Uxoka usindiso

Abantu abayinyani, abanamaxoki. Omnye umntu ohlawula ukukhohlisa kwiimeko ezikhethekileyo, ngamanye, ubuxoki buyingxenye yobomi bemihla ngemihla, umntu ulala enenjongo embi, kwaye umntu ukholelwa ukuba ubuxoki bakhe bujoliswe kukuhle. Nantsi into yokugqibela endifuna ukuthetha ngayo, kuba sivame ukuva malunga nomonakalo owonakalisayo wokukhohlisa, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, unokusindisa umntu?

Uxoka egameni losindiso

Ukuze uphendule umbuzo ukuba ngaba uxokayo lufunekayo egameni lensindiso, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda oko sithetha ntoni ngolu ngcamango.

Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxoka ngokusindiswa kudidekile kunye nokuthiwa ngamanga amhlophe. Le nkohliso ehloniphekileyo, ehamba, engafuni ukucaphukisa omnye umntu. Olu hlobo lwenkohliso, umyeni uxelela umfazi ukuba akazange atyebe, nangona iintolo zeesisindo zisondela kumanqaku ayi-100, intombazana ixelela intombazana embi ukuba iyamthanda, njl njl. Olu hlobo lwamanga aluhlali lubangalisa, kwaye kwezinye iindawo zitsho nokuba zihlonishwe. Phakathi kwaloo hlobo lobuxoki nokukhawuleza ngumgca ococekileyo, ukuba umntu uqala ukumbumba omnye ukuze azuze, ke oku kubonakala ngokucacileyo, kwaye akukho mbeko.

Ubuxoki bokwenene bokuba usindiso lunokwahlula zibe zimbini iintlobo: ubuxoki ukuze kuzuze omnye umntu kunye nobuxoki bokunceda kwindawo epholileyo. Uhlobo lo kuqala lubandakanya ubuxoki kumntu ogula kakhulu ukumkhusela kwisibandezelo, ukuxoka umntwana ukuba uyise ungumqhubi wokuvavanya waza wafa njengeqhawe ukuze aziva ephosakeleyo, njl. Kuloo buxoki, abaninzi abanakuboni nantoni na ihlazo, kuba behamba kunye nesazela sabo ngenzuzo yomnye umntu, kwamehlo abo ukukhohliswa okunjalo kuhloniphekile.

Uhlobo lwesibini loxoko olusisindiswa ngalo lubizwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba akukho mbuzo wobukhosi, umntu uziphatha njengomntu ozibambileyo, athethelele iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Nangona kunjalo, abantu badla ngokukhawuleza ekukhohliseni okunjalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo: ukukhawuleza emsebenzini, sisoloko siphumelela imeko yendlela, singafuni ukuya nomhlobo we-shopaholic kwisonto lesithathu ehamba kwiivenkile, sikhumbula intlungu yokuhlamba, umntwana omncinci, owacelwa ukuba ahlale nommelwane kwaye njl njl

Ukuxoka amanga okusindiswa okanye inyaniso?

Yinto engabikhoyo, phakathi kwe nyaniso kunye nobuxoki kwaye akukho nto yokukhetha! Le ngcamango ibanjwe inani elikhulu labantu (nangona i-80% yazo iya kulala ngethuba lithile), baqiniseke ukuba kukho ubungqina bokwenu. Emva koko, ukuba inkohliso ivula, kuya kuba kubi kumkhohlisi kwaye ukhohlisiwe. Singatsho ukuba ubuxoki buyisono, akunakwenzeka ukulala phantsi kweyiphi na imeko kwaye ivelise amaninzi amaninzi, apho ubuxoki bukhokelela kwisisombululo esinzima saloo mqathango, asikho esikolweni seSonto. Thina sonke sibadala kwaye siyaqonda kakuhle ukuba ayiyi kusebenza ngaphandle kwenkohliso, into enjalo ngumntu, kodwa awuyi kulwa nayo. Ngenxa yoko ukhetha phakathi kweqiniso kunye nobuxoki, akufanele ucinge ngeendlela zokuziphatha ngokuziphatha kwakho, kwaye uzame ukuzihlola ngokuthe ngqondweni imeko kwaye uphonononge oko kuya kuba yingozi - inkohliso enomdla okanye inyaniso enentloni. Thatha ubuncinane ityala ngomntu ogula kakhulu. Yithi Ingaba uyinyaniso ngeemeko zakhe okanye akunjalo? Kwaye zonke izinto zixhomekeke kumntu, ukuba uyinto ecacileyo kunye ne-whiner, ngoko ibali eliyinyaniso liza kuphucula imeko leyo, ukunyanzelisa i-crybaby ukuba yenze i-unstuck kwaye ikholelwe ukuba inendlela enye eseleyo-kwi-churchyard. Kodwa ubuntu obunomdla wokulwa alukwazi ukuxoka, ulwazi oluchanekileyo luyashukumisela kwizenzo ezikhokelela ekuphumeni okukhawulezayo. Ngaphezu koko, kuyingozi ukukhohlisa umntu onjalo, ukuba inkohliso ityhila, inzondo enkulu ayikwazi ukuphephelwa, unokukrokrelwa ngokufihlakeleyo inyaniso.

Ngoko naluphi na ubuxoki kufuna indlela enengqiqo, kungekhona onke amanga okusindiswa okulungileyo, kwaye akukho konke ukukhohlisa kubi.