Ngamanye amazwi, ukuphambukiswa ngokwesini kukuphambukiswa ngokwesini ekuziphatheni komntu. Yintoni ehamba ngaphaya kwemimiselo eyamkelekileyo yobomi besondo. Nangona kunjalo, kwintlanga nganye, ngexesha elithile, le miqathango yahluke, sinokukuchonga iindidi eziphambili zezinto ezingaqhelekanga, ezijongwa njengeengxaki ezinzulu zeengqondo.
Uluhlu lwezocalulo zesondo lululandelayo:
- fetishism. Umntu ufumana ukukhangwa ngokwesini kunye nokwaneliseka emehlweni alo nxalenye ethile yomzimba, impahla, into, efanekisela umlingane;
- ukuguqula. Kule meko, sithetha ngokunyanelisa iminqweno yesondo ngokugqoka iimpahla zesini esahlukileyo;
- mboniso. Indoda ithola ukwaneliswa ngokwesondo xa ibonisa izidalwa zakhe zobulili kubantu abangabazi;
- Voyeurism. Unqwenela ukuhlola ubulili, abantu abahamba ngeze. Inguqulelo yakhe yenzondelelo yokuzikhumbuza;
- i-pedophilia. Enye yezona ndlela ezinzulu kunye neyingozi zokuphambuka kwezesondo. Kuququzelelwe ekutsaleni kwezesondo kubantwana;
- sadomasochism. Ukuvuyela ekubangela nasekuveleni ubuhlungu, umnqweno wokulawula umlingani okanye isikhundla esingaphantsi.
Ukuphambukiswa ngokwezesondo kwiintlekele eziselula kuyinto eqhelekileyo namhlanje. Ukutshatyalaliswa ngokwesondo ekufikeni kwentsha kunzima nje kuphela ngenguqu yenyama, kodwa nangokweengqondo. Ukungaphelelanga kokuchonga ngesondo kubangela ukuba i-sex drive eyaziwayo kwaye iphakanyisiwe. Kule nkalo, ubuhle bokungaphambuki ngokwesini buphezulu kakhulu. Kwimeko yengcinezelo ekhethekileyo kukho abantwana abaneminyaka engamaxesha ambalwa abadonsela kuyo, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ikhula ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuphambuka kwezesondo kwiintsholongwane kuxhomekeke ngqo kwiimeko kwaye zisesigxina. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, iintlobo ezifanayo zeengxaki zivame ukudlula. Ezi ziqhelekileyo zezi zi:
- I-Voyeurism (ukuhlola nge-naked, ukubukela iphonografi);
- mboniso;
- unomdla ogqithiseleyo kwizitho zangasese zabantwana abaselula okanye izilwanyana.
Ngezizathu kunye nezindlela zokonyango
Ukuphambukiswa ngokwezesondo akusisifo. Unonophelo lwonyango luyadingeka kuphela ukuba ukuphuka okunjalo kubangela ukuba umntu angakhathazeki ngengqondo kunye neengxaki. Ezi zilandelayo zivela ngenxa yokubonakaliswa kokugwetywa komthetho (ukuguqulwa, ukukhwabanisa).
Ukunyangwa kwezocalulo zesini kusebenza zonke iintlobo zobugcisa beengqondo. Ukongeza ekunciphiseni umnqweno wesondo ongavumelekanga, unyango lujolise ekuncedeni ukwamukelwa njengomntu. Kwiimeko apho umdlalo usongela uluntu, naluphi na iindlela zokulwa nokugula kwezesondo ezisetyenzisiweyo. Ukongeza kwindlela yokwenza unyango olungabandakanyekanga kwiimfanelo zomthetho.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba kunjalo ukuphambuka? Izizathu zokungalingani ngesondo zingabonwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:
- ukuzalwa kofuzo;
- intlungu yengqondo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo;
- ukungaphumeleli kwemvelaphi ye-hormonal;
- ukuphulwa okungafaniyo ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yabantu;
- ukuphulwa kophuhliso ngokwesondo;
- uhlobo lwesifundo sezesondo.
Isizathu esibalulekileyo esifanele siqaphele ngokwahlukileyo sisifo sengqondo somntwana ebuntwaneni. Oku kunokusetyenziswa kakubi kwabantwana kubantu abadala, imbonakalo yengozi yobundlobongela ngokwesondo okanye ukulala ngesondo, njl njl. Ngoko ke, xa ukhulisa umntwana, umntu kufuneka akhumbule uxanduva olubazali.
Khusela impilo kunye nengqondo yomntwana.