Kwilizwe lethu elikhulu nelilize, ekuphishekeleni imali kunye nezinye izinto eziphathekayo, ngamanye amaxesha abantu bajonga ngeenxa zonke baze baqonde ukuba bodwa bodwa. Nangona iifowuni, i-Intanethi kunye nokuqhubela phambili kwezobuchwepheshe, umbuzo othi ukufumana abahlobo usaphila. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuhlali ejele kwaye wenza umgudu, akuyi kuba nzima ukufumana abahlobo.
Ndingafumanaphi abahlobo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo sifumana abahlobo apho, apho sihamba khona rhoqo: esikolweni, eyunivesithi, emsebenzini okanye kwizifundo ezongezelelweyo. Ukuba ungabona umntu ofanelekileyo kule mimandla esondeleyo, unganqikazi ukungena naye. Buza ngemicimbi yakhe, fumana into efanayo phakathi kwakho, unike uncedo okanye ucele uncedo. Ukuba uya kuhlala ube nobungane, uvelwano kunye noqhagamshelwano, kuwe akuyi kuba yingxaki yokufumana abahlobo.
Nangona kunjalo, kukulungele ukuzama ukufumana abahlobo ngeminqweno. Ukwenza oku, misela iimfuno zakho kwaye ubhalisele kwizifundo ezifanelekileyo. Iyakwazi ukuqhuba isikolo, isikolo sesithombe, umdaniso okanye ukuqina, izifundo zeelwimi zangaphandle okanye ukuthunga nokuthunga. Khetha enye apho abantu banokuba baninzi ngesini kunye neenjongo ezifanayo. Kule meko, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba wenze abahlobo, kuba kukho njalo umxholo oqhelekileyo. Le yindlela enhle yokufumana abangakumbi abahlobo nanini na ubudala.
Ukongeza, unokufumana abahlobo ngokunxibelelana ngqo kwindawo ohlala kuyo, ingakumbi ukuba awuhlali kumashishini abucala, kodwa kwisakhiwo sezindlu. Unganqikazi ukuba uqhelane nommelwane kwaye ubingelela rhoqo xa udibana. Ukuba ubonisa umdla kumntu, ngoko unokuba nomdla kuwe.
Iintanethi zentlalo kunye namaforamu kwi-Intanethi zinika indawo eninzi ukuze zifumane abahlobo ngeposi. Indlela elula yokwenza oku apho abantu bafuna iingcebiso okanye bancede: ngokucetyiswa ngempumelelo kumntu, uya kufumana kumbulelo kunye nomdla kuwe, kwaye
Indlela yokufumana umhlobo ongcono?
Enye ingxaki kule ndawo ihlala ivulekile. Awuze uqikelele apho uza kudibana nomntu oza kuba ngumhlobo wakho omhle, inkxaso kunye nenkxaso. Kwakhona, njengoko kunzima ukuqagela indlela yokufumana abahlobo bokwenene. Konke oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ngetyala kunye nephutha. Kwaye ukuba umntu wayengenjalo-qhubeka nje.