Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ngendlela engcono yokuphosa umfana. Emva koko, ubugcisa bokuhlukana bubugcisa. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba ungenzi buhlungu imvakalelo yomnye umntu okanye ukuba ungenzi ngokuncediswa kwenkcazo yemakethi.
Ngaba kufanelekile ukuphosa umntu?
Umbuzo wokuqala omele ukuzibuza kuloo meko akuyona umbuzo wendlela enhle ngayo ukuphonsa umfana, kodwa malunga nokuba awufanelekile ukwenza konke. Kulula kakhulu ukushiya kunokulwa nokulungisa imeko, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukulwa kulungile, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunjalo.
- Kufanelekile ukushiya ukuba unobungozi kunye naye kunokuba ungenaye.
- Ukuba yakhe imigaqo kunye nemigaqo iyahambelana neyakho.
- Ukuba awubonakali kwikamva kunye naye.
- Ukuba uthanda kwaye ufuna ubuhlobo nomnye umntu.
- Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luyinkathazo kakhulu kwaye luzaliswe ngongendawo.
- Ukuba amazwi akhe akukhathaza, yenza ukuba uzuze ukuzithemba.
Ungaqhubeka olu luhlu ixesha elide kakhulu. Into ephambili kukuqonda ukuba kutheni ufuna ukuhamba. Uluhlu lwezizathu akufanele lube "enyanisweni, ndifuna ukumthusa ukuba enze okulungileyo." Kufuneka uziqonde wena kwaye uqonde, ngaba ufuna ngokwenene ukuhlukana lo buhlobo, ngaba unesifiso esiqinileyo? Ngaba akunjalo na ukuphindezela? Ngaba ungananto kwaye uyazama ukuyiheha ngale ndlela?
Ukuba konke oko - kungekhona ngawe, kwaye uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba awufuni ukuhlala nalo mntu ungagqithanga, ungahamba ngesibindi. Kodwa ukuba nantoni na ukungathandabuzeki kungena emphefumlweni, cinga, yonke into ixazululwe ngokuthetha okanye ngezinye iindlela zokuthula.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ngendlela yokuyeka umfana oyithandayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kufunekayo kuphela ngenxa yesigwebo sokuziphatha, ukuhlaselwa ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukuhlaselwa, kuba zonke ezinye izifezeko zeqabane lalo ntombazana zivame ukunyamezela. Kule meko, into ephambili ayikulibazisa ukuhoxiswa - ayiyi kuba lula, kodwa uthando olubi kangaka lunokubangela kwimiphumo emibi. Hlalani nicinga ngekamva: ukudala intsapho nomntu onjalo kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, kwaye kulula ukuhamba ngoku kunokubeka phantsi kwefuthe labantwana besikhathi esizayo.
Izizathu zokuyeka umntu
Umbuzo wendlela yokuphosa umntu ngokuchanekileyo, usekelwe kwiimvakalelo ozilawulayo. Bhala phantsi uluhlu lwakho lwezizathu zokuba ufuna ukushiya. Bese uphinde uphinde uphinde ubenokumangalela, kodwa uthathe uxanduva lwakho. Akuyena onokusola ukutshatyalaliswa, kuba yonke into iyinkathazo, kwaye awukwazi ukuba naye, kuba awukwazi ukuma umbane. Ezi rekhodi zisuswe amehlo kwintsuku ezimbalwa, kwaye ubuyele kubo ngokujonga okutsha. Xoxa ngazo zonke ezi zinto kungekho mntu ufanelekileyo: musa ukuxuba apha iingcamango ezizimeleyo zabanye abantu.
Into ephambili kukuba ufumane iingxabano ezibonisa ukuba le nto ikuwe: mhlawumbi umfana unokucinga ukuba kulungele ukulungisa, kwaye yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle, eyona nto ibangela ubuhlungu kubo bobabini.
Ungayiphonsa njani umntu?
Imibuzo enjalo kufuneka ixazululwe ngendlela endala. Akukho mdlalo ekuthuleni, akukho ngcamango efana "nendlela yokuphosa umntu kwi-sms" okanye "indlela yokwenza umfana akuphose". Konke oku kungenxa yamagqabini kunye nobuthathaka. Konke oku kuhambanisa imeko esele ingathandekiyo. Ukushiya kuyimfuneko kuphela kwiintlanganiso zomntu.
Ngaphambi koko, qiniseka ukuba ulinganise yonke into, kwaye ukuba unzulu, yenza okuthile. Ukudibanisa kakuhle kwintsimi engathathi hlangothi, uthathe kunye nezinto zakhe ezisekhaya. Sitshele ngento yokuba eso sinqumo sinzima kuwe, kodwa awuyi kutshintsha kwakhona. Nika zonke iingxabano zakho, zithi ngibonge ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo-kwaye kunjalo. Ngoku unako ukuhamba. Musa ukulibazisa le ntla nganiso.
Musa ukwehla kwiingxelo zokugwetywa, uziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo kwaye uzinzulu. Ngoko iqabane liza kuqonda ukuba oku kusisigqibo sokugqibela. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - akukho nhlobo unganiki ithemba.