Indlela yokuhlakulela intshutshiso?

Kwenzeka ukuba uqhelane nomntu, ukubonakala kwakhe akubonakali, kodwa uyamtsala ukuba ufuna ukuthetha naye ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Abantu abanjalo banesipho esikhethekileyo sokukhupha abantu abakujikelezileyo ukuba novelwano olungenakuqondakala. Le ngxaki asiyibizi enye ngaphandle kobuhlungu bomntu.

Intsingiselo yesihluthulelo iguqulelwe ukusuka kwisiGrike, njengokuba "ubabalo olunikezwa nguThixo," luphawu olukhethiweyo. Kungoko kukuthakazelisa, nokuba kunokwenzeka yini ukuhlakulela i-charisma kwaye ukuba kunjalo, indlela yokwenza ngayo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba lo mgangatho ungenangqondo, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuwufumana kwinkqubo yobomi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho nabaxhasayo bokuba wonke umntu unesiqalo esibuhlungu, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwe-charisma ngumsebenzi, nangona kungelula, kodwa ngokwenene.

Masihlawule ishishini!

I-charisma iya kuncedwa yizi ngcebiso:

1. Zithande kwaye uzibonge, kholelwa ekubeni uyingqayizivele. Kodwa ngokwenza njalo, jonga umda phakathi kokuzithanda nokuzingca.
2. Yiba nolonwabo, ngokuqhelekileyo uphumelele ekukhanyeni, uqeqeshe izakhono zakho zokunxibelelana, ungesabi ukukwazi nabantu abatsha.
3. Khokela ubomi obusebenzayo, soloko uyenza into, kuba kuhlale kulula ukuba umntu onomdla ukuxhasa incoko, inomdla kwabanye.
4. Thatha ubomi ngokuqinisekileyo, vuka ekuseni kusasa, ujabulele yonke imihla oye waphila, mncama kakhulu.
5. Hlonipha abantu abakujikelezile, funda nje ukuphulaphula, kodwa ukuva. Buza imibuzo malunga nomnxibelelwano, bonise umdla kumntu wakhe.
6. Jonga indlela enxibelelwano ngayo, ngaphantsi kwe-gesticulate, ukuhamba kwamanzi ngokuhamba.
7. I-Charisma yezwi inxalenye ebalulekileyo yemfihlelo ye-charisma. Bhengeza iingcamango zakho, unganqikazi, ngokucacileyo, ngokucacileyo, kodwa uzinzile ukufuna ukuphulaphula nokuva oko uthethayo.

Yintoni ebonakalayo indoda enomdla?

Ukuze uqaphele kalula umfana onobukrakra kwisihlwele, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi impawu ezikhethekileyo eziphathwe ngumntu wesintu. Nceda uqaphele ukuba le ndoda:

1. Ukuzinceda ekuxazululeni nayiphi na ingxaki ayifuni uncedo kwabanye.
2. I-Galantine, ihloniphekile, ibukeka emehlweni, ayibonakaliswa ngokugqithisileyo, ukuziphatha kakubi kunye nokuziphatha okubi.
3. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukhetha umbala omnyama kwiingubo. Ukuba unxibe ityayi, ngoko ngethuba ingxoxo uyayidonsa. Ukuba akukho ntambo, gubungela i-chin.
4. Uya kulala embhedeni, kodwa uvuka ngokukhawuleza. Ikhokelela kwindlela yokuphila esebenzayo.

Abantu abanomdla, banamandla phezu kwabanye. Oku kuyinkalo yenkqubo, inceda, kokubili kwimisebenzi kunye nobomi bomntu, ngoko ungayigxothi ukuphuhliswa kwayo kwaye oku kuya kunceda ukuba uphumelele kuyo nayiphi na intsimi.