Logic

Yintoni esiyayaziyo malunga nengcamango yomntu, ngaphandle kokuba yinto (ngokungafaniyo neyesetyhini), kwaye isinyithi? Kwaye akukho nto. Ngaba ke kuyamangalisa ukuba singathandabuzeki ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukuqonda umntu? Kuhle ukuba yonke into ikulungele, ngoku siza kucinga indlela amadoda acinga ngayo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza siza kuqala ukuqonda ezi zidalwa eziyimfihlakalo.

Amadoda acinga njani?

Yibamba intloko yakho, ungayazi indlela yokuqonda ingcamango yabantu? "Ngaba umntu uyayiqonda ngaphandle kwamadoda ngokwawo? Konke okufuneka babale, baqinisekise, ngokukhethekileyo kunye nezixhumanisi kuMgaqo-siseko. Kwaye ngaphezu kwe-intuition, ezi zilwanyana ezingenabubele zihleka nje! "

Mhlawumbi umntu uya kuvuma ngala mazwi, kwaye umntu uzakukhawuleza ukubonisa ukuba amadoda akakho konke oko. Into ehlekisayo kukuba nganye yamacandelo aya kulungile ngendlela yabo. Ngoko, abantu bacinga njani, yintoni isicatshulwa sabo esekelwe kuyo?

1. Ingcamango yabantu isinyithi, kuba iyakhiwe kwiinyaniso. Akukho mntu uya kwenza izizathu, acacise uluvo lwakhe, acinge ngamarhweba kunye neentlebo. Yingakho badibanisa kwi-intuition yethu, akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo. Buza, kutheni ke, iinqununu zethu ezinamandla, zixhobile ngesixhobo esinamandla njengengqondo yomntu, zihlala zilahlekelwa yi-intuition yabesifazane? Kulula, umfazi unobuthakathaka ngokomzimba kunomntu, kodwa unikwe isistim esithembekileyo (intuition) njengembuyekezo. Ikuvumela ukuba uqwalasele utshintsho oluncinane kwimeko kwaye ufikelele kwizigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Kodwa ingqiqo ayikwazi ukwenza oku, kulungile kuphela ukuxazulula iingxaki ezingenangqiqo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa zijongene neziganeko zangempela, ziqinisekiswa ngokucacileyo ngengqondo yendoda, ukuchithwa kweengxaki kuphazamiseka.
2. Ukucinga komntu kusekelwe kumbono oqhelekileyo womfanekiso, abanomdla kwizinto ezincinci. Eli bhinqa liya kuqwalasela iinkcukacha, ukuhlalutya, ukujonga iinkcukacha ezincinci. Yingakho umntu akakwazi ukubona utshintsho oluncinane ekubonakaleni komntu othandekayo. Into ephambili ekhangelekayo iyabonakalisa, kwaye luhlobo luni lobunwele - unobomi okanye igolide - alukhathazeki.
3. Ingqiqo yamadoda iyaqaphela idatha eyomileyo kuphela: amanani, amaqiniso. Akukho mbala ongokomzwelo, ukucaca kuphela nokucaca. Abafazi bahlala bexhomekeka kwiimvakalelo, ngokwenene intuition kwaye basebenze kwizinto ezincinci zemizwa. Kodwa ukususela kumadoda alolo hlobo aluyi kuphuhliswa, ke abayidingi imvakalelo ekuhloleni imeko. Ngoko ungamangaleli umntu wakho ngenxa yokungabi nantoni na ukuba ubuze umbono wakhe ngokubonakala kwakho. Ngokunyanisekileyo uzama ukukunceda, nje ukukhangela amaqiniso, ukuze azinze uluvo lwakhe.

Indlela yokuthetha namadoda?

Kuyavela ukuba bahluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye njani ke ukuthetha nomntu, ukuze akuqonde?

Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda akhathazekile ukuthetha, angaboni injongo yencoko-ingxoxo engenanto malunga nemozulu, kodwa ayifuni "i-blouse" kaTanya. Ndixelele ngokuthe ngqo oko ufunayo kwi-interlocutor yakho. Kwaye ke, into ehlwempuzekileyo, iya kulahleka kumgca wakho wamazwi kwaye uya kuthukuthela ngokusungula ixesha elide. Kwaye uzive ungenakunceda ukuba ungamthandi nawuphi na umntu, ingakumbi amadoda angayithandiyo nomnqweno wabo ongunaphakade wobukhokeli.

Unganqikazi ukubuza imibuzo. Kodwa kwakhona kufuneka zichazwe, kwaye kungekhona nje "indlela izinto ezisebenza ngayo." Okokuqala, kumbuzo oceliwe ngako, uya kufumana ukuthungqwa komzimba. Kwaye, okwesibini, umbuzo onjalo onganamdla ufana nokuqala kwengxoxo, kodwa umbuzo wobubele. Indoda iya kuthatha ukucinga ukuba awunomdla, kuba unganamdla emsebenzini wakhe.

Zonke iingcebiso ezifihlakeleyo zishiye incoko kunye neentombi-abahlobo. Indoda ayinakukwazi ukuyiqonda, okanye iyayiqonda, kodwa ayikho yonke indlela oyifunayo. Isicatshulwa singabonwa njengomzamo wokusebenzisa, okungekho mntu uya kuzinyamezela.

Ngoko umgaqo ophambili wokunxibelelana ukunyaniseka nokuchaneka, kwaye kuya kuba lula ukuba umntu akhulume, kwaye siza kuzisa umyalezo wethu kuye.