Umtshato kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho - le yakhiwo esinkimbinkimbi kakhulu yoluntu wanamhlanje. Ngokwezibalo zobume, ngaphezulu kwengxenye yemishado ebhalisiweyo iyahlukana. Kunzima ukubiza iingxaki ezithile zentsapho-ubudlelwane bomtshato, emva kwakho konke, njengoko uyazi, ngamnye unesizathu sakhe sokungaboni ngaso.
Iintlobo zomtshato-usapho lwentsapho
Ngokuxhomekeke kwinjani uhlobo lwentsapho-ulwalamano lomtshato olusekwa phakathi kwabasandul 'ukutshata, umntu unokugweba nokuba uphuhliso lwentsapho luya kuba nini, abantu bahlala phi ixesha elide. Ngamhla, igama elithi "umtshato" alisoyiki, njengoko ngaphambili, kwaye inani labantu abangena kwimibano yomtshato likhula ngakumbi.
Ngoko, makhe sijonge iintlobo zobudlelwane kwintsapho:
1. Inkonzo yentsapho:
- abasandul 'ukutshata - abantu abasenkundleni emva komtshato kwaye bengakholelwa ukuba banokujamelana neengxaki;
- Ulutsha olutsha - abantu abaye baqonda ukuba olu luthando alunelanga, sidinga ukunakekelwa okungakumbi, ukuqonda nokuthembela ;
- intsapho ekulindeni komntwana - utshintsho olunzulu kulwalamano, uphuhliso lwendlela entsha yobomi;
- Intsapho yobudala obuphakathi (iminyaka eyi-10 kunye) - ukuvela kwezinto eziqhelekileyo, ukungquzulana, kubalulekile ukuhlaziya indlela yobomi nokongeza izinto ezintsha kuzo;
- Intsapho yexesha elide lokutshata - iimfuno ezifanayo, ukukwazi ukuxoxisana kuza kuqala;
- usapho lwabantu abadala asebekhulile (ngokubonakala kwabazukulu) - umoya ophelileyo, inzala kubazukulu.
2. Ngeenani labantwana:
- abangenamntwana (iintsapho ezingama-16%);
- iintsapho ezingenamnye (iintsapho ezingama-50%);
- Abantwana abanabantwana abambalwa (1-2 abantwana);
- kuba nabantwana abaninzi (abantwana aba-3 okanye ngaphezulu, umtshato ushiywa ngaphandle).
3. Kwizinga lobudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho:
- oluzinzileyo;
- phu melela;
- ngqu zulwano;
- ngxaki;
- ntlalontle.
Enyanisweni, iintsapho zingabalwa ngeenombolo ezingapheliyo zeempawu. Emva koko, ngaphandle kweentsapho apho abantwana bakhuliswa ngumama noyise, kukho iintsapho ezingaphelelanga, apho omnye wabazali engekho. Musa ukulibala ukuba uphuhliso lwentsapho-ubudlelwane bomtshato luxanduva lwabatshatileyo.
Izinto ezonakalisa ubudlelwane bomtshato kunye nosapho
Njengomthetho, inkathazo yentsapho-ubudlelwane bomtshato kwenzeka ngexesha elithile: unyaka owodwa, iminyaka emithathu, iminyaka emihlanu, iminyaka engama-7, iminyaka eyi-10, iminyaka engama-20 kunye neminyaka yonke eyi-10. Kuza kube yimini, izinto ezinokunyusa kakhulu amathuba okuqhawula umtshato , zi:
- ukuqhawula okanye ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali bomnye womtshato (okanye zombini);
- ukuhlala ngokuhlanganyela kwindawo yokuhlala abazali kunye nabo;
- Ukuphazamiseka kwabazali kubudlelwane bomtshato;
- ukusetyenziswa ngabafazi okanye omnye wabo utywala kunye neziyobisi;
- ukutshatyalaliswa emtshatweni, ukungabi nethemba;
- naziphi na izilingo ezimbi zomntu omnye okanye bobabini bomtshato (ukugembula, injabulo, njl.);
- Ukwahlukana kwamalungu omtshato (ukuhamba kwezoshishino, indlela yokusebenza yokuhamba, njl.);
- Umsebenzi ophezulu wezakhono zabasetyhini (oku kuthiwa "intsapho yebicarier");
- Ngethuba elide kakhulu okanye elide kakhulu kumtshato;
- ukukhulelwa ngaphambi komtshato (oku kubizwa ngokuthi "imitshato");
- ukuzalwa komntwana kwiminyaka yokuqala 1-2 yomtshato;
- Impikiswano ephezulu phakathi kwabini bomtshato;
- ukungabi nantoni, ukungakwazi ukuba nabantwana bomnye wabatshatileyo;
- ukugqithisa okanye ukukhulelwa ngokomzimba kwimvelaphi yomsebenzi okanye isifundo;
- ukuzingca komntu omnye okanye bobabini;
- elindelekileyo.
Ukuze ugcine ubudlelwane, kuyafaneleka ukuxoxa ngawo: ukusabalalisa imisebenzi, ukuseka "kunokwenzeka" kwaye "kungabi", kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, kungabandakanyi nabanye abantu kuzo. Kukholelwa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba iingxaki zentsapho ziba zikarhulumente, intsapho iyaqala ukuhlukana ngexesha elikhawulezayo.