Isidima sokudumala sisoloko sishiya emva kobuhlungu bokungabi nalutho-kuloo nxalenye yengqondo apho iimbono zethu, ithemba kunye namaphupha agcinwa, ngokukhawuleza kufakwe indawo engqonge ngayo, ukuvalelwa kwintliziyo kunye nokuphelelwa ithemba. Ukudumala ngokukhawuleza kuhamba kunye nokuxinezeleka, okuhambelana neqiniso lokuba asive ngathi njengabaphathi bobubomi bethu.
Masicinge ngento edidekileyo kuthetha ngayo kubantu: kumhlobo okanye ngabahlobo, izalamane, abasebenzi kunye nabo, njl. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu akazange aphile ngokubhekiselele kulindeleke. Omnye umntu, njengoko kuvele, akanalo iimpawu zesihloko esazinike zona. Cinga ngeyona nto ibalulekileyo kule nkcazo. Ngokuchanekileyo: "sasithemba", "sicinga", "sasilindele". Kwaye sadimazeka. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ungeze kwi intlungu yokudandatheka, khumbula ukuba umntu othukutheleyo akanalo iimpawu okanye iinjongo ozibhengeze kuye. Ukudumala okukhulu kukuba, njengommiselo, zethu iingcinga ezingalunganga. Ngamaphupha, sikhuphuka kakhulu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo sibuhlungu ukuwa.
Ewe, ukuqonda oku, kukho isilingo esinzima sokuqala ukubeka isigwebo: ngenxa yokuzithemba ngokweqile, ukuphupha nokuphupha. Kodwa khumbula amazwi kaSarah Churchill: "Ukuba usenakho ukudimazeka kubantu, ngoko usencinane." Ungalokothi uzisole: sonke sinabantwana nje kweli lizwe, kwaye sonke sinelungelo lokwenza iphutha.
Indlela yokujamelana nokukhungatheka ngabantu?
- Yeka ukucinga abantu kunye neziganeko. Uninzi lwezinto ezidakisayo zisekelwe kulo mkhuba.
- Thatha uxanduva malunga nento yonke eyenzekayo kuwe. Njalo umzuzu kunye nokuguquka kweziganeko kuyiphumo lezenzo zakho nendlela yokucinga. Yithatha ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye ungatshintshisi abanye, ngaloo ndlela uzithintele ngamandla akho angenamkhawulo.
- Thetha uze u phu laphule. Kudideka kakhulu kubantu kubangelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba asikwazi ukuthetha kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuva. Hlonipha iingcamango neemvakalelo zabanye, thetha ngezinto ozilindele kuzo, kwaye uphulaphule kakuhle impendulo yabo. Ungaphenduli iimpendulo zabo kunye nezicwangciso ezazisele entloko yakho. Mamela kwaye awuyi kudanisa.
- Ukushiya ilungelo lokuba abanye bahluke kuwe. Qaphela ukuba enye indlela yokucinga "ayiphutha." Ukuthatha ithuba lokuba nobukho bemibono eyahlukileyo, kwaye ungahluleli umhlaba ube mnyama nomhlophe, ukwandisa kakhulu imida yolwazi lwakho kunye nombala wakho ubomi ngemibala eyahlukileyo.
- Musa ukugxotha zakho iimvakalelo. Ukuba uziva udidekile, buhlungu kwaye buhlungu, yamukele. Ungabi neentloni ngeemvakalelo ezimbi, sele sele zikhona, kwaye kule nqanaba yobomi kuqhelekileyo. Esi sifundo esidinga ukuba sidluliselwe, kwaye oko kukuvumela ukuba ube bhetele kwinto ethile. Esikhundleni sokuhlala kwiimvakalelo ezimbi, cinga ngezinto ezilungileyo.
- Ukudumala okupheleleyo kukuxinezelekile. Ziphazamise ngokubeka iinjongo kunye namathuba amatsha. Kule nto, kwakhona, ukuhlalutya kweengcinga zakho kuya kunceda. Umzekelo, ukuqonda oko
udidekile kumhlobo, musa ukuvelisa imvakalelo kwimiba yobomi ngokubanzi. Khangela isizathu sokuzibonakalisa kuwe, uxubane nabanye abahlobo kwaye ube ngumhlobo wangempela kwabanye. - Ukuthemba abantu nobomi. Ukuba ufuna into, ungalindelanga kwabanye, kodwa uthembele kubo. Ukuthintela ukuthembela, wenza ubomi bakho buhlupheke.
- Yenza isithandwa sothando. Ezi zimbini zivakalelo azifani nanye, okokuqala-kukunciphisa amandla, kwaye okwesibini yenza inkosikazi yobomi bakho. Ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, zuza ngokuzenzekelayo ukubeka ithemba elingakumbi kwabanye.