Ukwahlukanana ngezinye iinkqubo kuba yindlela kuphela yokuphuma kwimeko ephosakeleyo nedidekayo. Yaye ukuba umfazi engazi indlela yokuxelela umyeni wakhe ngokuqhawula umtshato, uya kuncedwa ngcebiso yengcali yengqondo.
Ndingamxelela njani umyeni wam malunga nokuqhawula umtshato?
Ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nomyeni wangaphambili, ukuthetha ngokuqhawula umtshato kufuneka kwenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Enye yeemeko ezibalulekileyo kukuba kugcinwe uxolo kunye nokungabikho kweendleko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iqabane liza kufuna ukwazi izizathu zezigqibo, ngoko kuya kufuneka ulungiselele ingcaciso.
Inani elinqabileyo leentsapho liyahlukana ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Kwesinye seziqalo zokuqala uhlaselo . Ukuba umfazi unobungqina obungenakuphikiswa bokungathembeki, akukho mfuneko yokuchazela nayiphi na into, xelela umyeni wakhe malunga nalo. Kwaye ukuba ukuphikiswa kungabonakali, kodwa kukhankanywa, kubalulekile ukucacisa kumlingane ukuba ngaphandle kokholo kwintsapho akukho nwabe.
Ngexesha elifanayo, isizathu esilula nesicatshukisayo kukungafani kwabalinganiswa. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, xa ama-hormone ephakamileyo, ukungafani kubalinganiswa kubonwa njengento enomdla, abathandi bathanda ukuxhasana. Kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha le ntlukwano ibe ngumthombo ongapheliyo weebango kunye nokuhlambalaza.
Esinye isizathu esiqhelekileyo sokuqhawula umtshato sikhathala komnye nomnye, kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla, ukungabi namali. Ezi zizathu zenza abantu bacaphuke kwaye bangacineli, ngenxa yoko yonke imvakalelo efudumalayo eyayiqala ngayo intsapho.
Ziziphi amagama achanekileyo ukuxelela umyeni wam xa ndiqhawula?
Iindaba malunga nomtshato zatshutshisa umyeni wakhe, ngoko kwintetho kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba lesi sigqibo sasingelula kumfazi. Emva koko simele sichaze isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato, ngelixa kunqweneleka ukukhupha iinkcazo kunye namabango. Ngexesha le ncoko, kufuneka usebenzise ixesha elide ukuthetha isibizo esithi "mna", kungekhona "wena."
Ukuba umyeni uhlukile kumntu onobungqingili kwaye ongenakuqikelelwa, akufuneki ukuqala ukuthetha ngomtshato ekhaya kuphela. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuzilawula, imiphumo ingaba buhlungu.