Ukuxolela ukunyaniseka?

Umbuzo wokuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa kunzima kakhulu kwaye kubini, kuba uhlala uva: "Ngaba kulungele ukuxolela?" Iimeko zihlukile, ngoko ke kunzima ukuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo indlela eya kuphuma kuyo iya kuba yedwa yinyaniso.

Ngaba ndimele ndixolele ukungcatsha?

Lo mbuzo uninzi, kwaye ukwenza kube lula ukuphikisana, siya kuqwalasela indawo encinci - ngaba umntu unokuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni? Eyona nto ithetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kule meko, kuthetha ukunyaniseka. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko nganye, yonke into iyodwa:

• ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umyeni uyakhohlisa kuwe, kwaye unentsapho yesibini okanye uthando kumacala, ngaba kufuneka ukuba uxolele ukutshatyalaliswa? Esi senzo somntu sinemiphumo eyinkimbinkalo kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kule meko.
• ukuba kuvela ukuba indoda yakho ye-crystal yenzeke iphutha kwindawo yokuxhatshazwa, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukuxolela. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba oku akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona, kuyafaneleka ukuvumela ukuhamba kwimeko;
• ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntu wakho unobunzima be-donjuan yaye ngoku rhoqo uqala abatsha nabasetyhini, bayeke kwaye bacinge malunga nokuba uxolele ukuthengisa? Sekule nqanaba kuyacaca ukuba indoda ayinakukwazi ukunyaniseka nhlobo.

Ukuba kunzima kuwe, uzive uphukile kwaye uqaphele ukuba awuyi kukulibala le nto esondeleyo - ukungcatsha akunakuxolelwa. Uya kuhlupheka ngaphandle kwakhe, ukubulala ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokulahlekelwa amathuba okuzonwabisa. Kodwa ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba ngaphandle kwayo uya kuba nzima kunokuba naye, akukho mqondo wokuphula ubudlelwane.

Indlela yokuxolela ukunyeliswa komyeni, umama, intombi?

Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kufuneka ufunde: ukuxolela ukulibala. Ukuba unqwenela ukuqhubeka lo buhlobo, awukwazi ukubuyela kwidlulileyo kwaye ukhumbule lo mzuzwana kuzo zonke iingxabano. Emva koko, le ndlela yokubuyisela indawo enokubakho kakuhle kwintsapho yinto engenakwenzeka, kwaye akukho mqondo wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane.

Musa ukukhawuleza kumbuzo wokuxolela ukutshutshiswa komntu othandekayo. Le yinkqubo ende, apho ungaphuma khona kwiinyanga eziliqela. Zama ukungabandakanyi yonke into eya kukukhumbuza le nyaniso. Kuyafana nakwabanye abantu abasondeleyo - umzekelo, umama okanye intombi. Ukuba ugqiba ukuxolela umntu, qiniseka kwisigqibo sakho kwaye ungalokothi ukhankanye le meko kwiingcamango okanye kwiingxoxo.

Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukutshintsha imeko, phumula, unakekele. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye nomntu onikhathazayo ngokunyanzela - oku akuyi kuvelisa iziphumo ezilungileyo, kodwa kuya kubangela ukuba imeko ilukhuni.