Ukususela ebuntwaneni, amantombazana axelelwa ngeenganekwane, apho ukuphela kovuyo, njengommiselo, umakwe ngumtshato oqaqambileyo. Kungokwemvelo ukuba amaphupha enkosana enhle, isambatho esimhlophe kunye nezifungo zothando olungunaphakade zikhula kunye kunye namancinci amancinci. Ngoko ke, umbuzo othi "Ngaba ndiza kutshata?" Awuze ulahlekelwe ukufaneleka kwawo.
Umphakathi wanamhlanje kunye nokuziphatha kwawo okukhululekile awusayikuqinisekisa ukuba umntu ohlala naye ubudlelwane obude naye, uqale ubomi obumbeneyo kunye, mhlawumbi, uqale abantwana, uya kwenza isiluleko esinqwenelayo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Impendulo iyabonakala. Ukuba uhlala uhlala ndawonye ngaphandle kokubangela ukugwetywa kwabanye, kwakunokwenzeka kuphela emva komtshato, ngoku uninzi kuninzi luhlola iimvakalelo, nokuba ngaba ziya kumelana nokutshekisha ubomi. Okokuqala, bakhetha ukwenza ngaphandle kwemimiselo engadingekile, kungcono ukuba bazane, bengayazi ukuba le nto ingabaleka kangakanani.
Ukuthandwa komtshato womtshato kubangela ukuba abaphinda abaninzi bekhohlakele ngaphandle kwebhola yabo kwaye baphoqelekile ukuba bacinge ngokungapheliyo: "Ngaba ndiza kutshata na?" Khangela izizathu ezenza ukuba le holide ingenakwenzeka.
Imfundo yembhangqwana eselula inendima enkulu emtshatweni. Emva koko, ngaphezu kwezi ntombazana eziphuphayo ngomtshato kwaye zigijime malunga nabanqabileyo ngombandela: "Ndingaza kutshata kangakanani na?", Kukho abo bathi: "Andifuni ukutshata!". Abangaphambili bafuna ukuzithemba kwixesha elizayo, kwaye abo bahamba phambili banenkxalabo ngenkululeko yabo.
Ngoku makhe sicinge ngemeko apho yonke into iya emtshatweni. Unomntu othandekayo, uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye, mhlawumbi uhlala kunye kunye. Ziziphi iimeko ezinxulumene nomtshato ozikhathalelayo?
Ndiza kuphinda nditshatile?
Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo, cinga malunga nokuba ubude bunexesha elide kangakanani, njani ubuhlobo bakho buqinile, indlela okhethiweyo wakho inxulumene nomtshato (akuyiyo imfihlo ukuba abanye abantu babona njengento engenanto kunye nenkunkuma yemali), unayo naziphi na izicwangciso Ngaba uceba ukuzala abantwana. Ngaba uxoxe ngale mibuzo kunye neqabane lakho? Ngento. Ukuthetha ngokucophelela kuye. Musa ukuqala ukuhlambalaza ngesihloko esithi "Ndifuna ukutshata," kodwa ngokuzimeleyo ubuze indlela emele ngayo ubomi bakhe kwiminyaka emithathu.
Ukuba akayi kucinga ngentsapho, kodwa uthetha kuphela malunga nokunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, mhlawumbi oku akusiyo isizathu sokumotheka. Ngoku abaninzi abantu banqwenela ukufumana ukuzimela kwabo kwaye emva koko babe nosapho. Ngaphezu koko, umntu unokubuza malunga nendawo yakhe ebomini bakhe, ngoko uthayathele ukuba uceba ukuhlala usondelene naye kwaye uyamxhasa kuyo yonke imisebenzi. Le ngxoxo iya kucacisa inani lamanani abalulekileyo.
Ngokomgaqo, impendulo kumbuzo othi, "Ndiza kutshata nje ngokukhawuleza?" Ngaba ilula ngokwaneleyo: ngokukhawuleza ukuba wena kunye nomkhethiweyo wakho ulungele le nyathelo.
Ngaba ndikulungele ukutshata?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthembeke kunye nawe kwaye wazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyazi kakuhle umthandi wakho, ungamthemba nantoni na, uyaqiniseka ukuba akayi kubaleka, ebhekene nobunzima bokuqala.
Kwaye kukukhangela ntoni emtshatweni? Ukuba le yithuba elilodwa lokubiza zonke iintombi zithi "Ndiza kutshata ngokukhawuleza!", I-holiday pre pre-holiday and one celebration, umntu kufuneka acinge ngezinto eziza kwenzeka emva komtshato. Ngaba ulungele ukusukela kwimini yothando kunye neprose yokuphila kwansuku zonke. Khawucinge ukuba ungakanani ixesha onokuzidela kuwe, kwaye uninzi kangakanani umsebenzi wendlu. Enyanisweni, zonke iindaba zamabhere ziphela ngomtshato, kodwa ndifuna ukuba zibe ngonaphakade. Kodwa ebomini kunye nazo zininzi iingenelo. Kwaye kwindawo yakhe ukuba uthando olufudumeleyo nomoya wokuzithemba luza kufaka isikhundla sothando oluvuthayo. Emva kwakho konke, umtshato uya kufaka inxalenye yeembopheleleko kwiqabane lakho, oko kuthetha ukuba unokuzicwangcisa ngokuphepha abantwana kwaye ufumane ngokuqinisekileyo impahla edibeneyo.
Andiyi kutshata!
Isalathisi esinokubhaliweyo singakuvakala ngokusesikweni kwisini esifanelekileyo. Kwaye, nangona uluntu oluqhubela phambili, luvame ukubonwa ngobutshaba. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukucinga nje ukuba kutheni le sigqibo senziwe. Mhlawumbi loo nto intombazana idangeleke kakhulu kumadoda (kwaye kungekhona kwimeko yakhe), kodwa inokuba yanele ngokwaneleyo ukuhamba ngesibindi ebomini yodwa, ayifuni ukuxhaswa ngumntu, kwaye akafuni ukwabelana naye ixesha kunye nomntu. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, umntu ngamnye unoxanduva lwakhe lonwabo, ngoko unelungelo elifanelekileyo lokwenza izigqibo ezinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba zisekelwe kwiimeko ezibuhlungu, ukulungiswa kwengqondo kuyimfuneko.