Xa uqala ukuphandana, yonke into yayilungile: ukutshata okuhle, ukuhamba ngothando, yonke into yayibonakala iyintsikelelo, kuba udibana nenkosana yangempela! Wayeyindoda kwaye wayenomdla, kwaye ukusuka kwintlanganiso yokuqala uziva ukuba lo mntu unenjongo enzulu. Nangona kunjalo, emva komtshato, yonke into ishintshile: ngoku akayiyo inkosana, kodwa i-scoundrel, kwaye ayiyindoda enentlonelo ehloniphayo nayiphi na intetho yintombi yentliziyo yakhe, kodwa umtyholi wasekhaya ovalele umfazi wakhe kwiintsimbi zensimbi ze-ego yakhe, ebiza ngayo ngeendleko zakhe. akunakwenzeka ukuba ungayifaki, ungagcini umbhede ngenye indlela, cinga indlela endithethe ngayo, musa ukuya kubahlobo bakho, uzikhiphe ekhaya uze ukhohlwe ngezinto zonke ezingakhathaleli intsapho.
Ungaphila nomyeni wakho ungumtyholi?
Umtyholi kwintsapho yinkathazo enkulu, kuba kulo mzekelo umlingane wakhe uhlala ehlaselwa ukuthotywa nokunyanzeliswa kokuziphatha. Indima yomcinezeli inokuphinda idlalwe yinkwenkwezi enamandla nakwimilinganiselo yokuziphatha kunomntu, kodwa amaninzi amaninzi kwiintsapho ngabayeni. Ukuphila nomtyholi akuyona into elula, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukugcina intsapho, ungazama ukudibana naye, kwaye ukuba oko akuncedi, kuya kufuneka uqoke iisuthi.
- Indlela yokuthetha nomtyholi? Kuye kungcono ukuba ungathethi: mhlawumbi ungathuli okanye ulandele. Fumana isikhundla esomeleleyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kwaye, ukuqala kuyo, unqwenela kwii-quibbles zayo. Ndahlamba izitya ngokungahambi kakuhle, kodwa akuzange zihambisane naye? - makazihlambe. Musa ukuvumela abahlobo bakhe kwi-cafe? - kakuhle, vumela isihlwele samakhosikazi eze endlwini yakho xa efuna ubumfihlo kunye noxolo. Mbeke kwiimeko eziphazamisayo zengqondo, njengokuba akwenzayo.
- Indlela yokuziphatha nomtyholi? Indlela yakho yokuziphatha kufuneka ibe nzima ngakumbi kunayo. Awuyintombazana engakwazi ukuphendula ngegama elihlambalazayo okanye isenzo, kodwa ubuntu obusayi kumvumela ukuba angazihloneli. Funda ukugcina izithembiso zakho, jonga ukusilela kunye nehlazo. Makhe azive enkundleni yakho ngeenyanga ezimbalwa, kwaye ke unokuhlala phantsi kunye kwaye uyavuma. Umsebenzi wakho ukuphula ubuntu bakhe, njengoko enqwenela ukukwenza nawe.
Kuthekani ukuba unomyeni onobuqili?
Ngelishwa, kubalulekile ukulwa nomyeni onjalo kuphela ngeendlela ezizisebenzisayo. Yiba nengqiqo uze ukopishe izenzo zakhe, amagama, indlela yokuziphatha. Amadoda anomsebenzi wesikolo, kwaye ukuba, ngokomzekelo, ujwayele ukufundisisa ngokukhawuleza umphumo womsebenzi wakho, wuleza ngokukhawuleza ukuba udlale uphando lonke: ingabe isikhonkwane siyabhalwa ngokufanelekileyo? Kwaye emva koko, luququzelele ikhonkethi ngeengxabano, luhlobo luni lwezandla ezingenayo, unjani na "umhlobo" wakhe, ukuba akazange afundise unyana wakhe kumsebenzi womntu, njl njl.
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulahla indoda yomtyholi, sebenzisa iimpawu zakho ezinamandla ezinokuthi umlethe kumda xa eqonda ukuba uziphatha kakubi.
Ndingathini ukubaleka kwindoda yomyeni wakhe?
Ukuba ayitshintshi, kwaye zonke iinzame zambangela ulwaphulo oluninzi, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuba inxenye. Nangona kunjalo, le nto ayilula, kuba iidemon ziyanqandwa kwaye ziqwalasele abathandekayo babo njengomntu onjengezigqila ezihlala phantsi, omele ahlale esondele kunye nokukulungele impi ukuthobela.
Ngoko, indlela yokukrazula umyeni womtyholi:
- Ungazami ukumkholisa, ngenjongo yokubangela ukungafuni;
- ukunyamekela oko akuxabayo kuwe, uziphathe ngokukhawuleza uze uthule;
- bathi awuyithandi;
- ukuqokelela izinto, ukuthatha abantwana kunye nefayile yokuqhawula umtshato, ngaphambi kokufumana umsebenzi kunye nokuqokelela izindlu.
Ungaziqonda njani umtyholi?
Ukuze ungalokothi utshatile umtshato, qwa lasela uhlobo lomntu kunye nomsebenzi wakhe:
- Phakathi kwabantu basemkhosini bahlala bexhatshazi, ingakumbi abo abangenalo isikhundla esiphambili: aba bantu bayayithobela umsebenzi wabo bonke ubomi babo, kwaye akumangalisi ukuba ekhaya bayafuna ukuba ngabalawuli. Nangona kunjalo, phakathi kwala bantu ngamanye amaxesha kunamalungu omzimba amnandi, abathembekileyo nabathembekileyo abatshitshiweyo abangayi kushiya umzuzu onzima, abayikwesaba umsebenzi ongcolileyo kwaye banengqiqo.
- Ukuba umntu osemncinci kwiintlanganiso zokuqala ugxininisa ukuba unqabe into ethile (umzekelo, ukusuka kumkhwa ombi) kwaye uzama ukunciphisa - oko kuthetha ukuba unobuntshontsho.
- Nangona umntu ekwazi ukuyibeka ngokufanelekileyo ukuthambekela kwakhe kobuqhetseba, unokwazi ukubona "imikhuba" sele isele kwintlanganiso yokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, isigqibo sokuba i-movie ibukele okanye yiphi indlela yokuya kwi-cinema kumtyholi kukuba ukhethe ngokwalo ukuze ubonise ukubaluleka kwayo.
Umbono wobudlelwane nomtyholi uxhomekeke ekubeni umfazi uya kuba nako ukukhusela amalungelo akhe kwaye aqinisekise ukuba igama lakhe alilo lokugqibela. Thatha umzekelo kwiikati: ezithambileyo, iintambo ezithambileyo azithethi ukukhuseleka, kuba zifihliweyo, zihlala zikulungele ukuhlwaya umoni.