Kungekudala, ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva isigama esithi "ukhathele ngobomi", kwaye akukhathazeki ukuba umntu uneminyaka engakanani kunye nokuba yintoni isimo sakhe sezenhlalakahle. Ngamanye amaxesha kufika umzuzwana wokuziva ungenakunceda nokungaqondi. Mhlawumbi, akumangalisi ukuba unina oomama abathathu osebenzayo uthetha ngokukhathala ebomini, kodwa kutheni abantu abaphumelelayo abakwazi ukufumana izinto ezininzi bathetha oku, kubandakanywa nokusebenza imihla ngemihla?
Inyaniso kukuba, ngokomthetho, akukona ngokukhathala komzimba, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba negalelo kwilizwe elidakile. Kanye kanye umntu uyaqonda ukuba akukho nto imkholisa kwaye ayimangalisi, uxhonywe ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye uyazibandakanya kwimisebenzi engenakho intsingiselo.
Kutheni kwaba nzima ukuhlala ngokukhawuleza?
Apha ungaqala ukuthetha ngesantya esiphezulu sokuphila, ukugeleza okukhulu kolwazi, iimfuno ezingenayo, umsebenzi onjalo kunye nezinye iimpawu zobomi banamhlanje. Kodwa unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nale nto yonke ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni ukwenza oku.
Akudingeki ukuba uthethe, intombazana ehamba imihla ngemihla emisebenzini engathandekiyo kwaye ibekezelele abaqashi be-quibbling, kungekudala okanye kamva baya kuthi "Yonke into. Ndidiniwe, andifuni ukuhlala njengalokhu. " Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba le yindlela ephela yokugcina imali yokuya eIndiya, ephuphayo ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-10, umsebenzi uya kuba lula.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukukhathala ebomini kuya kuziva ngabo bantu abangaqinisekanga ukuba baphila ngokufanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi, ukuba baphile njengokuba kunjalo ngoku, abazali babo babeye bafundisa, kodwa bona bafuna enye into. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uguqule into kwaye ufune intsingiselo yakho. Enyanisweni, ukukhathala ebomini kunokunxulumana nokukhathala okungapheliyo, kunzima kakhulu ukunandipha into xa umzimba uphelile, kodwa le yinkinga ebalulekileyo yezinto ezifunekayo ekufuneka ixazululwe phantsi kolawulo logqirha.
Yintoni ongayenza xa ukhathele ukuhlala?
Izenzo zilula kwaye zifikeleleke kuwo wonke umntu.
- Ungavumeli ukukhathala komzimba - zama ukungazibasebenzi ngaphezu kwesiqhelo, ukuphumla ixesha elaneleyo, udla kakuhle, ulahle imichimo eyingozi, ungayikhohlwa malunga nomsebenzi oqhelekileyo kunye nokuhamba rhoqo emoyeni omtsha.
- Khumbula indlela ophupha ngayo ebuntwaneni bakho kwaye ucinge ngezinto othanda ukuzenza ngoku. Yenza amaphupha azaliseke, kaninzi ujonge ngokwakho ngamathandle amnandi.
- Fumana intsingiselo. Injongo yobomi inokufumaneka kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo, umntu ubona kubantwana nakubantwana, kuba umntu uququzelele ekuphuculeni, umntu ufuna iimfuno zokuzonwabisa, njl njl. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kubalulekile ukuhlala into ethile, kwaye kungekhona nje loo nto, ngoko kuya kuba nzima.
- Ukuthetha nabantu abanomdla. Fumana ixesha lokuthanda intandokazi kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye nabantu ababelana ngesithando sakho ukuze ufunde into entsha kwaye uhlale uphucula. Le ngenye yeemeko ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuzibophezela ngokwabo, nto leyo
Kubalulekile ukwaneliseka ngobomi ngokubanzi. - Sitshintsha indawo yokujonga. Mhlawumbi akuyi kuba lula, kodwa isimo sengqondo esilungileyo ebomini senza kube lula ukujamelana nobunzima kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ujabulele amaqabunga anjengefu elingavamile esibhakabhakeni, ingoma enhle kwirediyo okanye itiye elimnandi.
- Kodwa kunzima ukunika iingcebiso zekhonkrithi eziza kufezekisa ngokukhawuleza olo tshintsho. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka emva kokucinga kade, ngamanye amaxesha ingcinga enye. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukutshintsha imbono yobomi kwathintela iincwadi ezinzulu okanye iifilimu ezasimangalisa ngokwenene, okanye ukuthetha nabantu abashiya umkhondo ojulile. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba oku kwenzeka ngexesha lokulungele ukutshintsha.