UMark Twain, owakubonayo ukuba, akukho mntu uza kubeka isohlwayo ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle kweentloni.
Kwaye, kunjalo, kunjalo. Emva koko, umntu onokuzihlaziya angayifumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko - akayi kuthatha kakhulu. Ukuba kukho into engathandekiyo eyenzekayo, ewe, ufuna ukucaphukisa kakhulu, nokuba, mhlawumbi, ukukhala, udandatheke. Ukungabi namandla kwabantu (okwenene okanye okubonakalayo), njengokuba kunjalo, ubuyela ebuntwaneni, xa kwakungenakwenzeka ukuphazamisa inyaniso ngenxa yobudala, kodwa kwavela kuphela ukukhala, ukufuna imfesane kubadala. Kodwa ngoku akukho mntu uyazisola, iminyaka yobudala ayifani, kwaye abantu abadala sele beziva bezisola ngabantwana babo. Oku kwenza kube kubi nakakhulu, kwaye umntu unobandezeleka.
Yintoni into yokuhlaziya?
Eyona ndlela, ukuhlaziywa ngumntu oyimpawu ekuvumela ukuba uphathe le meko ukususela ekuqaleni. Umntu onokuzihlaziya angakwazi ukuphakama ngaphezu kweemeko, uqaphele kunye nekrele lakhe elihle, nokuba lihlaziya elimnyama. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukufa komntu okanye isifo esibi akusisona sizathu sokuzonwabisa, kodwa kungekhona malunga neziganeko ezinjalo, kodwa iziganeko ezingathandekiyo kakhulu: wawela phantsi kwekhontrakthi emsebenzini, walahlekelwa ipasipoti yakhe, abamelwane bamkhukula, baqhekeza imoto, baphonsa othandekayo ... Ewe, oku, mhlawumbi, yintlekele yobomi bonke. Kodwa oku akusiyo yonke impilo. Okulungileyo kuya kuqhubeka. Kodwa oku akuchazi kumntu onzima ngoku. Uhlobo oluhle lokuhleka umdla lunceda umntu ukuba angabonakali kwiingxaki, uzibeke ngengqondo aze akhangele imeko ngehlazo.
Ngokubhekiselele kwinto yokuhlekisa, akukho ngcamango ekhoyo phakathi kwenzululwazi okanye abantu abaqhelekileyo. Iingcaciso ezininzi ezinokuthi zinokuqwalaselwa.
Umntu ozihlaziyileyo uhlaziyileyo. Kunceda ukudlulisa oko kunzima kakhulu, kungenakuxhomekeka. Ekulweni, baqulunqa ama-anecdotes, ngaphandle koko awuyi kuphila!
Ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukunyamezela uxinzelelo, kufuneka uhlekise. Ungazivumeli ugxume elwandle lolunxunguko . Bhala ngezinyembezi. Oku kulandela ukuba abantu abangenanto yokuzihlaziya bahlala nzima ngakumbi kunabo abanomdla.
Ingqiqo yimiqondiso yengqondo. Kwaye abo baneengqiqo ezinengqiqo, iingcamango kunye nokuzibandakanya, banomdla onamandla kakhulu.
Kodwa ubuchule bokuhleka buxhomekeke kwimfundo. Ulwazi kunye ne-erudition vumela umntu ukuba aqoke ihlaya elihle, elifihlakeleyo nelingabonakaliyo, ngelixa abantu abangafundanga ngezinye izihlandlo baxhamla engqondweni yabo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nendlela ehloniphekileyo ngayo nokuba umntu ukhubekile ngezohlazo. Hayi, yena ngokwakhe ufumana "umyalelo wokuvuya kunye nomoya omhle", kwaye abanye baya kuhlupheka. Oko kukuthi, ngumntu onobugwenxa, ongenomdla kwaye ongenakuhlonipha. Kodwa oku kuhlekisayo, kunye nomntu "okhohlakeleyo" wachaza ngexesha lomthendeleko womkakhe ukuba unotyebe, njengendlovu: ukubonakala kwitrama kuya kukhula, kuba yinto enobungangamsha kuneendwendwe ezingazange zihlekise le ntlanzi.
Ekugqibeleni, umntu oqiqayo, akasoze avumele ukuthetha ububudenge okanye ukunyaniseka, amahlaya akhe athambileyo aze athabathe uvuyo kubo bonke, angabangeli mntu.
Isalathisi soxinzelelo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka, umntu onjalo kwaye ubona ukuba amahlaya akhe aphumekanga, kodwa akakwazi ukuyeka. Le yimeko ekulungele ukuxinezeleka. Kubalulekile ukuphatha izinto ezinjalo ngokunyaniseka, njengomntu onokuvuyela ukukhwehlela, kodwa akaphumi. Kwaye, ke, ungayiqwalasela izinto ezinjalo: ngoko yena uya kuba neentloni.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, izazinzulu zidibanisa ukuzonwabisa kunye nobuchule. Kukho konke, zichanekile, kuba ihlaya elincinci alisiko le-bile, kodwa isenzo sokudala.
Makheke ebomini bethu kuza kuba namahlaya amahle kuphela, angenakulimaza ngokuba "aphilileyo", kodwa yiletha kuphela uvuyo kwaye ujabule.