I-Maximalism ininzi kakhulu kwiintsholongwane, kodwa abanye abantu bayithwala ngokwabo ngobomi babo. Le ndlela yokuphila ibonakalisa ukuthambekela kokugqithisa kuzo zonke izinto: kwiimfuno, kwiimbono zobomi, kumabango abo. Kuba abantu abanjalo kunomnyama nomhlophe kuphela - kwaye akukho mthunzi omnye wegrey. Azinamathelisi, azibekelelanga kwaye zinzima kakhulu kunxibelelwano. Intsingiselo yegama elithi "maximalism" (ukusuka kwisiLatini esona sikhulu, esikhulu kunazo zonke) lithetha umnqweno wokufezekisa yonke into kanye, kunye nomlinganiselo omncinci.
Ubuninzi bobuncinci: iminyaka
Njengomthetho, i-maximalism kwimo yayo ecocekileyo ivela xa umntwana engasengumntwana, kodwa engekaba ngumntu omdala, oko kukuthi, ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-13 ukuya kwe-17. Ngamanye amaxesha imida ingatshintsha. Kule minyaka, abantwana beqala ukuqala ukuphikisana nabazali babo , bekrokrela abangenakukwazi ukuphila ngobomi banamhlanje, kwaye uluvo lwabahlobo kubo, njengommiselo, lubaluleke ngaphezu kwebhunga lomzali. Ngako ke inani elikhulu lezinto ezingenangqondo kunye nobudenge bokuba abantwana bahlala besenza ngexesha elinzima.
Iintsholongwane zikhanyela yonke into exabiswa ngabazali babo, kwaye idibanisa ngokukhawuleza kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeenkampani zentsha kunye neengqungquthela , apho wonke umntu ecinga ukuba zinjalo - ukuhlula ngokuthe ngqo phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi kwaye akukona ukuqonda okukhethiweyo. Iintsholongwane zicinga ukuba abantu ababaziyo ubomi, bayakudibanisa kakhulu - yaye ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuhlala belula, banomdla kwaye banandipha!
Ukuvutha komsindo, ukukhawuleza, ukuzingca, kunye nokuntula kwamava okuphila kubakhokelela kubantwana ukuba babe neziphumo ezimbi kakhulu - kodwa lo bubomi, kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka enze iimpazamo zakhe.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngexesha lethu unako ukudibanisa nabantu nabantu abadala, abanobuchule bokuziphatha okuphezulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala kungabonakali xa umntu omdala, esele efumana amava amnandi emva kwakhe, uqhubeka esuka kwinqanaba eligqithiseleyo.
Ubuninzi bobuncinci kumantombazana
Kwinqanaba lesetyhini, esi sigaba sinomdla ngokukodwa. Intombazana eyadlala idodoli kwiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo, ngokukhawuleza iyaqonda ukuba ixesha le midlalo lidlule. Ukulungele ukulwa nazo zonke iinjongo zakhe ezitsha, ufuna yonke into kanye, kwaye "ebuthathaka" ulungele ukwenza nantoni na, ecinga ukuba ubonisa ubungqina buntu bakhe, kwaye akabonakalisi ubuthathaka bakhe.
Kulo thuba amantombazana aqala ukuvavanya okungaqhelekanga kunye neengubo zokukhangela ngaphezulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunye neli "nqanaba lokukhula" amantombazana azama, ukuxelisa abahlobo abanolwazi, ukutya kunye neziqhamo ezingavumelekanga, nokuba isondo, utywala, ukutshaya okanye iziyobisi. Oku, mhlawumbi, yinto engafanelekanga, kuba i-psyche ephosakeleyo ivela ngezinye izihlandlo yingozi kakhulu.
Ubukhulu: njani unokuzuza?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu enika i-maximalism - oku kungamandla amakhulu. Ukuba uyiqondisa ngendlela elungileyo, unokuzilungiselela isiqalo esihle kwisiseko esihle ebomini.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukuba sele ikhona ngaphambi kokuqala kokukhula, umntwana wagqiba kwizinto ezithandwayo. Abo bafana ababandakanya ukudansa, ezemidlalo, ukudweba kunye neminye imisebenzi yokudala ethatha ixesha elininzi lokukhululeka, njengommiselo, abanako ukujongana nemiphumo emibi ye-maximalism, njengemizamo "yokukhula" ngokukhawuleza. Yaye ukuba intombazana okanye insizwa inomdla wokufikelela eninzi kwintsimi ekhethiweyo, iinjongo ezihamba kunye ne-maximalism ziya kuba yinto ekhuthazayo eyongezelelweyo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukubeka iinjongo zangempela kwaye uhlale uya kubo, kwaye ungazami ukunqoba kuyo yonke into ngaphandle kokulungiselela kwangaphambili.