Ngaba uyazi indlela yokwenza umntwana wakho angonwabi? Indlela eqinisekileyo ayiyikuphika nayiphi na into. Ngokuqinisekileyo, le ndlela yindlela elula, kwaye abaninzi abazali bayayikhetha, ukugxotha izizathu zokugqibela ekugqibeleni yonke into iya kudlula. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana uyasetyenziswa ngokukhawuleza "entle" kwaye kwixesha lakhe iimfuno zakhe zikhula kuphela. Uninzi lwawo unako ukwanelisa, kodwa kuya kufika ixesha apho kufuneka uthayathe kwaye akukho nto iya kuqala ngalolo hlobo lwesibindi, okubizwa ngokuba yi-permissiveness. Ngelishwa, kule meko, kaninzi ayingabantwana abakugxeka, kodwa abazali babo. Ngoko yintoni inkululeko kunye nokuvumeleka?
Ukungafunyanwanga kubangela ukuvunyelwa
Namhlanje amaxesha okuvumela ukuvunywa kwimpilo yethu anele. Njengomthetho, abantu abajwayele ukuphila "okukhululekile" okunjalo bazichaza bona "oothixo" kwaye bakholelwa ukuba akufanele bahlwaywe, kuba balelwa ukuba bakhululekile. Kukho izizathu ezibini ezibangela ukuba abantu baziphathe ngale ndlela:
- Ukungabikho kwengqondo.
- Ukuqhelana
Ngamanye amaxesha inkululeko iyaqondwa njengemvume, kodwa eqinisweni ayilungile. Ukuba ucinga ithende, inkululeko yindawo yayo, kodwa ukuvumela ukuba kubekho phantsi. Zikude kakhulu kangangokuthi azikwazi ukuthelekiswa. Imvume ivelisa i-chaos kunye namaqabunga ngokwayo ukutshatyalaliswa, okusoloko kunako ukulungiswa. Ngaba kufuneka sixoxe ngombuzo othi: "Yintoni enokubangela ukuba imvume iholele?"
Kubomi bomntu wonke kuza ixesha apho kufuneka adinge imida yakhe. Oku akunjalo kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukubeka imithetho yakho kwaye uhlala nabo ngaphandle kokuqaphela imithetho ekhoyo ngokubanzi. Ngokuphambene noko, kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa imimiselo engathandekiyo kuphela kuwe, kodwa kuluntu ngokubanzi. Kwaye isazela sakho siya kuba ngumqondiso wokunyaniseka nokunyaniseka.