Kuphosakeleyo ukutsho ukuba izazinzulu ziye zafunda uhlobo lokuzimela komntu kwiminyaka emininzi. Kule nje nje ufumene uphando olunzulu. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuzimela komntu ngumntu othile "I", ukukwazi ukuzihlukanisa nokusingqongileyo.
Ukuziphatha ngokwazisa ngobuntu
Ngomntwana osemncinci, wonke umntu uhamba ngexesha lokuqulunqwa kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha. Kubantwana abancinci, abazali kunye notitshala ngumzekelo wokulingisa, kwaye ulutsha luvame ukuphulaphula ngakumbi ilizwi labo langaphakathi kunye namava abo. Ngethuba lokuqala, umbono ngamnye wendalo uyakheka, i-worldview iguquka emva kwexesha. Ngethuba lokukhula, kukho ukuzinza kobuqu: kwiingcinga zeentombazana okanye umntu osemncinci ocinga malunga nokuzimisela ukubaluleka kwazo kweli hlabathi.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba umgca wokuziphatha kwabantu unquma ukuqonda kwakhe intsingiselo yobomi. Ukuba yiyona nto inobuntu, ingabi yingozi kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo, ke oku kuya kunika amandla okuziphatha kumntu onjalo. Ukongezelela, oku kubakho kwangaphakathi kuya kunceda ekuxazululeni iingxaki zobomi eziye zavela. Ukuziphatha okulungileyo kukunceda ukuzama ukufezekisa, ukuphuhlisa nokuqinisa amandla okuthanda, amandla . Umxholo wemilinganiselo yokuziphatha inokuthetha okuninzi ngobuntu bomntu. Ngamnye wethu uxabisa ixabiso lethu, ezinokukwazi ukuchonga uhlobo oluphambili lomsebenzi wabantu kwaye, ngokubanzi, uphuhliso lwayo oluqhubekayo.
Ukuzibonela ngobuntu kwengqondo
Akukho phuhliso lobuntu lunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokwazi kwayo. Oku kuvela kumzuzwana wokuzalwa komntu kwaye unokutshintsha kwinkqubo yokubunjwa komntu. Umntwana ngamnye uyahlukana nabanye, kodwa ngexesha lokudibanisa nehlabathi elijikelezile, uyaziqonda ngenyameko indima yabanye abantu. Ngaloo ndlela, uyazibona, ulungelelanise izenzo zakhe, phantsi kwakhe, ngokubanzi, phantsi kovavanyo lwabantu abadala, ngokwamvo abo ngaye.
Ukuzimela kwakha kunye nentuthuko yengqondo, de kube malunga nokukhula. Ubuntu buziphatha ngokuhambelana neembono zabo ngehlabathi, abanye abantu, malunga nabo kunye nolwazi oluqokelelweyo. Umntu ngamnye uvela kumboniso, uhlalutyo lwezenzo zakhe, iingcamango.
Ngenxa yesiseko sokuzimela, ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kuthiwa zenziwe. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuzithemba kobuntu obangela indlela yokulawula eyenza umntu aphuculwe. Kwaye ukuqonda kunye nokwazi ngokwamntu kungenakulinganiswa. Umntu wokuqala unokuqhuba imisebenzi yakhe, umsebenzi, kuphela kusekelwe kwisibini.
Ukuziqhelanisa nokuzibonela ngobuntu
Ukuphucula ukuzimela komntu kuhambelana nokuzimela. Ngokwakhe, umntu ngamnye uzama ukuphucula ulwazi, izakhono kunye nezakhono. Ubulumko buntu abuyazi imida yenkolo, isayensi, ubugcisa kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngokweengcinga ezininzi, ukuziqonda komntu kubandakanya ukufumana umdlalo ophezulu phakathi kwamakhono akhe kunye neemeko zesicelo sabo. Ngale ndlela kunzima,
Xa usombulula ingxaki yokuziqonda, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba kuqondwa ukuqonda kwangaphakathi. Ukugqibelela kuza kusebenza ngakumbi xa kuthotyelwe kwiinjongo ezithile, ngoko ke, umntu ngamnye kufuneka afune ukuba yintoni kanye ekufuneka ayomeleze kwaye akhule kuyo. Emva koko, akunakunyanzeliswa ukufezeka, kodwa ukungafezeki kwayo, ngokuqhelekileyo, kuthatyathwa ngokumangalisa.
Ngamnye wethu kufuneka afunde kwaye ahlolisise ukuzimela kwethu. Ngokusekelwe kulo, sinokukwazi ukuzimisela iimfuno zethu, ulwalathiso ekuphuhliseni kunye nombono wobomi. Ngaloo ndlela, siya kufunda ukuqonda iinjongo kunye neziphumo zezenzo zethu, kwaye siyazi ukuba ngubani ngokwenene.