu ngaphandle kokwahlukana nabo?
Impendulo ilula - kholelwa kuwe. Awukulibali nje, akunjalo? Unesizathu, kuba yinto ebalulekileyo okanye ukungafuni ukulula. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, oku kuyinto ebalulekileyo ngokwaneleyo, kuba uqinisekile ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awufuni okanye awukwazi ukwenza oko uceliwe ukuba wenze. Ngoko khumbuza oku, khumbula. Ubomi obuhlala bukho, kodwa kungekhona umthungelwano.
Emva koko, unokukhuseleka kunye nesazela esicacileyo. Ukuba awukwazi nje ukuthi hayi, ngaphandle kokuchaza izizathu-zichaze. Kodwa nje musa ukubandakanyeka kwingxoxo, okanye unokungabikho ngokungahambi ngokubanjelwa kwi-bait kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakho kwakhona. Qinisekisa ngokwakho!
Akusebenzi? Sitshintsha isihloko - khombisa esinye isisombululo kwingxaki, apho ukuthatha inxaxheba kwakho kungabikho mfuneko. Cinga kunye nezinye iindlela. Indlela yokwazi, mhlawumbi uya kufumana ngcono.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthetha inyaniso?
Ubomi bunikwa kanye kuphela, kwaye bufutshane. Iintshukumo zexesha azixhasi. Cinga ukuba kunengqiqo ukuyisebenzisa kwizinto ezinokunyamekela uluvo lwakho, inxaxheba ngenxa yokuthetha nabantu abathile? Khululwa. Funda ukuthetha inyaniso, kodwa, masithi, ukuyifaka kwi-wrapper enhle. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlungu, kodwa busebenza ngaphezu kobuxoki .
Yaye khumbula: ukuthi "akukho" kanye kanye akusikho konke okumele uthethe emva koko, emva kokuba sele usinike ithemba, uze ukhethe ngokungafanelekileyo. Khumbula wena njengomntwana: bahlala ngokuthula bengenaswidi, kodwa xa wanikezwa, kwaye wabuyiswa, kunzima ukucinga ngantoni na, akunjalo?