Ucinga ntoni, yintoni impawu efundiswa kubadlali beemfuno ezikhethekileyo kwindawo yokuqala? Amandla okuba neemfuyo okanye iindlela zobugcisa bokulwa? Kwaye akukho apha! Okokuqala, i-agents ezikhethekileyo zifundiswa ngokukhawuleza ukuzola nokuzilawula. Emva koko, ngulo mgangatho owenza ukuba kube lula ukuvavanya imeko ngoku kunye nokufumana indlela ekhawulezileyo nangendlela efanelekileyo. Ngelishwa, akubona sonke sisebenzisayo, kodwa unokufunda indlela yokuzincama ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthathe ukuzilawula kwiimeko ezibucayi. Makhe siqwalasele ukuba zeziphi iingcebiso zengqondo ze-psychologists ezikunike ngolu hlobo, ziziphi iindlela eziza kukufundisa indlela onokukhawuleza ukuzola.
Indlela yokuzincama ngaphambi komcimbi obalulekileyo?
Masithi unomcimbi obalulekileyo phambi kwakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ulungiselela, umzekelo, ukuhlolwa, asiyikwesaba, kwaye yonke into ibonakala ngathi icace kakhulu kwaye iphelile. Nangona kunjalo, kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuba ungene kumgca wokulinda, njengoko inkqubo yethu yeentlanzi iqala ukudlala ihlaya elinobuhlungu nathi. Sizungezwe ngumonakalo, kunye neentliziyo ezikhawulezayo, ukuphefumula okufutshane, ukudideka kweengcinga kunye nabanye. Makhe sijonge iingcebiso eziphambili eziza kukufundisa indlela yokuzolalisa ngaphambi kokusebenza, ukujamelana nawe ngaphambi kokuvavanywa, indlela yokuzincama phambi kokuba udliwano-ndlebe okanye intlanganiso ebalulekileyo yezoshishino, kunye nendlela yokuzincuma ngaphambi kokuba udibane nomntu onohloni.
Ukuba unemizuzu embalwa nje, ukuphefumula kuya kunceda. Baya kunciphisa ukungabikho kwemisipha engadingekile, kuya kuzalisa umzimba kunye nengqondo kunye ne-oksijini kunye neentliziyo zokuzola. Thatha ukuphefumula ngeempumlo zakho, uphumelele emlonyeni wakho, ucinge kuwe. Bhala kwi-score ukusuka ku-1 ukuya ku-5, kwaye uphume kwi-6 ukuya kwe-8. Zama ukuzalisa isisu esiswini ngomlilo, wasasaza esifubeni kwaye ungaphakamisi amahlombe.
Abantu abaninzi abanesifo sokungabikho kwemimoya bacebiswa indlela yokuzolalisa phambi kokuhamba kwendiza. Eli xesha linzima kakhulu ixesha emva kokubhalisa kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ubalekele ngokwawo, xa unamaxesha amaninzi olahlayo. Zama ukuqwalasela uloyiko lwakho ngendlela ethile, umzekelo, ibhaluni, ecacileyo phambi kokuba amehlo akho aphephe kude, kwaye ngoku ayibonakali. Ukuba oku kunzima, zama nje ukuphazamisa, ufunde okanye uhambe kuthengisa kwi-moya. Unako ukusela i-50-100 grams yotywala, kodwa ingabi ngaphezulu.
Indlela yokuzincama emva koxinzelelo oluninzi?
Kuya kuba kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokuzincama kwisimo esicinezelekileyo, umzekelo, indlela yokuzincama emva kokudabuka okanye ukuxabana. Ngokuqhelekileyo iingxaki kunye nokucacisa ubudlelwane basifumana kakuhle kwindawo yokusebenzela, ngoko kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kwiindlela zokuzincama emsebenzini, nokuba ungaqala njani ukulila emva kokuba umlawuli ukhawuleze okanye uxabane nomnye osebenza naye.
Emva kokuxabana, okokuqala, kufuneka uhlaziye ulwalamano lwakho kunye nengxabano eyenziwe. Gcoba phantsi, uphinde uphefumle, ukhululeke imisipha yakho. Zivale ngathi ukuba ngaphezu kwimeko, jonga kuyo ukusuka phezulu. Kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ingxabano yimizuzu yokusebenza yosuku lwakho, akukho nto engaphezulu kwayo. Endaweni yomsebenzi, wonke umntu udlala ngemithetho ethile, kwaye akufanelekile ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba umxhaphazi wakho uyazivumela oko, akufanele unqothule kuye, unamandla kwaye unobulumko, ubona ukuba imeko ingathathi nto.
Indlela yokuzolalisa ngaphambi kokulala kwaye unqobe ukulala?
Ukulala, ngamnye wethu uhlalutya umhla wakhe, wenziwa kuyo, uhlangabezana nazo zonke iingxaki kwakhona okanye sele esethusa ngokuzayo. Makhe sicinge ngendlela yokuzinqabisa ngaphambi kokuba ulale, ukuze eze kunye nokuphumla okupheleleyo, indlela yokuzincama emva kweengxaki zeentsuku kunye noxinzelelo kunye nokulala.
Zama uhlalutye zonke iingxaki ezidlulileyo nezayo kwikomnye, umzekelo, ngaphambi kokutya. Hlala phantsi uze ubhale phantsi yonke imibuzo ekukhathazayo kwaye ucinge ngesisombululo kubo bonke abantu. Ukuhlobisa iphepha, baya kuthatha indawo encinane entloko yenu. Sebenzisa igumbi lokulala kunye nombhede kuphela ukulala kunye nolwalamano. Yakha kwigumbi lokulala indawo efanelekileyo yokuphumla. Kucacile ukuba ucinge usuku lwakho lokugqibela kunye neengxaki ezikuloo mgumbi.
Ewe, ingilazi yobisi olufudumele kunye nobusi inxila ngaphambi kokulala. Ungadli ngokukhawuleza uze udle ukutya okunesonka kunye nokutya, kuba ukutya okunzima kunokubangela ukuba uxhalabe. Thatha ibhola yokuphumla kunye neoli efunekayo ye-lavender okanye i-valerian, i-decoction yeenaliti okanye i-chamomile, ukusela i-decoction ye-herbal okanye i-herbal sedative.